Vivien Stembridge

This is a blog about my life as a mother of two beautiful young children.

I am a breastfeeding advocate, attachment parenting enthusiast, left-wing believer. Defender of children's rights.

I blog about whatever it is that I feel passionate about at the time- sometimes funny, sometimes serious, always from the heart.

Is My Willpower Challenge Over Now?

When we first starting talking about Kelly McGonigal's book The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do To Get More of It, I was intrigued but I wasn't sure how I'd feel about actually doing my willpower challenge. What would I learn? Would be be scary? What if I failed? Well, I've learned and I've struggled. Does that mean I'm done now? ...more
This is going to be cheesy, but I really feel as though the journey is so much more important ...more

Discovering My Challenge Within My Willpower Challenge

I have to say that my willpower challenge is still going well. If I learned anything at all from Kelly McGonigal's The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do To Get More of It it's that paying attention to why you are -- or are not -- doing something is really important....more
I really think keeping your eye on the prize is the most important thing. Of course outside ...more

What I've Learned (So Far) From My Willpower Challenge

I was scared when I announced my willpower challenge last week. While I totally understood why Kelly McGonigal suggests that you do one while reading her book, The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do To Get More of It, I was wary. I was concerned not only about what I might learn about myself -- what if none of the strategies worked?...more
I have learned that I have more willpower than I thought I did. And I have been able to ...more

What Is Your Willpower Challenge?

In her new book The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do To Get More of It Kelly McGonigal, Ph.D., suggests the best way to learn about the self-control methods she discusses is to take a willpower challenge. I hesitated. I am not big on resolutions, perhaps because I never stick with them. I was also intrigued because her book offered me some new perspective on willpower and self-control. ...more
My challenge is to stop running away when things become difficult. It's a big goal and I'm ...more

What Would You Do If You Couldn't Fail?

Brene Brown's Daring Greatly made me think a lot about failure. When we make ourselves vulnerable we open ourselves to a lot of things, some good and some positive. One of the things that we make possible when we do this is something many people, myself included, fear -- failure. When we make ourselves vulnerable we risk failure and that is a heady, wonderful, terrifying thing. ...more
What I would do if I knew I wouldn't fail is become a full-time writer. Unfortunately, for ...more

Plan B Parenting

In no other area of my life have I found myself as deeply vulnerable than as a parent. And that's why -- when my daughter was very young -- if you judged my parenting, I would jump down your throat. Then I would go home and cry and Google parenting websites and hold myself accountable for my daughter's milestone progress, her sleep habits, my mood, her nutrition and the state of foreign wars....more
I try to be a regular human being with my kids. If I am upset, I let them know why. If I do ...more

Can You Teach Someone How to Write Good Content?

The key to high blog traffic is writing good content, but Bebehblog wonders aloud if it's possible to really teach someone that skill. Is it a case of some people having writing talent and others struggling to express themselves with words, or can anyone become a writer with the right guidance? Or is the real answer, when it comes to blogging, that aiming for the high blog traffic doesn't appeal to everyone and therefore doesn't always matter? ...more
Honestly, I feel like there is some really crappy blogging out there. Some things can be ...more

Vulnerability and Shame in the Workplace

As we've discussed, feeling vulnerable is hard and frequently scary. The vulnerability hangover? It sucks. When I was reading Daring Greatly I was very wary of what Brene Brown was going to say about vulnerability in the workplace. It's a mixed bag for me. There are workplace environments where I've felt pretty darned comfortable with vulnerability and others where I avoided it like the plague. To my surprise, I found myself nodding right along with a lot of what Brown had to say about being vulnerable at work. ...more
I was in a job in which my female coworkers were horrible to me. I was in such a vulnerable ...more

Would You Report an Internet Crime?

A lot of time is spent in Linwood Barclay's Trust Your Eyes in deciding whether or not to report what appears to be a crime. The question as to whether or not there even was a crime loomed large. While Thomas is convinced that there was a crime, Ray is not so sure. If he's not sure, how can he make anyone else believe them? ...more
I definitely would have. I guess I am inclined to see the negative a lot, so I would have ...more

Who Do You Trust?

It seems only appropriate to talk about trust when discussing Linwood Barclay's Trust Your Eyes. The characters in the book not only have to decide whether or not they can believe what they see on the internet, but also who they can trust with that information. Who will believe them? ...more
I am a very trusting person in general. Luckily, I have my husband, lots of friends (online and ...more