Mommy Meditation: Being in the Moment With My Kids

When I had Kai, save a couple of rough days now and then, I felt like I had the "Mom thing" down. Don't get me wrong, it was hard, but I rarely lost my patience like I do now that I have two.

The difficulty, I've found when I really think about it, is all the distraction. I'm constantly pulled in different directions, trying to balance the needs of my kids and my own needs and, If I thought I didn't have time to shower before, I hardly have time to go to the bathroom, now!

I struggled, and still do, trying to find a way to incorporate the calm of my Buddhist practice into my every day life as a mother but, how could I do that when I couldn't even find time to meditate? After all, meditation is supposed to be done in a calm, quiet place and one must sit cross-legged on the floor and have endless moments for "emptying the mind", right?

Wrong.

It dawned on me one day, while trying to accomplish some household task and Kai was pulling me in one direction, Reef in another, that meditation is simply training to help keep one's self in the moment. You can be in the moment whenever you choose to be... you just have to consciously make that choice.

I stopped what I was doing and focused on the moment. I stopped thinking about the laundry that needed to be done or the floor that needed swept. I stopped thinking of the activities going on around me as distractions. I stopped thinking of the squeals and boisterous childhood sounds as "noise".  I focused on my kids and what they were doing. Did it matter that Reef was taking laundry out of the basket and putting it into an empty box? Did it matter that Kai was bouncing, gleefully around on a futon until she fell over? They weren't hurting themselves or anything else. They were enjoying their own activities. They were "in the moment". I savored this briefly and turned back to my task, no longer feeling distracted.

This is meditation for me, as a mother. My calm isn't found in moments sitting in silence. My calm is found in quieting my mind and focusing on my children. This is Zen and the art of motherhood.

 

Jasmine H. | http://myunstilllife.blogspot.com/

"I find hope in the darkest of days, and focus in the brightest. I do not judge the universe." -Tenzin Gyatso

 

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