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June's been a rough month for me. My boyfriend broke up with me...
again, and then a few pretty horrid, unexpected things happened on top
of that. It's just one thing after another this month, and I gotta be
honest with you - Today was a day when I just felt completely beat
down. Why does bad stuff happen all at once?
Well, sometimes it does. And we've really got no choice in life but to learn how to get through it and how to have faith that things - and we - will get happy again. Somehow.
The first thing I did when my boyfriend broke up with me was decide to throw a birthday party with my roommate. I'd been not feeling it because it was unlikely that he'd be able to come, and that was just a total bummer. But with that no longer an issue, I decided it would be a positive way to pick myself up.
Or, at the very least, a fabulous excuse to get roaring drunk in the safe comfort of my own home.
By the time the party came, the rain of horrid, unexpected things had come on full force, but I managed to get through the prep and have a good time at the party. See, my secret mantra for dealing with the blues is: Just Keep Moving.
Whenever I want to curl up in a little ball, whenever I feel like I'm moving at half-mast and everything's taking twice as long, I tell myself: Just Keep Moving.
After the break-up, I *finally* started working out again. Maybe because I was feeling stung by things I felt I had little control over. Upper body strength - that I can do something about. I want my strength back. I want my knees and my shoulders to be strong again. It feels so good to move weights around. My back is practically singing with joy.
Another thing that I take heavy solace in is work. Thankfully, I have a webisode project coming up and there's preproduction work to be done. Plus I've got screenwriting and blog stuff and on and on. I've always got something to work on, and I like it that way. I love to work.
Clearly, this is a good time to really focus on some of that stuff and be uberproductive.
I've been trying to get enough sleep. To give myself permission to get enough sleep.
And finally, when it all felt like too much, and some of it was stuff I've talked to no one currently in my Los Angeles life about, I called a friend. Because it was horrible, and I needed to talk it through, and I was lost for a moment feeling like I have no one here who I'm comfortable enough with. Which started to freak me out, truth be told.
But. I do have a phone.
I called my friend on the East Coast and laid it all out. Everything that was happening and what I was dealing with and that I was really hurting and I felt so alone. You know, I wish she was here, but thank goodness for the telephone. For some stuff you really need someone who can understand where you're coming from. For some stuff you need someone from home.
Today I had a rough day. And then I got an invitation that made me smile. And I came home to a birthday present that I got at my party that made me smile. And I worked out, which made me sweat. And I watched "In Plain Sight" with my roommate and it made us laugh. And now I've blogged, and I've found a little solace.
I'm moving through.
What do you do when you have the blues?
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The blogosphere speaks:
Post Race Blues... - The Reluctant Runner just finished a marathon and is feeling a little "directionless."
Breakup Blues - Secret from It's My Life gives tips for getting over a breakup. My fav - "Stay clear of guys [girls] for at least a week to be sure you're not still emotionally involved with him or her." No new guys for at least a week: Check! :)
Rainy Day Blues - Monica from One Flew Over has the rainy day blues... and adorable children.
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Contributing editor Liz Rizzo also blogs at Everyday Goddess.
