It's the Worst Time of Year to Get Engaged

Did you know that 26% of all engagements occur at Christmas time? Tucked right in there with all the excitement, stress and partying of the holiday season, a man and woman decide to commit their future to each other. It's the worst time of the year to make such an important decision.An engagement ring is not a gift, like jewelry or a cashmere sweater. The ring is the beginning of a commitment that you fulfill when you marry. If either of you decide not to marry, you have to return the ring....more
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An Honest Letter to the Bride

I’m thrilled that you’ve found the man of your dreams. But frankly, your choosing to be married at a posh resort outside Aspen is going to present financial challenges for us, your invited guests.Was nothing available closer to home? Ater all, most of us live in San Francisco. Yes, I know you’re sentimental about having met in Aspen, when you took a tumble on the ski slope and he helped you up, and you just knew you were meant for each other. But fifty people will be traveling to Aspen when you could have been married on the slopes at Lake Tahoe....more
@Lucy's Reality Actually Lucy I'm not going. And I'm doing just what you suggested - sending a ... more

Financial Abuse is a Woman’s Problem

It's not a quirk. It's not protective. It's not loving. Checking your every purchase and not letting you have a say in financial decisions is a form of abuse. It's a desire to control the relationship and it can be a precursor to physical and emotional abuse. If you’re married and in a community property state, you are legally entitled to know what's happening financially in your marriage. Know your rights. ...more
@avflox It's sad that so many warning signs of potential financial abuse are evident in a ... more