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Mike & Molly Are So Fat! How Fat (and Funny) Are They?

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BEVERLY HILLS, CA - JULY 28: Actresses Swoosie Kurtz and Melissa McCarthy speak at 'Mike & Molly' panel during 2010 Summer TCA Tour Day 1 at the Beverly Hilton Hotel on July 28, 2010 in Beverly Hills, California. (Photo by Frederick M. Brown/Getty Images)

I was a bit nervous when I sat down to watch the premiere of Mike & Molly, the new CBS sitcom about two average folks who fall in love at an Overeaters Anonymous meeting.

Would the show rely on strings of fat jokes or one-note storylines focusing on dieting and eating? Or would it treat us to Roseanne Barr/John Goodman-style characters who are, yes, large, but who have other complexities in their lives?

Would the show be hateful or accepting?  A freak show or a decent sitcom featuring a mushy romance and likable characters who happen to be plus-sized?

As the Boston Globe describes:

The potential for cringeworthiness is high, and the pilot sometimes falls on the wrong side of the line between self-deprecatingly comic and just plain mean. But there’s a real sweetness to the tentative romance brewing between Mike, the beat cop played by comic Billy Gardell, and Molly, an elementary school teacher (Melissa McCarthy).

I watched the pilot, and I saw the sweetness between the characters.  Mike is played tenderly and appealingly awkwardly, and I found myself rooting for Molly. She's the type of person I'd love to meet for a coffee to hear about how it's going with Mike -- and then I'd take her shopping to buy new clothes to replace the droopy sweaters the crappy wardrobe department makes her wear.

Unfortunately, I also heard a lot of mean-spirited fat jokes, and the show just wasn't funny.  It was a jumble of messages: Fat is funny, but also hard, but really funny, and we can laugh and eat cake because they're going to be in love, which is good because they're otherwise losers surrounded by losers, and isn't it funny how fat people exercise and eat and starve and break tables and stuff? But it's okay to laugh because they are fat but that's okay because they want to lose weight! Plus, they're finding love! Yo momma is so fat!  Ha! Ha! Ha!

Comedy can either make us all feel united by the follies of the human condition, or it can poke at one group and dehumanize and exploit their differences.  Plenty of fat-based humor falls into the first category.  Sadly, despite a sweet premise, I think Mike & Molly falls into the second category, with fat, gay and race gags dominating the offerings.

Some of the dull, dehumanizing bits from the pilot included:

  • After embracing Mike, his beat partner says, "It's like hugging a futon."
  • After taking food away from Mike, his partner says, "You may never have sex that you don't pay for, but you're still on a diet."
  • Molly's mother, overplayed by Swoosie Kurtz, tells Molly's pothead sister (a female version of Charlie from Two-and-a Half Men) to help Molly's love life.  She says, "Take her to a lesbian bar.  They like beefy girls."
  • Molly says her goal is "to be able to walk into a nightclub without having every queen in the room leaping on me like I’m a gay-pride float.”
  • Mike shares at his OA group that he lost 3 pound but then found them flapping under his arms, that he had a hard time saying "plastic" with his mouth full of fun-size Halloween candy while binging at the store, and that he kneels to pray for relief from overeating and then prays to God that he can stand up again.

A laugh track can only help so much.

Danielle at Daemon's TV says the show has heart and to give it a chance, but agreed that the premier was too heavy-handed on weight and food jokes:

Since tonight’s premiere was the first time we were introduced to the characters it would seem all any of these adults could talk about was eating or not eating food.

Jo Curtis at Unreality Shout found the show funny but felt awkward about both laughing at the expense of fat people and about minimizing the severity of obesity:

All in all, though this was most definitely funny, I think it’s humour that could wear thin fairly rapidly. I mean really, who wants to hear fat jokes over and over? They’re ok for a while, but ad infinitum?

Big Fat Deal looks at some of the mainstream reviews of the show and says:

It’s great that the critics seem to

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biggirlblue 6 pts

I have been watching Mike and Molly since the first episode. I think they make a cute couple and have good comedy chemistry. I laughed at the table scene in the previews and knew I would watch the show. I thought it was funny not because it was a fat person who breaks a table but from the view of a nervous guy who embarrasses himself and ends up breaking a finger. (side note: Whitney fell off the bed this season and broke her finger -- skinny girl, still funny). I have a little cringe at the occasional fat/racist joke but for the most part I enjoy the querkiness of the show. I think Melissa McCarthy's increased popularity has changed the dynamics of the show and her character a bit but I probably won't stop watching.

 

On another note for fat jokes, it seems no sitcom is above it. One of my favorite shows Hart of Dixie had a really bad fat joke this week that disturbed me (basically one of the male characters woke up after a bender and found a large woman's shirt and was horrified. He showed it to his guy friends who were equally horrified. None of the fat jokes (as a whole) on Mike and Molly have made me feel as uncomfortable as this one from Hart of Dixie.

Bonnie Crowder 5 pts

...Thanks for the article, Deb, it was great. :)

Bonnie Crowder 5 pts

(Must be living under a rock.)

But I am completely NOT interested in seeing it now.

I can barely even get on board with the idea of a show being about trying to be healthier b/c when done with fat people it's still a fat joke in and of itself. Thin people also need to be healthy, but the media NEVER covers that.

FTR, I am ALL ABOUT healthy and think everyone needs to aim for that, but it's cheap to make a sitcom based entirely on that. I'd rather see, as mentioned, a Roseanne-type where being healthy was merely one struggle among all that life can throw at a person. Now THAT could make for a beautiful show.

LOVE the diversity on Glee. LOVE.

Bonnie
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Judy Schwartz Haley 34 pts

ok, I still think the first episode was cute - BUT the second episode was so bad, the jokes were so degrading, that I really have no desire to see any more of it. kind of a bummer. I'd like to see a show that takes a realistic (and good natured) look at what it's like to try to lose weight in today's world, and as I mentioned before, without all the screaming that comes with the Biggest Loser.

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Deb Rox 21 pts

It's true that aren't being yelled at or made to cry! If the focus is well done, I'm interested too. I guess for me the negative jokes plus bad sweaters needs to be less than the good jokes and the feel-good romance feelings!

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Deb Rox 21 pts

You nailed it. Totally up for humor about our bizarre human condition, including size, dieting, dating, etc. But it just wasn't funny.

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Deb Rox 21 pts

It's not like it was even funny. John Candy making a prat fall was hilarious, with some of the awkward comedy coming from his fatness, and that's cool. But that just felt like a tacked on gag. "Chubby person breaks a piece a chair, table or bed? Check."

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Deb Rox 21 pts

It's true that there simply aren't enough light romantic comedy shows, I guess that's why I WANT to like it.

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Deb Rox 21 pts

Oh, I hope current writers are replaced before the couple has sex. So far the sex jokes have been so bad. I'll put money there's a broken bed joke down the line...

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Deb Rox 21 pts

The fat cop-black cop partnership seemed cheap to me too. Cop out tropes.

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Deb Rox 21 pts

So she's new to me, but I can tell she seems to have been dowdied down for this role. I really hope that changes.

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SouthBayRantsnRaves 8 pts

We can all poke fun at ourselves. We're all guilty of laughing at the expense of others but this show falls flat. Looks to me like they will be playing the same types of jokes all the time. It gets old quickly. The writers need to do a good job & know the difference between corny & offensive & a medium between the two.

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Judy Schwartz Haley 34 pts

How are you going to ever have a show that focuses on and realistically portrays the lives of overweight individuals without including the fat jokes? Seriously - they may be insensitive and self depreciating, but they are also a part of everyday life. The fat jokes are a defense/coping mechanism and we use them so often that we teach others to use them. Take them out and you need to move the show to the fantasy channel.

I love the fact that the battle to lose weight and get healthy now has a sitcom focus - that there is something to watch that doesn't include all Jillian's screaming on the Biggest Loser. I love the fact that the show illustrates how society puts obstacles in the way of those trying to lose weight. Society wants us to be thin (doesn't really doesn't care if we are a healthy weight). There have been plenty of shows with characters that were incidentally overweight, but I love the focus on the emotional rollercoaster of trying to get healthy while maintaining your sanity and getting on with life.

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JennaHatfield 258 pts

I was barely hanging on thanks to the not-so-funny "fat jokes" and random lesbian "humor" ... and then he had to go and break the table. And I turned off the TV.

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issascrazyworld 5 pts

I kinda really liked it. It was funny and sweet and with as much crime drama's as I watch, it was refreshing.

suebob 41 pts

It hasn't been promoted as a show about 2 people, but OMG 2 fat people! In love! And they're FAT!

Note to the wise: fat people don't think about being fat all the time. Fat people don't necessarily hate themselves. Fat people fall in love and have sex - good sex!

This is a tough subject to handle well, but many subjects are. Good writing can turn a character who sounds just impossible - for instance a black gay male who kills drug dealers and who has tender, loving, sweet relationships - come to life and be marvelous (Omar from The Wire).

Crappy writing gives you a flat, one-dimensional look at people. I'm afraid that is what this sounds like.

lauriewrites 27 pts

A lot of the first half was sweet (besides the whole, oh, looky, it's two oppressed groups mocking each other in one friendship, awesome!) but when he broke the table outside an OA meeting I was done.

I'm getting crankier and less giving of my entertainment time in my old age.

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dianaelee 13 pts

I couldn't bring myself to watch it. I'd read too many articles before last night indicating the show relied heavily (no pun intended) on fat jokes and not enough on making them well rounded characters. I was also annoyed that such a pretty woman was expected to settle for a not so cute guy. Because she's fat? I don't think so. I loved the character she played on Gilmore Girls. And I loved that they paired her with a cute guy with a great personality. No way am I watching this show. Sigh.

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Deb Rox 21 pts

If they can develop the characters and find humor that is grounded in those characters' humanities, I agree that they could pull it off, because I love the casting. Don't know how much good will they'll get.

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Meghan Harvey 5 pts

while a lot of the jokes you mentioned were cringeworthy, I got the impression that once the show finds a groove (that involves less tasteless humor) it could be good. Even shows like Friends took a minute to find their footing and once they did they were great.
I didn't love this show, but I liked it enough to give it a chance to fix what needs fixing and push what works (the two main characters).