My Cats and Dogs Are Pets, Not Furbabies

I have five pets, and I realize that pushes me over the she’s-sane line by about three animals. I didn’t start out this life thinking I’d have five pets, OK? I relationshipped into one cat, and I found one dog on the side of a busy road. My best friend talked me into my fluffy gray cat who was lingering at the pound, and the other two are 100% my fault. Because I am clearly an animal lover, I get a lot of email and Facebook posts about animals, and I like this. Of course, I want to see kittens doing that sideways spider kitty thing and talking dogs. Who doesn’t?...more
Have you read Culture Clashby Jean Donaldson? I think you'd dig it. more

10 Things Parents Shouldn't Say To Non-Parents

Lately, I've seen some articles (this one in particular) about how people with kids are tired of hearing certain things from people without munchkins. I know, I know, we don't get it. But maybe, possibly, you're forgetting what it's like to not have kids. There are different stresses but stress none the less. ...more
When I get #4 I always think, "Really? That's incredibly sad for you and for your kids." more

Am I Promoting "Rape Culture" With My Relationship Advice?

Last week I wrote a post that was shared so many times on Facebook and seen by lots and lots of people... it's quickly made it to the top 3 most viewed posts on my site and I am happy that people found it useful at all. It always makes me nervous to post about marriage, or about advice we have used that worked... anytime it gets down to the personal, there is always a possibility of offending someone who just might do it different than we do....more
NewlywedsonaBudget FeministaJonesI absolutely agree with advocating and promoting enthusiastic ... more

My Wakeup Call

I remember it like it was yesterday.  Oh wait.  It was yesterday.  The voice on the other end of the phone was telling me that I had been cast as a speaker in the NYC version of Listen To Your Mother, a national series of live readings in 32 series nationwide in celebration of Mother’s Day.So how did I, a Westchester mother who works in the Financial District, end up getting the call?  Let me, first, retrace my steps....more
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Facing Harsh Realities in '12 Years a Slave'

I'll make it clear up front. 12 Years a Slave is not an easy movie to watch.  It transports us back to a time in American history that makes us all feel incredibly uncomfortable.  I'll be honest, as much as I wanted to see this lauded film I worried it would be too devastating. But that's exactly why everyone needs to see the movie. We need to come face-to-face, eye-to-eye with the harsh realities of America's past, and the movie is so well done that it makes it possible for all of us to do this. ...more
I saw the movie at an artsy cinema on the upper West side on a weekday afternoon. I felt as ... more

Women Who Choose Abortion Have Feelings, Too

Fourteen years ago, I sat bawling hysterically in a women's health center. My lower stomach had been cramping for about three weeks. I thought I was just ovulating, and that it was normal....more
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Apple Cider Caramel Cookies

Cold weather means it's time for hot cider. And cookies are appropriate for any weather. I stumbled upon these Apple Cider Caramel Cookies recipe from Six Sisters. The idea of using cider in cookies and stuffing them with caramel was a great combination, perfect for the freezing Chicago weather....more
My friend makes and sells some fabulous flavors of caramel sauce, Spoonable Caramel. I think you ... more

Marking Roe v. Wade: Where Do You Stand on Abortion Rights?

A snow storm closed area schools for two days, but that didn't stop busloads of people from braving the weather to head down to the Mall in order to affirm and protest abortion rights on the 41st anniversary of Roe v. Wade. ...more
I am strongly pro choice because to oppose a woman's right to choose, in whole or in part, is ... more

Best, Worst and WTF Moments from the 2014 Golden Globe Awards

Amy, Tina, Joaquin, Melissa, JLD, Leo, Julia, Meryl, Bryan, Diddy, Taylor, Robin, Bono and Matthew "all right all right all right" McConaughey. Last night was a party for me and a few of my best friends. And by best friends I mean Twitter, because watching an awards show is only fun if you can hashtag it with the rest of the binge-watchers of the world. Live television is social, and during the Golden Globes we are united in our dislike of Ryan Seacrest, our exuberance for all things Meryl Streep and our nostalgia for the days when U2 were rockstars. ...more
I took the Woody Allen tribute as an opportunity to walk the dog so I could go to sleep as soon ... more

Why I Can’t Say I’m An Ally to People of Color

As a white queer feminist anti-racist, I believe it’s not my place to state that I’m an ally to people of color. What I can say is that I strive to be an ally and it’s my job to keep learning what people of color consider an ally. The single most important way to learn this is to listen, and as a feminist, I am particularly committed to listening to women of color....more
Thank you for addressing the term ally in this way. I've struggled with why I find it ... more