My response to the women's march post

Equality.

 

If we keep saying that one sex is better than the other, how can we actually be equal?

Everyone, male or female deserve to be treated with respect. Everyone deserves love and everyone deserves a chance to be who they wish to be. That was the initial goal of feminism back in the day until the man-bashing women took over the movement. Don't tell me it's not. Women talk about double standards, but seem to forget about the double standards that men deal with daily.

 

Did you know that men made up about 40% of domestic violence victims; not attackers. Men assaulted by their partners are often ignored by police, see their attacker go free, because women are seen as the victim, not the perpetrator. Men are largely silent on the issue because of the perception that men are physically stronger and should be able to subdue a female attacker easily. Those men who do report physical violence are more likely to be ridiculed–both by law enforcement and by the public–than women are. 1 out of every 33 American men has been the victim of an attempted or completed rape in his lifetime.

 

Women are more brutal than men when it comes to emotional abuse. In most cases men are more affected by being emotionally abused than women are. For a man, being humiliated in front of others, even in the privacy of their own home, is more devastating than being physically abused.  However, being emotionally abused by a woman, can have far more severe consequences. Men who are being abused emotionally always feel that they are “walk on eggshells” in order to “keep the peace,” instead of talking about their feelings. Then they tend to shutdown totally and remove themselves from forming bonds with other women.

 

Women want equality, then maybe they need to stop and think about how they talk about men in disturbed detail because you can't have it both ways. You can't be whining for equal rights when women say, “They got a man by the balls,” and then turn around and say, “oh how we talk about men is totally different then how President Trump talked about women.” I dare women to go into strip clubs and hear how men talk about women. And then go into strip clubs for women and see how the men are talked about in nasty terms. The media loved Trump, BTW, before he even ran for President. They actually were tripping all over him in regards to radio interviews, his reality show, all his business dealings and so forth. But once he entered the ring, things all of a sudden changed. Think about this: would it have been different if he ran as a Democrat and not a Republican? The media started the hate and all the sheep followed. Most people who spew it probably have never even met him in person.

 

August 18, 1920, the 19th Amendment to the U.S. Constitution granted American women the right to vote. The Great Depression took center stage in the 1930's. In the 1940's, “Rosie the Riveter,” is part of a government campaign to bring women into the workplace during the war.

In the 1950's, women of the “I Love Lucy” era were portrayed as a woman-in-distress, who always needed her husband, the man, to bail her out. In the 1960's is when the role of women in American society changed, and changed drastically. Women fought against sexual harassment, entered the work force in enormous numbers and fought for equal pay and advancement in the workplace. By the end of the Sixties, more than 80 percent of wives of childbearing age were using contraception after the federal government in 1960 approved a birth control pill. Women were able to run in the Boston Marathon, get a credit card, keep her job if she became pregnant, and report sexual harassment all in the 1970's. The 1980's saw a rise of females entering the medical, law, and business school. People tried to get rid of the label “it's a woman's job” Even though there were some setbacks for women in 1990's, "You go, girl" was a popular expression during the decade. By 1998, there was a TV show on HBO that tried to change how single women should be perceived called, “Sex and the City.”

 

In today's society Feminism is something that is shoved down our throats that we are not being treated well. The media has played a very strong part in trying to make it seem as though women are not being treated right, we need to look and act this way, women are victims, etc.

 

You are only a victim if you decide to be victim. Your life is shaped from the choices you make. As women we can thank the women of the 40's, 50's, 60's, 70's and 80's into helping us get that choice- but saying that we don't have choices today, when we have so much more than most women in other Countries is ridiculous. When you have half the people marching for one thing and half marching for something else as the media outlets were portraying it, besides how it was presented on Facebook a day after Trump won the election, your message gets diluted.

 

The celebrities who joined the march are hurting it- not helping it. Celebrities are pissed beyond belief that Trump won simply because he can now disrupt the status quo. The status quo that shows just how rich and easy they have it. These celebrities are using the marchers to benefit their own cause, not yours. They live in a bubble and have no idea what life is really like outside of it. Angelina Jolie is highly respected because she is fighting for women rights in a place where women don't have any: Cambodia. Cambodian women have less access to land, education,networks, technology, transport, cash and decision-making than men. Funny how even Angelina Jolie knows just how privileged she is living in United States because she deals with trying to help women in Africa and other foreign countries where women don't have the same rights as we do.

 

Today feminist is just a word. It's a word that conjures up hate resentment, and setbacks. Feminism does not make all our lives better as some will argue. You can demand the world take you seriously today without it.

 

My self-worth is not tied to what society says I should wear, how I should speak, who I can date, and what I do for a living. I'm a strong, independent adult, capable of taking care of myself. As a woman living in 2017, I am not oppressed, neither is any other woman today! What right has Trump taken from women?  The answer: none.

 

We live in a world that demands quick and easy results. But we must learn the beauty of effort, patience, and perseverance. Each new President we have in our government, starts a new chapter in our history. Some of them we voted for and some we did not vote for. That is what our democracy is all about. Sometimes life can be hectic, confusing, painful, and unpredictable. We know life is complicated and we all have baggage. But it's the actions we take that determine where we end up. If you want to make things better for other people, there are so many proactive ways to do so. Volunteer your time at a local charity, donate money to a cause you are passionate about, or take time to just pay it forward when you get the chance. The choices you have are endless. It all just falls to you.

 

 

"Real courage is moving forward when the outcome is uncertain." -Michael Angier

 

 

 

 

 

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