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I Learned This While Making My Bed

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bedroomI have been yelling for years about how making the bed was a complete waste of time. This is something that I believed deeply. I am a busy person and it seemed like a fool’s errand. You get out of bed, make it all nice, then wreck it up again every night?

Redundant. Redundant.

So I don’t make my bed.

Ever.

Well, I used to make it sometimes when my in-laws came to stay at our house, but now they live near us.  I do sometimes make it when I put on clean sheets, but that is totally different.

When I was on the airplane two weeks ago (and I actually wrote a post about this then deleted it or something because the airline I was flying didn’t have wifi, but they did have beer, and I must have not saved the word doc or something), I was wondering why people made the bed at all.

When I was in my early 20s, I had an office mate that was redoing our entire filing system. She would take things out one drawer at a time, then organize that drawer. She did this with all of the drawers, then after that she would merge two drawers together and so on until she had the whole thing done -- four weeks later. I asked why she didn’t just take it all out and alphabetize the whole shebang all at once. She said she had a system. I said her system was a lot of busy work.

That girl made her bed every morning.

Busy work, right?

But no, it couldn’t be. Why would everyone do it? It can’t just be about tidiness. Can it?

I decided I would do an experiment. I would make my bed every day in February (the shortest month) and see what all of the fuss what about.

Of course, I figured I would forget by the time February actually rolled around, but by some sort of miracle I remembered, and on February 1st, I made my bed.

And it wasn’t so bad.

I am currently on day seven of making the bed and I think I am starting to get it. First of all, if you do it every day the sheets don’t get all crazy and making the bed it way easier than if you don’t do it for say, 25 years.

Second, it makes my whole room look bigger and the tidiness thing is more than tightassery. A clean house is sort of Zen. I can concentrate better. My house seems bigger and it is easier to focus on other things.

Third, it really is nice to get into a freshly made bed every night, and I think I impressed my husband.

I think I might actually dig this bed making thing. Not the making of it itself, but the it being made part.

I guess you can teach an old dog new tricks.

Ta-da!

BlogHer Contributing Editor, Sarah can also be found at Sarah and the Goon Squad and Draft Day Suit.

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Sloane Rhodes 5 pts

As busy as we all are, I find that making the beds helps to ritualize the going-to-bed part of the day/night. It also makes the bed seem special and not just another place to pile all our junk on!

stressandstars 5 pts

I "make" my bed... by putting the covers back on right and dealing with the pillowcases RIGHT before I go to sleep ;)

I was never a member of the bed-making club. My mother never forced us, although she made hers every day. I prefer mine rumpled.

njgeiger 9 pts

If it's a waste of time because you just undo it again, then brushing your teeth, combing your hair, vacuuming, mowing, washing clothes, taking baths, etc. etc. are all a waste of time.

I agree with the comment about Zen. There is peace in order and cleanliness.

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McHobbit 5 pts

 njgeiger Not the same. If you don't vaccum, there are a bunch of allergens etc. stuck in your carpet. If you don't comb your hair, it gets tangled and eventually beyond filthy. If you don't mow your lawn, you're gonna have neighbors complain. Unbrushed teeth cause cavities and bad breath. And not taking a bath makes you smell and feel filthy. 

 

I don't make my bed, I used to have to and since I slept with an array of stuffed animals (and in winter, several blankets) , it was always an ordeal. I actually used to try not to move around and mess the bed up too much so making it wouldn't be as much work. 

 

The whole house feels messy because the bed isn't made? Please. An unmade bed, to me, is much more inviting. I never wanna mess up the made bed. 

ZoeSays 5 pts

Ever since I had the ability to decide whether to make my bed or not, I have flat out not done it. I think it's because my mother was so adamant that it had to be done a certain way (due to HER mother being that way). So I stopped the process with me.

However, I think this post brings up a lot of good points and like brushing one's teeth or making sure the kitchen is clean at night, I think it certainly does make the bedroom look more open and feel calmer when it's made. But it would mean getting up on time and not snoozing for 45-60 minutes after my alarm goes off, too. Clearly I'm a disciplined person in progress.

mbteaches 6 pts

The whole house feels messy and I feel like the day has been a failure if the bed isn't made. So much so that I will make the bed just before climbing in. My husband has that same feeling about dishes. The whole house feels trashed if there are dishes in the sink. Everybody has one or two things that they need to have tidy in order to relax. What are yours?

Melissa Ford 53 pts

I never ever make my bed for the same "waste of time" reason. Though you're making me rethink for a moment since I am feeling a little chaotic today. Perhaps the answer is simply putting things in order...

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sassymonkey 858 pts moderator

In the past I was not a bed maker. At all. But then I moved in with the fake husband he is and always has been. It doesn't get made every day but it gets made most days. I have to say I enjoy getting into a made bed at the end of the day more than I do getting into an unmade bed.

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Sarah 11 pts

Maybe this explains why February has been such a good month for me!

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Sarah 11 pts

"An unmade bed is a sign of a loose woman."

That is hilarious! I've never heard that before. Thank goodness I started making my bed!

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nicolejoy 5 pts

I love a freshly made bed with the bottom tucked in tight to keep your feet warm. I literally cannot sleep if my feet come uncovered. My husband on the other hand will rip off the covers and scrunch them up before he gets into bed! After six years of marriage, we've learned how to make my half of the bed while leaving his half all untucked and fancy free. It was either that or sleep in separate beds ;)

Liz R Jaeger 5 pts

I used to NEVER make my bed! Once I got married, my husband told me that his Mom says "An unmade bed is a sign of a loose woman" After laughing about this for some time, I fell into the habit of 'making' the bed each morning. Just the simple act of straightening out the covers makes the bed appear made with minimal effort.
Ever since I started, I agree that coming home to a made bed gives me a Zen feeling that I quite enjoy!

(I still savor the times I get to stay at a hotel and leave the bed a complete mess though)

falnfenix 6 pts

here's why ( http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/4181629.stm )

my mom always had problems with wheezing when my dad insisted on making the bed every morning. now that he waits until midday, she's actually breathing easier. might be anecdotal, but it's enough for me.

Cdahle 5 pts

I have always been a bed maker, I never miss a day of making my bed. My friends would probably chalk it up to my obsession with a clean home. But really I feel like a made bed finishes a room. Or even better yet, if the rest of the room isn't quite perfect, it makes it appear as if everything is as it should be.

For me making a bed is like removing clutter. You may not have a dust free, perfectly spick and spanned home but if the bed is made and the clutter is picked up, no one will notice.

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TW 71 pts

When I was pregnant and miserable and huge with girl child, then suffering thrush and learning to breastfeed...my mother was in Oregon to help. I was all about just staying in my nightgown and in bed all day. We had just moved. I was tired. BLAH! My mother got tired of my pity party and told me that I had to make up the bed by noon. She didn't care if I went right back to bed. It was bad luck not to make the bed.

Why that bad luck bedmaking never came up before, I have no idea. Sure, she had made me make my bed from time to time as a child--but not regularly.

So, I made my bed. The day didn't turn out bad. Then again the next day. Then again. Then I argued it was dumb. But then back to bed making which has continued for 15 years. You know what? Days when the bed isn't made by noon really are sucky days. Now whether it is the suckiness of the day keeping the bed from being made or the lack of bed making--I don't want to know for sure.

Our bed is made daily. Denise thought this odd in our first days, weeks, months. Now she freaks out that she has to make the bed when I am out of town. Or when she notices it creeping close to noon and I have yet to make the bed--she makes it herself.

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texasebeth 87 pts

My mom was a firm believer in making the bed every morning. She always said it made the room look neater and darn it! She was right. And it does make it nicer when getting into bed in the evening for some weird reason.

Elizabeth

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irishjenni 5 pts

I'm a proud member of the unmade bed club. The first thing I do when I jump into a made bed is to kick off all of the extra pillows and covers. It seems like a "why bother" exercise to neatly organize everything when I know I will ruin it all later on in the day. This is one of those stubborn ideas that I haven't been able to shake since I was a kid. When I was 13I swore to my parents that when I paid the bills, I would determine the messiness level of my bedroom.

Take that mom and dad :)

Jenni writes Wine Will Fix It ( http://winewillfixit.blogspot.com )from her messy, unmade bed in Los Angeles.

theoutcast 8 pts

I will always make my bed. There will be clothes on the floor, but I will make the bed because it's an easy way to make the room look better (in spite of the laundry on the floor!) Zen is right!

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