Shannon LC Cate

I have been writing about family, parenting, politics and religion since 2000. My work has appeared on Babble.com, Literary Mama.com, in Adoptive Families Magazine, Gay Chicago Magazine and elsewhere.  I live in Chicago with my partner, CL Cole and our daughters, Nat and Selina.  My debut novel, Jack, is available from Musa Publishing. You can find it anywhere e-books are sold.

Does My Child Have to Be Better Because She's Black?

I've had teachers say it to me. Lots of my mentors said it. Once, a supervisor at work mentioned it. I've overheard folks telling their own children, educators telling other people's kids, and I'm sure that I've even said it a time or two in my years of teaching. ...more
We haven't said this to our children in so many words, but we think about it all the time. But ...more

How Come I'm the Only One Who Kept My Maiden Name?

My name is Christie O’Brien Tate. It's the name I’ve had all my life.  It will always be my name, even though I'm married with two children, and I'm the only one in my household with the last name Tate.  For as long as I can remember, I planned to keep my maiden name.  Long before I read the work of Betty Friedan or Catharine MacKinnon, I knew I wanted my name to stay with me. Sometimes when people ask me why I kept my maiden name, I joke that I'm horrible with paperwork, so there's no way I was going to schlep down to the DMV to update my driver’s license. ...more
I have to ask why it is such a forgone conclusion that the children will have the father's name. ...more

My Husband Hates My Blog

I know a lot of bloggers who describe their husbands as their "biggest fans." I have always been so jealous of these women. My husband was a fantastic cheerleader when my blog began humbly nearly 14 months ago. And then it began to evolve, taking on a life of its own that I could have never predicted.  My blog slowly became the "other man" in my life, and my husband did not appreciate it. ...more
I'm sorry, but I find the husband's behavior in this piece troubling. I am supposing he has a ...more

An Adoptive Mom Speaks: Who Is Looking Out for Baby Veronica's Best Interest?

As an adoptive parent and an adoption professional who works in the foster care system, I have been very interested in the case of "baby" Veronica since it's inception almost four years ago. I have followed the ins and outs, ups and downs. I've read articles, court briefs, and blog posts. I don't watch TV news and in a way I think that may be a good thing here. I have no preconceived notions about either party based on their demeanor or media slant based on what network aired the interview(s). ...more
@adoptive mom You are so right. And this is not going to end well unless it ends immediately, ...more

"Baby" Veronica Is Growing Up: ICWA, 2 Families, & Now an Arrest

After the Supreme Court decided against a biological father in the so-called “Baby Veronica” case two months ago, I found myself worried not just for the family in the case, but for adoption in general. Adoption is riddled with misunderstanding and the mainstream media tends to exacerbate the problem rather than clarifying. ...more
@Ravenspeaker Thank you for being in the comments to explain this further, from an Indian ...more

"Baby" Veronica Is Growing Up: ICWA, 2 Families, & Now an Arrest

After the Supreme Court decided against a biological father in the so-called “Baby Veronica” case two months ago, I found myself worried not just for the family in the case, but for adoption in general. Adoption is riddled with misunderstanding and the mainstream media tends to exacerbate the problem rather than clarifying. ...more
@Ravenspeaker  @StephenKonig  @karengh You make an excellent point. If this were a foster ...more

"Baby" Veronica Is Growing Up: ICWA, 2 Families, & Now an Arrest

After the Supreme Court decided against a biological father in the so-called “Baby Veronica” case two months ago, I found myself worried not just for the family in the case, but for adoption in general. Adoption is riddled with misunderstanding and the mainstream media tends to exacerbate the problem rather than clarifying. ...more
@Lorraine Dusky It really is ugly to see them stretch to paint him as having "abandoned" his ...more

An Adoptive Mom Speaks: Who Is Looking Out for Baby Veronica's Best Interest?

As an adoptive parent and an adoption professional who works in the foster care system, I have been very interested in the case of "baby" Veronica since it's inception almost four years ago. I have followed the ins and outs, ups and downs. I've read articles, court briefs, and blog posts. I don't watch TV news and in a way I think that may be a good thing here. I have no preconceived notions about either party based on their demeanor or media slant based on what network aired the interview(s). ...more
@AlexKing3rd And thank god it did.more

"Baby" Veronica Is Growing Up: ICWA, 2 Families, & Now an Arrest

After the Supreme Court decided against a biological father in the so-called “Baby Veronica” case two months ago, I found myself worried not just for the family in the case, but for adoption in general. Adoption is riddled with misunderstanding and the mainstream media tends to exacerbate the problem rather than clarifying. ...more
@StephenKonig For what it's worth, I don't consider myself less real or deserving than a bio ...more

An Adoptive Mom Speaks: Who Is Looking Out for Baby Veronica's Best Interest?

As an adoptive parent and an adoption professional who works in the foster care system, I have been very interested in the case of "baby" Veronica since it's inception almost four years ago. I have followed the ins and outs, ups and downs. I've read articles, court briefs, and blog posts. I don't watch TV news and in a way I think that may be a good thing here. I have no preconceived notions about either party based on their demeanor or media slant based on what network aired the interview(s). ...more
@nikonMom To clarify, it isn't about him being "some part native American." The ICWA is a ...more