Beyond the Birds and the Bees: "Mom, How Do Gay People Get Babies?"

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Kids are awesome, aren't they? 

The other day my nine-year-old cocked his head over to one side, the way he does when he has a very serious question for me.

"Mom," he said, "I know you got kids because you were married to daddy before and you made us with daddy..."

I tried hard not to look panicked and braced myself for what I was certain was about to turn into a sex talk with a nine-year-old. 

"Mmmmhmm, that's true," I said. 

"Well," he put his little hand on my arm and looked me square in the eye, "Mom, how do gay people get babies?"

I stammered a bit. "What?"

"If you had never been married to daddy and you were only with Angie forever, how would you have kids?" He was dead serious and he wanted an answer.

See, he's the baby of the family, and having three older siblings (two teenagers and a pre-teen), he's heard the stories from health class already. He knows that sperm from a man and an egg from a woman makes a baby. Now he wanted to know how that would work if there were two men or two women.

The Birds and the Bees

Trying to keep it simple (and not really wanting to delve into insemination or surrogacy), I explained adoption to him as one of the options for gay couples, and added that it's still hard for gay people to adopt kids sometimes, because some people still think it's bad for kids to be raised by two women or two men instead of one of each. 

He flashed me his silly face, like that was the most absurd thing he'd ever heard, and then giggled.

"Why would anyone care about that?" he said. "Doesn't anyone just care about who will love the baby and feed it and read it stories before bed? That's what I would care about."


From the mouths of babes, right? 

Photo Credit: cbede.

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