Childfree Response to "Of Pleasure and Parenthood"

I call this "On pleasure and personhood -- the final word." Last year I was visiting my childhood friend, now a mother, when dinner time arrived. She squirted ketchup onto her daughter’s plate and then her son’s. And then mine. I looked at it. She immediately recognized her mistake and laughed. She knew I could squirt my own ketchup, she said, but she was just so used to doing it … she apologized (still laughing) for overstepping her role as “mother” by inadvertently mothering me. ...more
@Kizz I so agree. As I put it elsewhere, "my happy, childfree existence undermines the belief of ... more

Should Salons Have Child Free Policies?

Have you and your children ever been turned away from somewhere? Not because the kids are being loud and obnoxious. But just because they EXIST. That’s what happened to me today....more
Unruly children have ruined many experiences for me. Not all parents can be counted on to remove ... more

How Not to Win Friends and Influence People in Email

Let me preface this post by saying that I love email. I really do. I love having the freedom to compose my words carefully and strategically. I like having a paper trail that I can reference when needed. Plus, I hate getting caught off guard and stuttering a lame comeback instead of presenting a polished, intelligent response. Because despite the fact that I'm actually a spokesperson and have spoken at many events and conferences, I admit it....more
Forwarding a message that has already been forwarded multiple times, and leaving in all the ... more

Halloween Needs More Death

As Halloween approaches, it brings a tide of childhood memories: handmade princess costumes, the joy of free candy, the rule among my peers to hold our breath when passing a cemetery so we wouldn't ‘catch’ death. As children, it seemed that simple not to die, and secular America hasn't outgrown that belief. But by ignoring and hiding death, we remain helpless against our fundamental fear of it. Through my practice of mindfulness meditation I have discovered just how fearful and resistant I am to the concept of death as I develop a mindful approach to facing it. ...more
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How to Get Published: Before We Even Get Started (Part One)

I am a published author. And you can be, too. ...more
I blog at about discrimination, employment law, animal rights, being ... more

Room at the Hyatt to split. ROOM IS TAKEN.

Hotel is 5-minute walk from the conference. Booked for Thurs, Fri, & Sat night. Email me at piperhoffman AT yahoo DOT com.

The Marriott...The Host Hotel....A MUST?

Debating on the Marriott or another hotel. I'm on a budget, but want to get the most out of the conference. Are there any other attendees from previous years who could say it's a must to stay at the host hotel?| CrazySingleMom- blogging about my experience as the only active parent in my son's life- visit my blog at

High Heels: Empowering or Demeaning?

"Should women never wear heels? That is between them and the god of their choice, but if they do ... more