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Internet Dating - Welcome to the 21st century version of Blind Dating. Yes this is how I see it. My definition of Blind Dating is being in the dark pretty much about another person.
In the past it would be a friend or someone we know recommending another person and we would go on a date to meet such a person. Not because a friend told us about that person would it necessarily mean he or she would be good for us. We went on a wish and a prayer that it would be what we desired.
I find internet dating to be the same. Instead of being introduced to someone by family or friend we are introducing ourselves to someone based on advertisement or by someone whom we know has been lucky to find their partner through that process.
This is also a leap of faith,when we sign up we are hoping there is someone who will match us on all the required levels as indicated through the sign up process which on the better websites is pretty good.
The advantage is -when completing the sign up process we are evaluating ourselves and if we answer truthfully we should be matched with people who are pretty similar or appear to be,the assumption being that they have been honest.
So our self evaluation through this process will give us time for introspection,to see if we really know ourselves and patterns and to see what it is that we really want.
This beats blind dating the traditional way in that we are now open to really evaluate if we are serious about our wants and desires. Traditional blind dating sometimes prevented that process as we did not want to hurt our family or friends feeling or the date since that person would have been someone who was known.
With Internet Dating the choices are presented to you virtually which means initial interaction would not cause any undue hurt or embarrassment.
You can sit in the comfort of your home,internet cafe or just about anywhere or anytime and have fun making your choices based on whatever criteria you choose. The criteria is different for everyone. For example you may see a guy with great looks and all the attributes required but you decide eeeeek! he cannot spell which could be very important to you and he lives too far away and you could see a guy with average looks who lives closer and you decide on him.
This kind of dating to me is much better than going out to bars and clubs and on blind dates or just settling for someone in your community who may not be the best fit but who you may choose out of loneliness or some other bound to in the long run fail criteria.
And of course being rejected openly for example when you are at a party with your friends and someone chooses your friend over you and your feelings of inadequacy and low self esteem take over are avoided.
With online dating you can make your choices without telling anyone until you feel good about your choices.
There is help from your On line dating provider on communication,dress, choices and a whole host of other areas of help one may need.
For example they will tell you not to meet at your home,meet in a public place etc. Good advise.
This dating arms you with information to start the chat and for your point of reference particularly if the person had been lying on their profile.
Success stories are plenty, what is important to remember, we always choose who we are meaning if we are subconsciously insecure or not open minded we will attract a similar person. Some will say that with online dating you meet creeps,serial offenders and so on but that could also be the cute guy in the check out line in the grocery store or at the gym or at your workplace.
People are not defined by their jobs or just cute smiles or looks but what makes them tick in terms of values,morals and overall outlook on life. If these match your values you go for it.
Online dating is like any other risk we take in life,we are ultimately responsible for our actions.
I have friends who have been successful with online dating as well as some of my daughter's friends, some of my co-workers and guess who else - Moi
I found "My Man" I call him online the one who I have waited for all my life yes but you have to be prepared in
