Why I Cry in My Car Every Wednesday at 6:45am

I wake up on Wednesdays with a pit in my stomach. I hear the alarm go off and I immediately become tearful. I hate Wednesdays. Wednesday is the day that my kids go to their dad’s house until either Friday (which I can barely tolerate) or until Monday (which feels beyond awful). After divorce, there is no perfect custody schedule, and this one was the product of careful deliberation and collaboration. I know that it’s in the best interests of my kids. My attempts at rationalization, however, do nothing to temper the devastating heartbreak that I experience every Wednesday morning. ...more
wyguymom  Thank you for the encouragement, and I am so glad to hear you found a custody schedule ...more

The Sociopath: I thought it was normal to wonder when my husband would kill me

I'd love for you to read my story at my blog site: www.imarriedasociopath.com ….and I would have thought I deserved it and that my family would be better off without me anyway. I know he wanted to kill me because we would talk about it. I know exactly how he wanted to do it: he would strangle me to feel his power over me and my life. Why in the world did I think that was normal? That desire in him has only increased; I’ve seen it in his eyes....more



On My Hardest Day, I Was Strong Enough

This past week, I was in court for a custody hearing. I gave my testimony, and was cross-examined. My witness testified and was cross-examined. What followed was four straight hours of listening to my ex and the witnesses he called to the stand go over every bad day, every poor decision, every instance they could think of where I did not bring my A-game as a mom. I was forced to listen over and over how I have failed and how my ex has succeeded. It was very easily the hardest day of my life....more
So delighted to see you syndicated! Congratulations on that. The conclusion of this piece ...more

How Should I Handle My Step-Mama Drama?

I am the proud (step)mom of a lovely 4-year-old little lady, with whom I share an incredibly close bond. I have been wearing my “mommy” shoes since her (single) father and she moved into my home when she was a 9-month-old baby. Her biological mother suffers from behavioral and mental illnesses that cause extreme outbursts and instability, and at the time she was not at all interested in being present in her daughter’s life.Recently, however, the Biological Mother has been seeking help and has been trying to step back into the picture. Although this should be a great thing—the more love, the better!—I am starting to get really worried about our little family’s future. We are expecting a baby this winter, and the news of a new child in the family is sure to set off past issues with Bio Mom. This is supposed to be such a happy time for us yet all I feel is STRESS STRESS STRESS!HELP!Step-Mommy Dearest...more
I am the stepmother of six children (two different men). I have been actively step-parenting for ...more

Our Brief Moment

Our communication consists of a brief moment over Skype or Facetime. Short bursts of energy and talking twice a week. I hear quick, abbreviated stories of swimming, camping, and visits to amusement parks. ...more

Fourth of July Implosion

Since my separation from my ex, the Fourth of July has turned out to be one of the hardest days of the year for me. More so than Christmas. More so than almost any other holiday so far. Maybe it is because we officially separated two years ago on July 1st. Maybe it is the memories, the longing, the missing. Something about the warmth and sweetness of summer makes me get stuck in a deep dark place come the patriotic, nourishing, family- and joy-filled Fourth of July. ...more

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Ajusting Kids to Divorce: Advice for Parents

Adjusting My Kids to Divorce My ex and I did not do many things really well in our years of marriage. Obviously--otherwise we'd have stayed married! But in our separation and divorce I am proud to say we've learned from many of our mistakes as a married couple and done quite a few things RIGHT by our kids. ...more

I am honestly glad when I see stories like this. In my case, there was verbal and physical ...more

How Could You Let Your Kids Go for the Summer?

As mothers we are faced with tough decisions every day. From the first moment we realize we are pregnant, we are forced to make unequivocal and sometimes controversial decisions about the mothers we are going to be, the lives we are going to lead, and the choices we will make for our children....more
I remember being a child and wanted to go away to camp. My parents always gave me some bs excuse ...more