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Moving Across the Country: The first 48 hours of "empty nest"

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On Wednesday, we took two big steps toward our move across the country. We bought a new car and we got Michelle and her cat moved (mostly) into their own apartment. Those are two really stressful big steps for us and of course they were done on the same day, causing them to be extra super stressful. On top of all that, we had other obligations to attend to like...

I had to drive TW to the dentist at 8:30am. I dropped her off and came home to answer a few more emails and then I took Liz across town to YMCA camp. I drove back to pick up TW at the dentist.

We came back home long enough for me to answer a couple more email, grab my check book, insurance papers and my laptop. TW dropped me off at the Toyota dealer and I just kept on working as my paperwork was finalized and our new car was driven out of the showroom and into the lot for me to drive away.

When I arrived home, 70 minutes after TW dropped me off, TW's Michelle's Forester was filled with boxes and Chris (my son), Charles (the half child who used to live with us) and Sarah (Charles' sister) were standing at the road, next to their cars, plotting their strategy for moving Michelle's stuff. They oohed and aahed over our new car. TW drove it around the block. I went in the house and asked the brilliant Julie to help me troubleshoot a problem reported by the always interesting Erin Kotecki Vest and then I loaded up the Prius with more of Michelle's stuff.

At 11:50 Michelle, Sarah and I headed to the new apartment where we planned for Michelle to pick up her key and us to start unloading while the guys finished loading the other two vehicles with stuff. Unfortunately, the office was closed for lunch and we had to wait for forty minutes. Thank goodness for the iPhone because I just kept on working from the front seat of that nice new car.

Besides having to wait for the manager so we could get the key, we also had to figure out WHERE this new apartment was. When Michelle and I looked at them, we didn't actually look at the one she was moving into. We had the number and I thought I knew where it was. Apparently not since I drove around the entire complex twice and never saw it. As I was preparing to circle it again, Chris called me to tell me where it was. Thank goodness - it's an interior building and not visible from the road. I had no idea they even HAD interior buildings.

Michelle finally got the key and ran to unlock the door - smiling a huge excited smile. I slowly started to unload the car, only to find that those children besides loading a very dusty TV into the front seat of my new car had also scratched the inside door - in two places! Hmph.

The kid was so excited to be moving into her own place. I was so NOT excited to have her moving into her own place. I sniffled a few times. Sarah saw me and said "Do you see her face?!" and I fake smiled and nodded. It was... difficult.

Later, TW, Prince J, Liz and I went to the grocery store and bought enough junk food to fill her cabinets and fridge. We drove over to deliver the food and show them the apartment. TW was probably more emotional about seeing it for the first time than I was.

When I was finally finished with work and getting ready for bed, I started talking about calling her. TW had to keep reminding me that she is grown up and she needs to do this without me. "But, I could just call her to ask how her cat is handling the change!" Hah, like Michelle wouldn't see right through that. I hate her cat. I didn't call. Sniff. Sniff.

Michelle was here on Thursday, to pick up more stuff, to throw more trash away and to go shopping at Home Depot with me for more stuff for her place. She also had to wash her comforter, urinated on by her evil cat and while

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Denise 7 pts moderator

Did you call your parents? :-)

And, so nobody thinks Michelle is perfect - when she arrived yesterday, late for dinner, she didn't really want to do any work in her old room. She was tired. She had to work the next day. She worked all day. She wanted to do "a little at a time" even though she knows we have less than 10 days before we leave... hah. TW told her to get busy up there and she slammed around like the typical teen that she is. ;-)

It was nice to have her home, even if it was only for a little while. And, she'd better be back today to do "a little more" work on her room.

~Denise
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Vered 5 pts

"She slammed around like the typical teen that she is". I remember doing that. :)

Yes I did call them. I tend to take for granted the excitement in their voices whenever I call. This post of yours made me see things through their eyes so thank you. 

Before I know it, I will be all excited when my kids reach out to me, and they will be all like "MOM! We talked LAST WEEK, there's nothing new, why are you calling me all the time".

Vered DeLeeuw

http://momgrind.com/

AudreyO 5 pts

My "baby", my 18 year old graduated and left on the same day...it's over a week now. She's been gone before but I know this time is different. She will be home in August for only 5 days, then she's leaving to go overseas for 10 months. Once she gets back to the U.S. she will do a 3 month internship in New York (I live in CA). She won't be back here until August of 2009. Now as I say that, we do not have a ticket home for her. We have a round trip ticket overseas, but the ticket to New York is only one way. She wouldn't let me book her return flight.

We took her to the airport. My older daughter said "hey look at mom, she's gonna cry" and both girls began to laugh. Yep...talk about ruining a wonderfullly sentimental moment LOL. 

Audrey :)
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Denise 7 pts moderator

I'm the one who generally ruins the wonderfully sentimental moments - I don't do sentimental moments. But with this whole moving into her own place and then me moving across country - I'm having a hard time dealing with the bittersweet.

Good luck to you and your family as you all adjust to these changes.

~Denise
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no_I_am_zoe 5 pts

That is an awful lot of change all at one time.  Good luck keeping yourselves sane.  I'll have a few cocktails for you.

Vered 5 pts

last night before I could start thinking about calling her - she called
me, at 9:45, because she was lonely and a little scared.

This is the sweetest thing I have read this entire week. 

I am going to call my parents tonight. 

Vered DeLeeuw

http://momgrind.com/