My take on tampon ads

Tampon commercials, and any other advertisements for “feminine hygiene products”, are a bit odd. For one thing, they seem to be aimed at women who have no other concerns with their life than if they are going to get to wear white clothing that day. There are never the more realistic commercials of “ if you wear X pad + a tampon big enough to be mistaken for a sheep, then you might only stain you pajamas as opposed to having to strip and remake the bed”....more
or this is why you should TOTALLY be in marketing.  though i do like you on our side.... more

Online Reputation Management for Sex Bloggers

I chose to live a transparent life, to come "out" as a sex blogger because I believe being out is a safer place to be than being in the closet. Make no mistake, I'm no altruist; I do what I do because doing it makes my situation better than not doing it. The reason I am so strongly supportive of other people choosing to live an open life is solely because coming out of the closet is a vaccine against blackmail, emotional abuse, and shame. ...more
I am already totally bumming on this front.  At one point at least, due to a perfect storm of ... more

Trends in cosmetic surgery that I do NOT understand

You know, there was a time, not so long ago, when I thought that THE dumbest “cosmetic” procedure I had ever heard of was ...more
okay betty, i just got a genius idea for us poor bloggers.  so, based on what we've learned from ... more

What Female Sexual Dysfunction and Vaginal Rejuvenation Have in Common

I'm not arguing that some women don't have sexual problems that could be improved medically, but a lot of the Female Sexual Dysfunction "symptoms" are just the way women are. Yes, women can take a long time to come, yes, women can take a while to get aroused, and, yes, women get pissed at their mates which, yeah, does affect desire. ...more
Jerry, I so appreciate your taking the time to write such helpful and well-though out words both ... more

Vagina Lightening Cream for Lady Bits So White They Shine!

[Editor's Note: Summer's just around the corner! Which means it's the time of year when white women try to get tan, and brown women try to keep themselves from... getting browner. Skin lightening creams are nothing new in Asia, Africa and Latin America, but now there's a whitening product aimed where the sun don't shine. Seriously. Jen Wang of DISGRASIAN writes about how the colonial and cultural quest for fairer skin is going places it's never gone before. --Grace]...more
This is such insane b.s., possibly harmful, goes against basic biology, confusing (can anal ... more

What Female Sexual Dysfunction and Vaginal Rejuvenation Have in Common

I'm not arguing that some women don't have sexual problems that could be improved medically, but a lot of the Female Sexual Dysfunction "symptoms" are just the way women are. Yes, women can take a long time to come, yes, women can take a while to get aroused, and, yes, women get pissed at their mates which, yeah, does affect desire. ...more
Btw, we are all also now supposed to bleach our vulvas as well.  So get right on ... more

What Female Sexual Dysfunction and Vaginal Rejuvenation Have in Common

I'm not arguing that some women don't have sexual problems that could be improved medically, but a lot of the Female Sexual Dysfunction "symptoms" are just the way women are. Yes, women can take a long time to come, yes, women can take a while to get aroused, and, yes, women get pissed at their mates which, yeah, does affect desire. ...more
@CreoleQueen I am so beyond unhappy that your ex would deem himself the arbiter of vag beauty. ... more

What Female Sexual Dysfunction and Vaginal Rejuvenation Have in Common

I'm not arguing that some women don't have sexual problems that could be improved medically, but a lot of the Female Sexual Dysfunction "symptoms" are just the way women are. Yes, women can take a long time to come, yes, women can take a while to get aroused, and, yes, women get pissed at their mates which, yeah, does affect desire. ...more
joeinvegas, THANK YOU for a male perspective.     dirtycowgirl, you rock my world. more

The Re-​​Appearing Act: When An Ex Returns

At some point in many of our lives, we will find some­one to whom we are des­per­ately attracted, and yet who end­lessly hurts or exhausts us. The stakes seem so high, the desire is so deep, but so too the pain. In her diaries, Anais Nin writes of Henry Miller: "this love will either kill or save me forever." Which will it be? Will the love slowly eat at your soul as you fruitlessly con­tinue to search for the grail while suf­fo­cat­ing in its tomb -- or will it give you the courage to cru­sade, to fight to the death, and to dis­cover some­thing truly sacred? ...more
holy crap, that's good. i am in agreement on loving the line on mourning the possibility. nice ... more

Seven Gifts For Yourself He'll Love

Face it, you're naughty. You could buy him a pair of cufflinks or a shirt or something, but you're more interested in buying something for yourself. Yes, I know. I too have been on Santa's coal list for decades. Don't worry, I've got you covered. When it comes to getting in the holiday spirit, I know just where to go to get my seasonal bedtime get-ups. Wait, did I say I had you covered? Just barely! ...more
Damn, I don't know if I could take the trauma of wearing that Santa coat but w/o those ... more