Five Big Mistakes Parents of Autistic Kids Can Avoid

If you're the parent of an autistic kid, you probably get advice thrown at your head from every angle, all day long. You may even be all done with advice. And I hear you, because I am you. But I also have had the great good fortune to be connected with some of the most insightful autistic and autism professionals and thinkers on this planet, who have transformed my parenting approach completely, and to the benefit of my teen son, Leo, as well as myself. ...more
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The Informed Parent: Here's How to Be One

In this info-glut age, few areas teem with more bewildering contradictions than the realm of pregnancy and parenting advice....more
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Forget Awareness. Let's Make It Autism Acceptance Month

April is all about autism acceptance for me, and also for most of the autism families and autistic people I hang with. Why the focus on acceptance, and not merely the "awareness" so many autism organizations push all April long? As I wrote last year: "Why acceptance? Because autistic people like my teenage son Leo deserve the love and respect that come with acceptance, not merely acknowledgment that autism exists. Awareness is passive. Acceptance is a choice." ...more
I've been particularly impressed by the cooperation btwn autistics & our allies toward that ...more

Which Candidates Give a Damn About Autism and Disability Issues?

The current slate of POTUS contenders makes me uneasy, especially when it comes to what so many of them have to say about autism and disability issues. Most of the candidates really don't get what our autistic children, friends, and family members need our political leaders to do for them: Treat them like deserving human beings. ...more
A great post. Struggling with disability, I found this concise view of the candidates platforms ...more

11 Ways to Make Your Autistic Child's Life Easier

Loving that autistic child of yours with all your heart is a wonderful, precious experience. If you’re not autistic yourself, though, even the purest love won't help you understand how being autistic affects your child’s body, their senses, and how they interact with the world. ...more
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How Can We Do Better By Our Autistic Girls?

Autism is different for girls, and not only because fewer girls than boys get autism diagnoses. Autistic women and girls not only tend to have different traits than autistic boys do, but are also socialized differently -- leading to many of those girls being overlooked or misdiagnosed well into adulthood, and leading most of their life without the supports that could have made their lives much easier. It gets even more complicated when autistic girls are also racial minorities, and/or from low-income households....more
I shared this with two friends who have autistic daughters. BTW, I loved how the autistic girls' ...more

Thoughtful Gifts For Your Favorite Autistic People

Be thoughtful. That's the best advice I can give to anyone looking for gifts for autistic friends and loved ones. Ask after what they really like, want, or need, and be ready to embrace free-thinking gifts like jumbo rolls of bubble wrap. If you are after more specific advice, or need more than gift guides of holidays past, please consider these items that my autistic son Leo, his friends, and his community members appreciate....more
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What Kinds of Therapies Actually Help Autistic Kids?

At two-and-a-half, my autistic son spoke more often than several other kids in his regional center-funded speech and language class. Two years later, several of those kids talked non-stop, whereas my son continued to speak only occasionally, and mostly kept his own counsel. We parents of those kids constantly compared notes, as parents of autistic kids often do, about the differences in our kids' speaking abilities. Which different therapies and interventions were our kids receiving? How did they make a difference, and why? ...more
To all my fellow autistics and Aspies out there, here is the New Oxford American Dictionary ...more

5 Reasons Autism Communities Are Divided (and Why That’s Not Necessarily a Bad Thing)

I hate conflict, yet the autism corners of the Internet -- where I spent most of my online time -- are rarely without it. So I get why well-intentioned parents and professionals periodically send out can't we all just get along calls for "autism unity," because I want things to be smoother for all of us, too. ...more
"spent decades being silenced" We're still silenced. Groups like Autism speaks have a megaphone, ...more

No, He Really Can't Have It. Please Don't Sabotage My Child's Special Diet!

My son Leo is on a medically managed diet for a non-autism-related medical condition. Which is easily manageable, as long as we plan ahead. Every so often, though, we find ourselves in social situations with dietary complications, and encounter folks who dismiss our, "I’m sorry, he can't eat that," with, "But why can't he have just one bite? Surely that won't hurt." 

 If you've ever been that causally dismissive person, I'm asking you to please stop. Please stop right there. And listen hard, and then repeat: Do NOT contradict someone who has told you their child can't have a certain food. Don't do it. Just don't. Again, please. ...more
An uncle actually told me once that if I just prayed over my food I could eat it.  I have ...more