A good friend is a connection to life - a tie to the past, a road to the future, the key to sanity in a totally insane world.
My best friend is moving…out-of-state. She is trading lakes for mountains. I have been trying to pretend that it doesn't matter, plans change, life goes on, we'll still see each other once or twice a year and chat on the phone. But the truth is it does matter; it won't be the same. I love her, and I miss her already.
What makes this person so special? She gets me, accepts me and talks to me like we are sisters. We have laughed, cried and argued in equal parts. She was the third person we called when Darling 1 was born. She was the first person to hold Darling 1, besides me and Dear Husband. She is Darling 2's Godmother. Her boys are exactly 8 weeks younger than Darling 1. We have the same middle name, and our date of our birth is 14. Our friendship started in Iowa 9 years ago when we could enjoy long lunches together during the weekdays and rounds of golf in the evening, without having to worry about who was caring for the kids. Our friendship continued in Minnesota and has seen us both through several jobs, having babies and marital ups and downs.
I thought we would grow old together. I thought our kids would grow up together. I thought things wouldn't change. But they do. I know she and her family will have great adventures and make wonderful memories in their new home state, and I wish them all the best in the world because she is my best friend!
Here is the Motherly Advice part. Friends are a vital part of being a successful, happy, well-adjusted socialized parent! I have several groups that I get together with on a regular basis. This keeps me sane and happy. Find a tribe and be better parent. How do you do this? Start a book club, a girls' night out, a running/walking group, a lunch bunch, a coffee gang; get together with old friends or new and do something, anything.
It's Friday…. Go eat some chocolate. It's good for you, and you deserve it!