On Loving Adopted and Biological Children: Turns Out Mom Was Telling the Truth

I am the eldest of four children; my brother and I are adopted from Korea. (My mother gave birth to my two sisters later.) She always told us that she "loved all of us the same," regardless of whether we were her adopted or biological children. I mostly believed her. I didn't think about the difference too much when I was young. It was when I got older that I began thinking about my mysterious blood relatives. I also wondered if parents could truly love their adopted children as much as their biological children. Was there a real difference? ...more

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early bird

This blog follows the journey of my 4th pregnancy from the fleck we saw at the first ultrasound to the birth and nicu stay of my beautiful little bird born at 27 weeks and 4 days. The bane of my life is my antiphospholipid syndrome which has caused 3 miscarriages, including the loss of our son, Max, at 21 weeks. ...more

Tot School Tuesday

 This week was big fun as our little guys worked through Tot School talking about size and learning a lot about the opposites: big and little....more

Such cuteness... (a give-away)

 Happy Valentines Day!  Want to know what I love? I love when my kids are dressed alike.  It makes them easy to find and they look so darn cute.  I mean, honestly, have you ever seen cuteness like this?...more

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The things people say...

 We spent Wednesday evening in the ER with littlest after he suffered from his second febrile seizure. Heath was home alone with the boys when it happened, as I was on my way to my weekly Teen MOPS meeting at church. ...more

Born In My Heart---a Valentine for my Daughter

Imagine if we knew when a life changing event was about to be set in motion.  How would we react when one of those simple things that sets the proverbial snowball rolling in our lives?  I hope I would react better than I did a few years ago.  I had no idea that this woman’s simple request would not only tug at our hearts, it would add to our family. ...more

Need an answered prayer?

JMJ Do you have a prayer request? A special need?  Well, I spent all night placing a live webcam to Lourdes, France on my website, including a little mailbox to their prayer request email.  All kinds of weird computer problems kept cropping up, and I kept offering them up as a prayer, which did help to keep me from being annoyed.  Then... This morning I got an email from a friend who told me that today is OUR LADY OF LOURDES FEAST DAY!  Wow.  I had no idea!  That is just so cool... ...more


So here's how a family starts... Somewhere in the middle of career and school, while getting okay with "just me", I went to play cards at a friend's house and met the last guy I ever expected to marry....more

Should We Adopt From Haiti? Should We Not? Yes.

In the weeks since the January 12th earthquake that rocked the island of Haiti, there has been a tremendous increase in adoption inquiries.  As the rest of the world watches, we cannot help but hurt and hope and desperately seek ways to help.  Pictures of orphans and news stories of destruction cause us all to want to grab a passport and come home with as many children possible.It is normal.Yet, it is not practical.  At this point in time, it is also not best.  ...more

The situation in Haiti is not new.  Evrytime a disaster occurs we want to help, we need ...more

Parenting Traumatized Children: Sometimes We Can Make It Worse

First and foremost, let me get something out of the way - PARENTING TRAUMATIZED CHILDREN IS PROBABLY ONE OF THE MOST DIFFICULT THINGS ANY HUMAN CAN BE REQUIRED TO DO - EVER. It is hard. It is hard. It is hard, and every single day you will discover that it is quite HARD!...more

It's just not possible to practice how you'll FEEL, and you could never put it into words and ...more