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Merry Christmas to Me: Turning Off Email for Two Weeks

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In a few minutes, I will turn off my email in-box.

Zap. Cut off. Thus will begin two weeks without a clue as to what my world wants to tell me -- from holiday wishes from dear friends to real business opportunities to that one Chinese viagra spammer who won't take my no for an answer.

Me? Bring it on. I'm so excited that I've already turned my cell phone ring into an old rotary phone sound.

Okay, I'll admit: My inner Emily Post is keening with horror. But I can live with her. What I cannot live with is the thought of returning from a two-week vacation to ten zillion emails that will build minutely, hourly, daily, until they explode into the last weekend of my break, harshing my zen and winding me into a resentful little ball of why-did-I-even-bother?

Thank you, danah boyd, for showing me how it's done.

Do you think I'm overreacting? I can live with your disdain. Because I've tried everything to save past vacations from the maws of the email beast. I've tried not answering email. (I learned that I can hold out until Friday of the last weekend, then I spent 48 hours trying to catch up.) I've tried not reading email until Monday, at which point my colleagues flood me with questions -- "You read my email about ____ right?" Who can blame them -- they were working, right?

And I've tried only to answer the emails that really matter -- um, right, I end up reading every one.

So instead of answering emails, or spending time thinking about how I'm not answering emails, the next two weeks belong to my family -- to the kids who have threatened to hide my computer if they find me working on it, or to bury my cell phone in the snow. They're justified in trying to get me back for every other vacation this year when I had to work and they knew it and there was nothing any of us could do about it.

Of course none of this would be possible without the BlogHer team, who will be around to pick up the slack while I'm away. Really away. Thank you, all of you.

But it's a grand experiment, so we'll see how it goes. Any predictions? Any recommendations? Any warnings? I'd love to hear them.

And I'll report back the first week in January. Until then, I'm off -- I have some nothing to do. (Although you may find me on the site, because I love catching up with the BlogHer community and seriously want to know what you all are going to think of the film adaptation of Sherlock Holmes among other things...)

Happy holidays everyone! Here's to 2010 to you and yours.

Best,
Lisa

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NoReturnMom 5 pts

For the past two years, I've worked part time for the express purpose of spending more time with my family. At first, I went out my way to make sure my schedule didn't inconvenience anyone, and checked in with work email at least once a day "to keep things moving." I was especially responsive to associates outside my own company, often not even telling them I only worked Wed.-Fri.

But the act exhausted me and defeated the point of what I was trying to do. After a year of doing everything to not call attention to my limited schedule, I now set my out of office assistant every Friday when I sign off, providing my cell phone number if I'm needed for anything urgent before the following Wed (and rarely get calls). Being clear about my limited availability has eased the stress on me and coworkers, as we all know what to expect.

It's not always easy to set limits, but I've found that problems have a way of getting solved in our absense if we explicitly communicate that we won't be around for a set period of time. If people figure you'll probably check in during vacation, they'll be less proactive in taking care of things on their own.

Good luck and enjoy yoru vacation!

Deb

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Kim Pearson 5 pts

We can wait. Your time with your family is more than worth it.

Kim
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Rita Arens 7 pts

I already miss you. :)

Rita Arens writes at Surrender Dorothy ( http://surrenderdorothy.typepad.com ) and BlogHer and is the editor of Sleep is for the Weak ( http://tinyurl.com/9pg62e ). She is BlogHer's assignment and syndication editor.

JennaHatfield 10 pts

You are a stronger woman than I? Also, my boss would kill me. HA! That said, I agree with Rita: this is AWESOME.

Enjoy your vacation!

@FireMom ( http://twitter.com ) from Stop, Drop and Blog ( http://stopdropandblog.com ) and The Chronicles of Munchkin Land ( http://thechroniclesofmunchkinland.com )

sassymonkey 6 pts moderator

When I went to Europe for two weeks I didn't have access to my work email. I might have maybe snuck into an internet cafe once or twice to blog and do a quick check of personal email - generally letting everyone know that "Hey! We're still alive! And having loads of fun!" But no work email. Nope.

The last time that I went to visit my mother I did a week without any email. She doesn't have internet and there are no internet cafes or wifi spots anywhere near her. So yes, I could do it. I do hate going without the internet full-stop though. It makes me feel all cut off. lol

Contributing Editor Sassymonkey also blogs at Sassymonkey ( http://sassymonkey.ca ) and Sassymonkey Reads ( http://sassymonkeyreads.ca ).

Rita Arens 7 pts

You won't know I posted this, because you won't be getting the e-mail follow-up that occurs when you post something on BlogHer. HOWEVER -- I think it's AWESOME. And I intend to do the exact same thing on my next vacation of longer than a weekend (it never builds up that bad over two days, right?).

I've already received my first Lisa Stone bounce-back, and it made me laugh, even though it gave Denise a heart attack.

Rita Arens writes at Surrender Dorothy ( http://surrenderdorothy.typepad.com ) and BlogHer and is the editor of Sleep is for the Weak ( http://tinyurl.com/9pg62e ). She is BlogHer's assignment and syndication editor.

Sarah 5 pts

Good luck. I feel twitchy just thinking about it.

I don't even like the part of flying when I can't check e-mail.

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Candelaria Silva 5 pts

To you and your family.  I'll look forward to an honest report of how you did when you get back.

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Good and plenty!

Lisa Stone 6 pts

But they're Santa boots. So that helps. This is what my family wanted for Christmas.

Lisa Stone BlogHer Co-founder ( http://www.blogher.com/member/lisa-stone ) Surfette ( http://surfette.typepad.com ) BlogHer is non-partisan but our bloggers aren't! Follow our coverage of Politics & News ( http://www.blogher.com/topic/politics-news ).

Erin Kotecki Vest 5 pts

Good luck. 

To all of us. 

Politics & News Contributing Editor Erin Kotecki Vest ( http://queenofspainblog.com/ )