Giving Up Grandpa

I will soon have to change the "about me" section of my blog.  The thing that half defined my existence is changing, morphing, moving on. My mother, who unfortunately seems to be exhibiting more and more of those genetic symptoms of dementia that claimed my grandmother's soul has dropped a proverbial bomb on us.  I knew that having her and my dad under one roof gave us the best chance at fending off their spending any of their la...more

How to Live a Long Life

I read the other day that some people feel like every Monday is a new year. I think that’s a good philosophy to have. There’s nothing like a fresh start. I’m so grateful my Grandmother has lived to see another decade. Since she reached the milestone of 97, it has made me think more and more about longevity. As I once heard a wise woman say about my Grandmother: “they don’t make ‘em like her (any) more.”...more

A Valentine Love Letter to Bossy's Mom

First Bossy has to admit she’s never been much for holidays she believes were invented by a greeting card company. Except for the fact that it’s a chocolate-eating opportunity, Valentine’s Day never amounted to much around the Bossy house. Except for one year when Bossy was ten....more

Let me repeat: LOVELY. And perfect.


Need an answered prayer?

JMJ Do you have a prayer request? A special need?  Well, I spent all night placing a live webcam to Lourdes, France on my website, including a little mailbox to their prayer request email.  All kinds of weird computer problems kept cropping up, and I kept offering them up as a prayer, which did help to keep me from being annoyed.  Then... This morning I got an email from a friend who told me that today is OUR LADY OF LOURDES FEAST DAY!  Wow.  I had no idea!  That is just so cool... ...more

Interracial Dating

I had originally posted the following on my go-to site as a forum discussion after being selected to be a discussion panelist for a live community panel following an off-Broadway show for next week.While my main goal is to see the thoughts and experiences of my local community at first, I figured I would expand the discussion to the open web hoping some would be brave enough to share. I haven't received as much feedback as I have been hoping for considering most of my forum discussions usually take off right away....more

Younger and Older -- Crossing Generations Builds Astonishing Friendships

I went to a birthday party honoring a serious transition -- a landmark, and even for a successful young mother with three kids, it had an impact.  So what did her sweet husband do?  He made her a present, with the help of his 5 year old son.  I don't want to violate their privacy with a description; just know that it was something that only someone who knew her well, and loved her, could have given her....more

Happy is Hard

It’s hard to stay the course and true North when a Category 5 hurricane hits home! Let’s call it Mother. I’m bobbing and weaving, bobbing and weaving. Avoiding landmines in the living room and booby traps at the dinner table… And as if that weren’t hard enough, I started a whole body detox?...more

Raising the extended family

I was one of those women who was never going to get married or have children.  In high school all I ever wanted was to be an astronomer and children never figured into the equation.  So of course I got pregnant in college.  The pregnancy was horrible and I spent the whole time I was pregnant terrified I was not going to love my baby.  Then she was born and when I saw her for the first time I felt like someone hit me in the head with a frying pan, the love hit me so hard.  Flashforward fifteen years, her father is long gone and I have met the man that I will eventual...more

Blogging Virgin Often Qualifies for Senior Discounts

 I decided to learn about and begin blogging for a couple of reasons. I need to keep my brain challenged by learning new things.  I want to understand the challenges my daughter is facing as a parent in this constantly changing world where technology has created an entirely different environment for her to be parenting in than what I was faced with raising her and her sister. ...more

Garden Catalogs: Getting Behind the Birds, and Now the Bees

Rhonda Fleming Hayes Hopefully by now you've amassed a good-sized pile of well-thumbed garden catalogs, already marked with sticky tabs and yellow highlighter, or at least a few turned-down pages. I'm still hoping to spend some more quality time with mine and a mug of hot chocolate. Or maybe you're glued to the computer screen dazzled by the bright colors and earnest promises of the seed... Read the rest at  ...more