My Take on Diary of a Single Mom

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Diary of a Single MomA few days ago I had wisdom tooth surgery. While at home recovering, I've had the opportunity to look at Diary of a Single Mom on PICTV. I heard about this show a while ago, but I never really got a chance to look at it. But now that I have, I'm really hooked.

Diary of a Single Mom is about, well, a single mom with two kids, who is trying to create a new life for herself. Ocean Jackson is the main character in town somewhere in California. In each show, she talks about the ups and downs of her life and how she's trying to make it in a world is trying to pull her under.

What I liked about this show is that it portrays single motherhood in a very real and raw light. Ocean Jackson is every single mom and I see myself in her, especially in the early days of my single motherhood. She's tasked with trying to improve herself by getting her GED and going on to college. She wants to make a better life for her children, but she has to navigate through all the obstacles that others seem to put her away.

I like the show very much, but there is an extraordinary amount of drama in each episode, one problem after another; it can seem a bit unrealistic. Even though single motherhood is stressful, there are days when you get a little break. But I guess that’s what keeps viewers coming back.

Ocean appears to be the epitome of strong black motherhood; taking the weight of the world on her shoulders. But she is too meek and prone to over-caring for others while neglecting her own needs. Each show is about 15 minutes long, but in that small space of time you get a good glimpse into the life of this single mom who does everything for everyone else and documents her life through journaling.

What I notice about Ocean is that she has little to no boundaries. Every man in her life takes advantage of her in some form or another. From her Uncle Bo to the landlord to her estranged ex-husband. She is easily made to feel guilty and manipulated into doing things that leave her with the short end of the stick time and time again. The people who claim to love her use that love to add more stress to her life and she falls for it every time. Her hunger for love is what draws her in I suppose.

I get that she wants to be nice, but she’s just too nice. With each new episode we see Ocean Jackson getting stronger but the lessons that could be learned and the boundaries she needs to set seem to take forever. We also see the invisible hands pulling her back into a life that she's trying so desperately to get away from. Trying to break the cycle of poverty, depression, domestic violence, and self-destruction is the theme of this show. The question is will she triumph?

The other characters in the show add very colorful elements that are entertaining, thought-provoking, and a little annoying at times. Lupe is the beautiful vivacious single mom of two by different fathers. She has her own struggles, but she tries to cover them up with humor. She's in school to become a medical assistant and is very close to graduating. But she finds many ways to sabotage her own efforts through destructive and thoughtless behavior.

The Avon lady, Peggy, is a widowed grandmother taking care of her young grandson. She came from a wealthy family, but is now thrown into poverty, because her now deceased husband gambled all their money away. She's having a hard time coping with her new life, and drowns in self-pity through most of the first half of the first season.  Eventually, with the support of Ocean and Lupe, she's learning how to live in this new world of hers.

Diary of a Single Mom is one of those hidden treasures just waiting to be found. Robert Townsend, best known for his role in The Five Heartbeats, is the director of this mini Internet TV series. You won't find this show on the local television station or even a cable station. But you can see shows for this season and the past two seasons on PICTV.com. If you're like me you'll be hooked from the very first show.

Samantha Gregory Founder, RichSingleMomma.com

Twitter: @richsinglemomma

Facebook Fan Page: Rich Single

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