Tantrums & Grief in the Grocery: More Than Meets the Eye

I don't realize my son is tense, bothered, quiet. I don't realize it until later, after the urge to strangle him had subsided. One of the special racks, at the end of the fourth or fifth aisle, is stacked with boxes of muesli bars. "Can we get some of these please Mum?" I barely even glance at him. "We can, but not from here. When we get around to where they usually are, where there's lots of them to choose from, we'll get them then." Those of you who spend time in the company of small children know how this next bit goes. Small child begins to whinge, their drawn out pleas often mixed with exaggerated sobs in the back of their throat. ...more
Hey, my blog-friend from the other side of the world! How lovely to find you syndicated here - ... more

Some Thoughts on Voices of the Year

Whenever anyone new to the BlogHer annual conference has asked for a description of the Voices of the Year Community Keynote, I resort to saying something like, "It's the beating heart of the conference." And then I add, "And also its funny bone." Then, "Okay, and also its conscience." It may sound hyperbolic, but I wind up saying that the Voices of the Year Community Keynote is nothing less than an in-person demonstration of why so many of us bother to read and write blogs....more
Polly, I can't even begin to tell you how honored and proud I was to have been a VOTY reader ... more

What Were Your BlogHer '12 Moments?

Reflecting on my BlogHer experience in New York City this year, I realized that my conference was filled with a lot of little moments that created a bigger picture of the event. As we read through all of your important post-conference posts, I wondered if others here at BlogHer had a moment this year that really defined the conference for them, that they will look back on and think, "Oh yes, that happened at BlogHer '12. Of course they did. I asked a few staff members who in one way or another shaped your conference this year to share their moment in hopes of inspiring our members to share their moment. This is what they had to say....more
I have to say that as a Voice of the Year reader, my highlight was being a part of that keynote. ... more

After BlogHer '12 -- What You're Tweeting!

Hopefully you have made your way home -- safely -- from BlogHer '12 and have started the re-entry process into your daily life. I know a large number of you already have, because you're tweeting about what you did, what you liked, what you didn't like, what you learned, and what you've written since the conference. You guys are awesome and we love it all. Today we decided to give readers a broad twitter overview of what people are tweeting since the conference ended. ...more
Here it is! My "First Thoughts on BlogHer '12"   And this year it didn't take me a bloody MONTH ... more

I Can't Remember the Last Time I Wasn't Squashed by My Family

It's been ten days now since my 89-year-old mother fell, broke her hip, and landed in the hospital via the ER. And thus I'm in my second week of being completely torn between my mother's and my family's total need of me. To say I am nearly being ripped apart by this is an understatement. ...more
 @thompsonsaraht Being there is really the most of what we can give. I am so glad you and your ... more

I Can't Remember the Last Time I Wasn't Squashed by My Family

It's been ten days now since my 89-year-old mother fell, broke her hip, and landed in the hospital via the ER. And thus I'm in my second week of being completely torn between my mother's and my family's total need of me. To say I am nearly being ripped apart by this is an understatement. ...more
 @JennaHatfield Thank you so much. It is so hard to be in the middle of losing a loved one, a ... more

Special Kids Need Adult Role Models

Leo's kind of autism is not subtle. It's intense. He's not much for speaking, or reacting to questions in expected ways -- though he usually does hear what's said, and respond in his own way. Sometimes his autism means exuberant whooping and galloping in great big circles with no concern for social propriety. Many people assume Leo wouldn't have much in common with Zoe, an autistic college student -- probably because Zoe can speak in a more typical manner than Leo. That doesn't mean she's not autistic -- it means others don't always perceive the effort she puts into communicating and getting through her day....more
Shannon, thanks so much for this wonderful post. And? I am so envious that your son has those ... more

Announcing the Voices of the Year '12 Honorees and Readers!

Today we are pleased and proud to announce the next group of people who will see that view for themselves. It's time to announce the final 2012 BlogHer Voices of the Year!...more
Ack! I meant to say "Thank you, this is such an honor" as soon as the announcement came out - ... more

Announcing the Voices of the Year '12 Honorees and Readers!

Today we are pleased and proud to announce the next group of people who will see that view for themselves. It's time to announce the final 2012 BlogHer Voices of the Year!...more
SO thrilled to be on that stage reading with you, Neil. I remember so clearly how shell shocked ... more

I Used to Have Ann Romney's Life. I Had Privilege.

Note: This piece was fueled by exasperation and inspired by two excellent blogs posts -- by Grace Hwang Lynch and Pamela Kripke -- that urge those who "got privilege" to name it. I used to have Ann Romney's life. The first time around I married into a family that was rich. Romney Rich....more
Thank you so much for the truths in this post. For naming privilege for what it is. That is what ... more