It was my first day at my new job. I was drinking coffee in the break room, when I overheard my new co-worker talking about being a step parent. "Being a step parent is awesome, because you don't have to be a real parent." "Excuse me?" I thought. How could someone be so ignorant? I love being a step mom! It was that moment when I realized that loving a man who has kids from a previous relationship is not for everyone....more
The early days of the "blended family" projectSunday morning Benjamin came padding into my room -- make that "our" room -- around 7. "Mom," he said. "I was looking out my window and I saw a ... wait, what are those birds that are all red?"My brain attempted to swim up through the Jell-O of sleep and break the surface of consciousness. "A cardinal," I said."Cardinal," Joe mumbled, about one syllable behind me."Well I saw a baby one of those fall out of a tree," Benjamin continued."What?"...more
Today is my step-son’s 22nd birthday. Twenty-Two! That is just crazy. I feel honored to have spent the last 14 years watching him grow into a wonderful young man.
When I think about the last 14 years I get overwhelmed. Being a step-mom is not easy. I have sacrificed so much of myself, questioned my self-worth, and bit my tongue more times than I can count. The relationship I have with my step-son today makes it all worth it.
I caught a post on my Facebook news feed today raising the question of dealing with blended family issues. I would like to say that we are one of the few lucky ones who don't have any issues being a blended family. But the truth is the opposite. We DO have issues. Most blended families have issues, whether we like to admit it or not. From feeling like you are living in the ex's shadow, to children not accepting you, to family still refusing to accept the fact that you have moved on with someone else..., all of us who have a blended family are facing those issues on a daily basis. What matters most is HOW we deal with those issues....more