The Orange Rhino

I, The Orange Rhino, am a stay at home mom to four BOYS ages 5, 3 1/2, 2, and 6 months and ironically I can't stand noise or chaos so I yell. After getting busted yelling one day I crafted The Orange Rhino Challenge: my promise to my boys to go 365 days STRAIGHT without yelling. It's a bit crazy, I know, but I love them so much that I am willing to undertake this crazy challenge of not yelling!

 

Tips to Make 2014 the Year You Stop Yelling at Your Kids

Guilt. Anger. Disappointment. Sadness. Hopelessness. I felt all these things and more every single time I yelled at my four boys, ages six and under. It's now been 328 days since I have yelled, and I am more than grateful. I share my story with you so that you too can get rid of those awful feelings and make this the year of no more yelling! My story isn’t scientific and it isn’t backed up by an advanced degree in childhood behavior, therapy, life coaching or any topic you might think relevant to this subject. What it is, however, is an honest, from-the-trenches account from a real mom, and it is something that YOU can do. I am not going to tell you it was easy. It wasn’t. It was hard. BUT it was DOABLE....more
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Choosing Perfectly Imperfect Moments

A few weeks before my wedding I got some of the best advice from a friend who had just been a Bridesmaid. She said, “whatever happens, choose to smile and laugh, don’t be a b*tch.” I kid you not. At the moment, I thought this was peculiar advice. Of course I wouldn’t be a b*tch on my wedding day! I would be oozing love and joy and all things magical and wonderful of course!...more

Motherhood & Mixed Emotions

Ironically, not 3 minutes before writing this post, I was talking about oxymorons, specifically “clean messes.” with my sons. Little did I know I would soon be in a “happy sad” place and then would experience a whole other set of motherhood oxymorons. Yes, motherhood is full of mixed emotions and many happen at the same time. It’s ugly and beautiful all at once. I just dropped my six and a half year old off at a gym class....more

Good Job! -- and Other Things to Say to All Moms

By now, if you are a mom I am guessing you have seen the recent articles about what not to say to SAHM’s and the inspired equivalent piece, what not to say to working moms. In my Facebook feed I have seen all moms like and share “their” post with the comments, “amen!” “yes!” and “finally!” I am not surprised at all by the enthusiastic response these posts have received. Some days I am passionate about what not to say to me because I question my parenting. But most days, I am passionate about what not to say to me because I am putting every ounce of energy and every bit of my heart and soul into being the best mom that I can be and I just want to hear “GOOD JOB.” Which got me thinking, wouldn’t it be nice to read a post about what to say to moms?...more
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How I "survive" bedtime

Dear Bed Time,...more

A little perspective goes a long way.

Dear Perspective,...more

Help a Mother out...

It was T-100 minutes until I took sweet son #4 into New York City to meet a third neurologist. I was anxious. A.N.X.I.O.U.S. and all my boys sensed it. I decided that a huge Diet Coke and a fresh toasted sesame seed bagel with chive cream cheese would help ease my nerves. So I buckled all the kids into the mini-van and headed to the bagel store at 6:45 in the morning.I was pleased with my decision. I was pleased with my managing my emotions and determining what I needed to feel better, what I needed to stay cool, calm, and collected....more

Moms need each other, not Judgment

There once was a mom who called herself The Orange Rhino. She often felt alone, discouraged, and lost as a parent. She often felt that she was the “only one” who yelled at her kids too much, that she was “only one” whose kids sometimes did really questionable things, that she was the “only one” who cried at night because being a parent was so hard. Yes, The Orange Rhino felt a lot of things deep down under the smile, the laughter, the “oh yes, parenting is great” commentary....more

Mom's on Vacation! (Come with me!)

Dear Gorgeous Turquoise Blue Ocean,...more

My Holiday Wish for moms everywhere

Dear Stars,I have a holiday wish for all moms, across the country, across the world. Do you think you can make it come true? We need it. Star light, star bright, first star I see tonight, I wish I may, I wish I might, have the wish I wish tonight. I wish for the judgment amongst moms to go away so we may help each other more. Oh would it would make for happier moms and therefore happier kids.Love,The Orange Rhino*...more