Raising a Feminist Son in the Princess Culture

When I found out that I was going to have a son I was so surprised. A boy? What? Immediately I had visions of this super aggressive and dominant child. Isn’t that what they are? They are The Man. They are the ones oppressing women. And now I was going to have to parent one. No opportunity to continue the “girl power” culture that I loved so much. But a funny thing happened when I met my son -- I started to realize how destructive girl power can be to boys....more
I always wanted one boy and one girl, you know, even and balanced. When I found out I was ... more

Working Moms: Don't Say This!

It continues to amaze me the things we say as women (that men would NEVER say). Take some of the darndest things that working moms say for instance. Read on to see if you're guilty of saying these things. ...more
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A Husband, A Father, A Mormon... And Gay?

Josh Weed is a husband, a father, a member of the Mormon Church -- and he's gay. Earlier this month, he and his wife coauthored a post on his blog about how they have made their marriage work these past ten years. This is a summary of their story, as well as a roundup of the different aspects of this story that concern the blogosphere. ...more
I love this. You represented many sides of the story and made me think about issues I might not ... more

We Are Killing Our Children

I believe structure is killing our children. We offer them so much structured learning and play time that they are never put into a situation where they have to be inventive and brave. They NEVER have to learn to figure things out for themselves. Yes, in order to get a child to do what you want when you want, the best way is to create a schedule for them. Structure the basics like meals, potty and sleep so as to structure them from the inside out. This way it is easy to get them used to your schedule and way of doing things. And I agree with this type of structure....more
Also, most people don't go around suing day cares because their kids are climbing trees. If your ... more

We Are Killing Our Children

I believe structure is killing our children. We offer them so much structured learning and play time that they are never put into a situation where they have to be inventive and brave. They NEVER have to learn to figure things out for themselves. Yes, in order to get a child to do what you want when you want, the best way is to create a schedule for them. Structure the basics like meals, potty and sleep so as to structure them from the inside out. This way it is easy to get them used to your schedule and way of doing things. And I agree with this type of structure....more
I surprised myself today. I am actually not offended by your article. I think it is well thought ... more

I Choose My Kids Over Friends and Me-Time

A friend is having a fabulous 40th birthday getaway in a few months. It involves a short flight and a drive and some fabulous scenery and spa and an overnight stay at a great house. Guests are making their plans for flying in from all over the place and it looks like a really good time. I'll be sending my regrets. It's not the money, or the schedule, or even childcare, really, that is keeping me away. Those things can be worked out. It's this person right here. He has spent every night of his short 20 months firmly tucked in against my side and nursing when he wakes before drifting off to sleep again. ...more
@carrien Honestly--It is the title that illicited my ire from the very beginning. As a writer ... more

I Choose My Kids Over Friends and Me-Time

A friend is having a fabulous 40th birthday getaway in a few months. It involves a short flight and a drive and some fabulous scenery and spa and an overnight stay at a great house. Guests are making their plans for flying in from all over the place and it looks like a really good time. I'll be sending my regrets. It's not the money, or the schedule, or even childcare, really, that is keeping me away. Those things can be worked out. It's this person right here. He has spent every night of his short 20 months firmly tucked in against my side and nursing when he wakes before drifting off to sleep again. ...more
Who exactly is pushing moms into feeling like they have to get away? You are clear about what ... more

No Excuses: Parenting Isn't Hard

Parenting isn’t hard. Well, okay, sometimes it’s hard. Sometimes I participate in a discussion about someone in public being mean to their child. By “being mean” I mean spanking, slapping, grabbing, yanking, dragging, yelling, name-calling, belittling, punishing and so forth. And there’s always someone in these discussions ready to declare that “parenting is hard” and we should therefore cut the parent some slack. And I just reject this wholeheartedly....more
That's true, maybe if the scene at McDonald's was between two adults it WOULD cause some eye ... more