Tamika Lanelle

A 30 something educated single mother of one. Loving God and loving life. Sharing advice, opinions and thoughts with women about love, men, friends, family, style, money,  sex, and dating to inspire, encourage, warn, and encourage growth. I am by no means a trained specialist or certified expert. Experience is the best teacher and learning from other mistakes keeps away a lot of heartache. With an open mind and open mouth I'm lending my voice. Opinions are like booty holes. Everyone has one and I'm sharing mine! (Not my booty hole, just my opinion LOL)

I have never considered myself to be a writer or that I could have an impact on someone's life by what I have to say. I accidentally found my voice on my personal Facebook page with my random status updates. This eventually lead to a Facebook page created with my best friend called Talk To Keione Tamika where we engaged our friends in random topics and got their points of view. Now here I am with my own page and speaking my mind on whatever it is I want to share with the world. I find my joy in writing this blog and hope you find joy in it too. To know me is to love me...Get ready to fall in love.

DNR-R (Do Not Resuscitate Relationship)

Exes are exes for a reason. People always want a second chance and we sometimes feel compelled to give them one. We like to reason that they may have changed their ways or they have grown and are different, but 9 times out of 10 they are still the same. If he was a cheater when you were together the first time, then chances are he is still a cheater….just better at his craft. If he was abusive physically, verbally, or emotionally then he more than likely still is abusive. Don’t put your life at risk for him, you got out the first time, you may not be so lucky the second....more

Why Are You Still Single?

This question aggravates me to no end. I hate when men ask me this question. It’s not like I haven’t asked myself this question a couple times, but to hear it fall out of someone else’s face gets on my nerves. I think it is rude and inappropriate. There are many factors as to why I am single and I don’t owe any explanations to anyone with regards to why. What further kills me is when he then blames me for being single by following the question up with “What’s wrong with you?” Why is it that there has to be something wrong with me?...more

Dear Baby Daddy

I wanted to take this opportunity to say thank you. I don’t believe that you get too many of those from your baby momma(s). I think you are more used to hearing about all that you aren’t, all that you don’t do, or just plain negative words steaming from a broken heart. I don’t want to add to all the negativity that has beaten you down in years past and kept you out of your child’s life. I mean really, who wants to come around and put themselves in a situation that is full of hostility and uncomfortable for all....more

How Do You Mend A Broken Heart?

We have all experienced heart break at one point or another. Sometimes we are the heartbreakers and sometimes we are the heartbreakees. It can be a rough experience for all parties depending on the circumstances. But how do you handle it when you are the one experiencing the heartbreak? What do you do when the person you love doesn’t feel the same way about you and leaves your life? Unfortunately, we were never advised on how to deal with this type of emotional trauma and are left to figure it out on our own....more