how to survive filing bankruptcy when you are a single mom

well here i am getting ready to shove the last of mine and my daughters belongings into our van so that we can go early in the morning and shove it into a storage unit before i have to go to work. i am in a financial mess and i am a single parent. most of the mess i take responsibility for but honestly i like to blame my girls dad for being not the man of my dreams, but rather my nightmares. ...more

well ya  know my income is very very very little right now and i am finding it harder to ...more

Our Imagination

Did you know that one time my dad was shot, arrested and thrown in Jail? Did you know we once had a guy named Bill who lived at our house and broke lamps and jumped up on the roof and then couldn't get down? Of course, I've told you about my best friend Joann who colored on the walls and did other naughty stuff. Imagination wasn't in short supply at our house when I was growing up! ...more

The dealings with general uncleanliness

Lord knows I try, really I do. I threaten, I scream, I plead, I beg, I demand, I reason, I order, I compromise, I donate. Our house is being overrun buy children's playthings. ...more

Is "Aunt" a Title or a Role?

I was talking to a soon-to-be-50-and-childless friend the other day, and she mentioned that she'd moved back to Missouri from Montana after her sister asked her to come back -- because she wanted her to be an aunt to her children. To BE an aunt. It got me thinking -- what is the role of aunt? What role do we play in our siblings' kids' lives? ...more

I am so happy to see something about the role of AUNTs here and I hope we'll think well of ...more

Weather-watching obssession - does this make me an ol' coot?

Watching the weather is a favorite hobby of mine.  I don’t generally get my weather reports from television, but I might as well be one of those people we see in comedies, who fixate on the Weather Channel and sit there for hours, soaking up data about places they’ve never been, never intend to go, and if they did go there, they wouldn’t know anyone. Those people are portrayed as coots. (One definition of a coot:  Simple-minded.)  A weather fanatic will say to no one in particular,  ”I knew it.  I knew that system was gonna come in early.”   ...more

4 Kiddo Homeschool

Hi Everyone! These projects can be seen at my homeschool blog:, but I thought I would post it here too, for your enjoyment!  :) This is a project I decided to conduct: ...more

Discipline and Co-parenting

Disciplining children can be hard enough as it is in a traditional family.  But add divorce, joint custody and getting remarried to the equation and it makes it even more difficult. The girl’s father was very lazy, nothing bothered him and it took pulling teeth and ultimatums to get him to lift a finger.  Now I’m in a relationship that is quite the opposite:  Frank does things way before I even need to ask.  The problem with this type of personality though is that he is ‘Johnny on the Spot’ when it comes to my girls and the proper discipline. ...more

Children at funerals

What's the purpose of taking young children to funerals?  The Michael Jackson funeral (event?  celebration?) brings up all kinds of questions about what is and isn't appropriate, but my worry is that children at a funeral are exposed to indelible images that may later prove hard to deal with. ...more

our home through the eyes of yoda

Quite a collection of legos I see.   ...more

Nice way to start the day. Yoda and laughter.

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Why are old people the only ones guaranteed health care?

Seriously? Why is it that in order to be guaranteed health care in this country you have to be in the last third of your life? The most expensive part of your life in terms of medical and healthcare? ...more