Manifest Destiny: Gap, What Were You Thinking?

Full disclosure: I like The Gap. Honestly, I do. Since Theo’s birth, I’ve spent a significant portion of my time (and income) in Gap Kids, cooing over pint-sized button-down shirts, cunning little sweater vests and pastel onesies sporting adorably clever graphics. I’ve even written here before about how impressed I was that they were selling pink and purple clothing in the boys’ department....more
@fat girl blogger  @bellejarblog You do not speak for this Native American woman. I am highly ... more

Paul Frank Apologizes to Native Americans for Pow Wow Theme

Brands, take note! Paul Frank Industries was recently criticized by the Native American community over their "Dream Catchin' Powwow" party for Fashion's Night Out. Instead of dodging the question or issuing a vague non-apology, President of Paul Frank Industries Elie Dekel responded via email to Adrienne from Native Appropriations, and followed up with a phone call. Check out what Adrienne has to say: ...more
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Standing Up For Chick-fil-A

The ruckus over Chick-fil-A raises the question: Who's behaving like the hater here?...more
 @MeetTheSkeptic I believe what you are misunderstanding, is that Gay is not a behavior. If you ... more

Standing Up For Chick-fil-A

The ruckus over Chick-fil-A raises the question: Who's behaving like the hater here?...more
A quote that says it better than I: ‎"When gays get so angry about a chicken sandwich, it is ... more

Actually, I AM an American

[Editor's Note: It's the time of year when people talk about how proud they are to be American. But what if your "American-ness" is constantly questioned? Check out this excerpt from House of Peanut and tell us how you would deal with these kinds of comments. --Grace]...more
I have gotten the same question my whole life as well. "What's your nationality?" or "What are ... more

How Far Would You Go to Protect Your Child? Would You Kill Someone?

I try to avoid the news. Okay, not all the news -- just the news that talks about cannibals eating someone’s face off or something along those lines. I mean, dear Lord, is it really necessary to run a headline on that story and then put a warning about graphic photos? Does the world really need to see graphic photos of a man whose face was eaten off by a cannibal? I’m going to go out on a limb and say…no. I did, however, break my no-sensational-story rule when I saw the headline, “Texas dad beats 4-year-old daughter's alleged attacker to death” in the Los Angeles Times....more
 @xina143 As an adult, I would not have done what my dad did... but my husband might.   These ... more

How Far Would You Go to Protect Your Child? Would You Kill Someone?

I try to avoid the news. Okay, not all the news -- just the news that talks about cannibals eating someone’s face off or something along those lines. I mean, dear Lord, is it really necessary to run a headline on that story and then put a warning about graphic photos? Does the world really need to see graphic photos of a man whose face was eaten off by a cannibal? I’m going to go out on a limb and say…no. I did, however, break my no-sensational-story rule when I saw the headline, “Texas dad beats 4-year-old daughter's alleged attacker to death” in the Los Angeles Times....more
When I was a little girl, I used to fly paper airplanes on the lawn with my dad on Sunday ... more

Answering the Question that Will Shape Him Forever: "Can Two Girls Love Each Other?"

Caesar waits as I ponder, poking his finger around the container filled with the rainbow colored stars I've already stamped out, for the Mother's Day cards he'll be decorating later. That must have been what prompted the question. He has so many grandmothers, after all. He flushes a bit, I've kept him waiting too long and now he's worried he asked an inappropriate question. He shuffles his feet, and speaks again: "I was just wondering how they love each other and if it's okay." He's only five now, but how I answer this will shape what he knows, what he lives, what he repeats -- forever. ...more
Beautiful!  I have four sons and have been asked this question too. "What do they DO?"  You are ... more

The Devil Was After My Child: Shedding Light on Pospartum Psychosis

My eyes shot open. There it was again... the rustling... the breathing... the scurrying. I scanned what I could of the dark room, and glanced at my sleeping husband next to me. Should I wake him? He could not help. He would not understand. It was up to me. I strained in the dark to see the little bassinet that held our sleeping son -- only eight weeks old. I prayed that he wouldn't wake up. If he did, the crying would never stop. I became more and more certain that it was not this mysterious "colic" that was bothering him. I began to know that the crying, the agitation, the wailing for dear life, was because the baby knew... he could feel it. The devil was after my child....more
Oh so beautifully written! I felt right there in your shoes. Thank you for sharing this with the ... more

Understanding The Troubles With Teenage Boys

Most of us have learned the language of worrying about teenage girls: We talk about self-esteem, body image, mean girls, ambition. We teach them to turn inward for approval and decision-making, rather than relying on peers as pilot lights for their life. We tolerate their vanity, their need always to be in a group of friends, whether in person or online, and their snide, condescending remarks toward us as they begin the long, slow process of separating. Indeed, there is a pretty well-defined and understood arc that a teenage girl goes through. This is not to say it isn't riven with potential pitfalls, but we believe we know the dynamic after twelve years of discovery and research, ever since Mary Pipher wrote her watershed book about the crisis of being 13, Reviving Ophelia. ...more
Stacy, I also have an 8 year old son (who recently got into a playground fight). I am so curious ... more