Memories Sewn Into a Quilt
By Aunt_HeatherPiper on July 23, 2013
Memory is a way of holding on to the things you love, the things you are, the things you never want to lose. ~Kevin Arnold
You know it's funny how time flies. It might sound cliché, but it's so very true. I can't believe Kyle will be twelve years old in seven days, July 30, 2001! I was there when he was born and I pushed his dad out of the way to let me hold my perfect little nephew. True story. I really wanted to hold the baby and Ryan said, "I want to hold him." Followed by me working the bundle into my arms and Ryan giving me his ornery grin. I think it was more of joy and happiness than irritation, but Ryan gave in to let me hang with my future buddy.
Over the years, even long before the birth or our little man "stuff" seems to get collected. Sometimes you're not sure why you have all this "stuff" and sometimes you know very well why it's kept, for simple sentimental reasons. Regardless, that "stuff" does carry a bit of history with it and me being a history buff, I love to preserve history.
Ryan passed away on October 23, 2001. Naturally, his "stuff" was kind of pushed into closets and stacked in corners. No one really wanted to deal with it at the moment, or even months later. Some of the piles included Ryan's cloths, mostly his T-shirts and flannels, the staple of his wardrobe.
The majority of his attire was purchased by yours truly as gifts for Ryan. Every time he changed the oil in my car, rotated the tires, cut the rotors, changed the windshield wipers, (the list goes on and on), I would repay him with cloths, since Ryan never accepted money from me. Never! It was a win win because Ryan didn't really purchase himself cloths,. So I took it upon myself to dress him in exchange for all is work. He would graciously accept the articles of clothing, especially the jeans.
You see Ryan was a tall lean beanpole, a strong one at that, still thin. His jeans, which had to be Levi's, needed to measure 29 x 34. Do you know how hard it was to find those? So every time I was in the store, I would raid the men's jeans department in search for Ryan's jeans. This saved him the trouble of trying to find them himself, a real scavenger hunt!
Yes, so all my shopping for Ryan, eventually made their way to untouched sad piles of fabric with an unknown future. No matter how simple it may sound, those pieces of clothing showed their history and was a part of Ryan, every stain, every tear, every wrinkle, every shirt logo. I mean, the shirts literally showed Ryan's likes and interests, almost like they were a living ghost of Ryan laid before our eyes. Some of the T-shirts were so worn out you could tell they were his favorites. Now what? What do I do those these simple treasures?
Over the months of healing after Ryan's passing, I held onto these small memories, which I had no idea what to do with. I mean, I wasn't going to wear them, but on the other hand it would have broken my heart to give them away or worse, trash them. What to do? What to do? Then, my friend Christina, yes the same one I would run around like a bee and press cloths with our bums, (Gotta Dance!) came to me and presented the best idea I have EVER heard! She said, "I know what you can do with your brothers cloths! Turn them into a quilt!" Brilliant!! Sincerely, the presented solution was like gold to my ears and for a brief moment, I remembered how to be happy. Joy filled me and I couldn't wait to share this revelation with my family. I knew they were going to love the idea as much as I did. And you know what? They DID!
At the time, I don't think Christina knew what that idea meant to me and my family. Being in a state of loss, confusion and grief, any small ray of light was most welcome and needed! Now, where to begin? You see I never made a quilt before. In fact, at the time I didn't even have a sewing machine.
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