Bonnie Ratliff

Owner of The Shape of a Mother, a blog focusing on body image after pregnancy with the intent to shed light on what is truly normal. I also write at Zebrabelly about my life, feminism, personal and spiritual growth, motherhood, being the daughter of an alcoholic hoarder, and my own struggles with mental health.

I Feel So Wide and Disgusting (Anonymous)

I’am 19 years old, I have two children ages 3 & 3 months both by natural vaginal births. My first (my son) was born when i was just 15 years old. Prior to my first pregnancy i was 160 pounds, it was a decent weight for my height which is 5’11″ ....more

It’s like that Greek myth where Pandora cracked open Zeus’ brain and all the crazy came out, leaving him refreshed and way less assholey.

I’m in the midst of cracking shit open right now. The cauldron of my psyche is boiling and shit’s bubbling up to the surface that I never knew or consciously realized. I feel like I’ve been in that dark forest that a hero is supposed to head into to fight the monsters and I’m finally finding my way to the caves where the monsters live instead of just hiding in the darkness, too overwhelmed with all the new sensations to move ....more

Depressed, Disabled New Mommy (Anonymous)

im 20 years old and its my first baby. ive really never talked to anyone about this is im always scared to. but i dont like how my belly looks ....more

SOAM Birthday Giveaway!

It’s that time of year again! The earth has circled the sun eight times since I started SOAM one day while my little children were napping. Now my children are all big and almost teenagery and SOAM is a worldwide website with more than 100,000 visitors every month ....more

Where can you find SOAM online?

A quick roundup of the social networks SOAM and it’s sister-site (the now defunct, yet still active on social networks) TIAW. Come join us! The Shape of a Mother on Twitter ....more

I Love Being a Mum! (Alice)

30, one pregnancy and birth via Cesarean I love my post-partum body. I basically look the same, with slightly bigger boobs and softer-rounder belly, with extra belly skin that I did not have before. My body is the constant reminder of the precious life I created, and for that, I am eternally thankful ....more

My rage is a day late cause misogyny makes me tired.

Yesterday I was stricken with some mysterious fatigue. Probably it was my body’s intuition that the SCOTUS had done another horrible fuckass thing and I should just make a point to stay in bed and not try to join in the human race yesterday. But tiredness isn’t a clear enough language so I got up anyway, read the news, and then decided to go back to bed ....more

Where I get emotionally naked for you.

For most of my life, I didn’t actively choose my life’s direction. I have often described it as allowing myself to be carried by the current of my own personal river, or by following the strong, yet subconscious, pull of my own Oak Tree. I don’t know if this was a good thing or a bad thing, to just allow myself to be passive about where I went ....more

Thoughts on Yosemite

Google Maps might tell you that Yosemite is about 6 1/2 hours away but that is a dirty lie. Yosemite is actually 6 1/2 light years away and when you add in three or so breaks at about 20 minutes each you won’t arrive at your campsite until exactly 10 hours after you left the house at six am. And you’d want to stab all the people when you finally arrived except that YOSEMITE and you have actually zero desire to stab anything all all ....more

Update (Elizabeth)

I’d like to add on or submit a new story for your site. I already have an entry here. Since then, I have had one more baby ....more