Elizabeth Hawksworth

Feminist, fat, body positive writer and nanny in Toronto, ON. Published on the Huffington Post and on Amazon. Find my books here.

Dear Baby (Wherever You Are)

Dear baby,Over the years, your face has changed – not just from the sweet rounded cheeks of a newborn to the angular face of a seven-year-old, but from face to face, of all the babies I have been privileged to know and hold. Your eyes have been blue, brown, green, grey. Your skin tone has ranged from dark to light. And the hair that I’ve buried my nose in while I rock you back and forth after bad dreams has changed from curly and soft to wiry to finest spun cornsilk.I’ve been lucky, because I haven’t gotten to just have one baby in my life. I’ve gotten to have many....more

But Why Do You Care So Much? Combatting a "Victimizing" Culture

I bought a new dress yesterday at one of my favourite stores (who, incidentally, has decreased their plus-size section a rant for another day). I have trouble buying dresses because I’m short and fat, and a lot of them are too long, or too tight/loose in the wrong places, or look like bags on me. But somehow, this pretty little sundress ended up being the magical dress that looked really good on me, so I snapped it up.I was proudly wearing my dress today when a male coworker came up to me, unsolicited, looked me up and down, and said, “You look pregnant.”...more

A Woman, Phenomenally: What Maya Angelou Taught Me

There’s an accusation, especially recently in our culture, about people who fight for social justice. We’re accused of perpetuating a victim mentality. People mistake our stories and our experiences for manifestations of victimhood. We’re told not to wallow. We’re told to rise above, and in many cases, to put aside and forget our experiences almost as if they don’t matter at all.In times when I am accused of these things, I like to remember Maya Angelou....more
I join you in being inspired by Maya Angelou. Thank you for this testimonial. I am a survivor of ...more

Elliot Rodger Is Not The Only Man Who Wants To Kill Women

Elliot Rodger, the 22-year-old man who shot up a sorority house in California this week, killed and injured a number of young women because he believed they owed him sex and admiration. He believed in and was wholly part of the men's rights movement—a community that is growing larger as the voices of feminists are growing. It’s frightening and it needs to be known. And the #YesAllWomen Twitter hashtag is giving women a place to tell their stories. ...more
Thank you for writing this.  More women need to be aware of the extent of the manosphere's ...more

Sacrifice on Good Friday: Finding Meaning As An Agnostic

I was having a conversation with one of my coworkers yesterday about religion. He’s Jewish, and this week, he is celebrating Passover. As we stood in the dusty warehouse, with the shafts of light illuminating the dust from high above, he told me that for him, it’s not about religion. It’s about tradition. It’s about remembering where he came from and why he celebrates....more

All I Want Is To Be Your Harbour: Community Online

One of the things that I love best about our new online-based world is that I never feel alone. And for an introvert, who often likes being alone, that can be sometimes overwhelming. Like the real world, the online world can be too much. But as a rule, my online world has treated me well. It’s more than a couple of social networks – it’s an entire community, there day and night, just like a real community is....more

Troian Bellisario's "Exiles": When Love Just Isn't Enough

We’re all familiar with Shakespeare’s iconic star-crossed romance, “Romeo and Juliet”. I read the epic tragedy in high school and empathized with the couple’s desperation and blind infatuation, masquerading as love. It couldn’t have ended any other way – the reckless abandon in which these two teens threw themselves into their relationship, despite their families, despite everything, spelled disaster from the word “go”. But you’re left hoping maybe they could work it out. Maybe it didn’t have to end with death and suicide....more

I'm Gay, and I Will Be Supporting The 2014 Olympic Team in Sochi

I hate slotting people into little boxes. It’s one of my biggest pet peeves. Everyone has an identity, but the way they identify may not be their entire identity, and it’s certainly not the most interesting thing about them. I’m also a big believer in acceptance, which means I don’t believe that one facet of a person’s character needs to be made into a big, deal-breaking issue in order for them to be loved and accepted.Like being gay, for instance....more

Let It Go (Conceal, Don’t Feel): Controlling My Anxiety with Disney's "Frozen"

I’m going to admit it – I’m in love with Elsa from Disney’s new movie, “Frozen”. I think she’s an amazing character who has a lot to teach kids about achieving their potential despite what anyone says about them and their abilities. Plus, she’s played by the incomparable Idina Menzel, which means that I was going to pay attention even before I knew what the movie was really about. Lastly, I have always had an interest in Norwegian culture, and the story of Hans Christian Andersen’s “The Snow Queen” was one of my favourite fairy tales when I was little....more
Frozen is my favorite movie ever, and i too have the same anxiety and nausea problems. when i ...more

Permission to Feel: A Story of Self-Harming

Warning: this post could be triggering to those who self-harm. Read at your own risk....more
Hello there, Elizabeth! I cannot read your words without wanting to reach out and comfort you, ...more