CYBILS Award review: While We Run

OMG I've never read anything like While We Run before! The cover is so breathtaking I can't stand it! The superimposed images of a white girl and a black boy are amazing. I couldn't wait to dig into it.Abdi Taalib thought he was moving to Australia for a music scholarship. But after meeting the beautiful and brazen Tegan Oglietti, his world was turned upside down. Tegan's no ordinary girl - she died in 2027, only to be frozen and brought back to life in Abdi's time, 100 years later....more
Denise how did i miss this comment? i read books out of order all the time. but this is the ... more

6 Lessons I Learned by Dating Outside of My Race

My husband and I have been married for what seems like forever (almost 12 years). Every time we reminisce about our dating years, I can't help but think the challenges of dating outside my race. During my high school years I learned never to bring a black boy home after my mom flipped out when a platonic friend stopped by our home to chat with me. I'm lucky my husband and I eventually had a happy ending, but we had some rough times....more
Interesting reactions. I've dated outside my race plenty. It was never a problem on my end; ... more

X Marked the Lump on My Breast

WHAT IS THIS? My fingers felt a grape size lump under my right breast. Is this a lump on my breast? My heart skipped a beat. What does it look like? I asked Daniel, my future husband, to describe it to me. "It looks like a pimple. Maybe." Okay. So maybe it is a pimple and my skin is reacting to it. To be on the safe side I'll make an appointment on Monday. The "what if it's not" kept my mind racing for hours. It took all of my willpower to not get into bed and cry. It took all of strength to not freak out. If I did freak out then this finding was real. ...more
Wow. such useful information. so GLAD it turned out to be nothing! more

5 Reasons It's Fine to Not Focus on One Passion

I’m a multi-passionate person, but I wasn’t always proud of that fact. ...more
OMG no wonder we get along so well.  SAMESIES! more

What the Steubenville Verdict Taught This Mother

This past weekend the verdict was handed down the Steubenville, Ohio rape trial of two teenage boys. The verdict, crime and victim have been hotly debated. The defense attorney in me looked at the story one way. While the mom in me looked at it another.  It is as the mother of a son, who is a good boy, that I write this article. As mothers of sons,  it is important for us to realize we are our sons' first and most important teachers and we must be specific when teaching our sons life lessons....more
i agree with your points, however, there are times when a male role model just is not ... more

Tips to Protect Black Childhood

Even before I became a mother, I was fiercely protective over little Black girls. Often forgotten and minimized, it was my goal since I was a young girl myself to uplift and encourage our precious babies. I worked with middle school girls for years, pushing them beyond their self and society imposed boundaries, and loving them with all of my heart. Even with my great expectations and high standards, because I knew what they were going through, because I had been through what they were going through, I maintained a safe place for them, always, where they were allowed to be chidren....more
my kids chide me because I say race is an issue in everything.  we deserve to have our names ... more

Reverse Snobbery: Too Pretty To Relate?

Oh...she's gorgeous. My heart sank a little as I saw Ann Voskamp's words, so inspiring and life-changing on the pages of her book, come to life in her small group study DVD. Her book, One Thousand Gifts, has been life changing for me.But her voice, decidedly sultry, didn't match the one I heard in my head as I'd turned those pages late at night. Her hair, a beautiful chestnut color, sat atop her head perfectly coiffed, not a strand out of place. And I'm ashamed to admit, I grew a bit jealous....more
good words. reverse snobbery? something to think about.  thank you. more

Transform Regret Into Action

When I find myself thinking, “If I knew then what I know now,” I admit that I feel a bit regretful. My younger self was full of ideas about the ways that I was going to change the world. I was excited about the possibilities that I had before me, and eager to embrace them. ...more
being an adult student is difficult but not impossible.  let's get er done! how can we help you ... more

Dear Feminists: I'm Already a Woman in Combat

As I watched the video of General Martin Demsey announcing his endorsement of women in combat, I waited. I waited for the backlash. The backlash from the misogynistic males who already have a problem with any woman being in the service, unless she works in administration or the chow hall. The backlash from the Bible thumpers pleading that we "think of the babies" and not place their mothers in harms way. But most of all, I waited for the feminists....more
Thank you for defending my stupid country who feels it's ok to criticize someone for protecting ... more

Watch Me Launch! Happy New Life, Happy New Career?

What happens when you start living that amazing life you dreamed about...when you find yourself finally standing on that proverbial hill under the rainbow of your dreams?  Change happens. And change brings with it brand new life challenges to replace your old ones!  That's where I am today - facing the challenges that come with a happy new life and a (hopefully) happy new career. Follow along and I'll share the frustrations and rewards, relationship issues, moments of self-discovery and surprises that come up when all of your dreams start coming true. ...more
i'm looking forward to reading how you found your thing. lost my job last week and i'm thinking ... more