Whatever you do, don't get old.

Imagine if you were invited to speak at an event, and no one came. Or perhaps, for better or worse, just maybe, everyone came? ...more

Midlife Mom Requests College Do-Over

Dear Admissions of Elite Liberal Arts College that Promises to Teach Me to Think, Creatively Problem Solve, and Never Take No for an Answer:...more

Throwdown at soccer: moms behaving badly

I missed the whole thing.I stayed home to make sure teenagers didn't have sex on my couch, while rather attractive husband took Boy to the soccer tournament 4 hours away where these extraordinary, highly-scouted 12 year old phenoms need to travel to find any competition worth playing....more

When a Joke Isn't Funny: Bomb Threat in Newtown Causes Panic

This is not the post I want to write, but it's one I have to write. I'd like to think you have no idea what it's like for people in Newtown, and especially our vulnerable Sandy Hook families, to get that reverse 911 call: the automatic alert set up for emergency school closures, in case of, you know, a snowstorm. Or a broken water pipe. Or a low-to-no threat bomb scare and subsequent evacuation. But unfortunately, more and more and more of you do know what it's like. ...more
My stomach is sick reading this, I feel entwined yet removed, deeply affected yet unsure that I ...more

When a threat is no laughing matter

Last week, Newtown parents received a reverse 911 call, alerting us to a no-to-low risk threat at Sandy Hook School. Our community responded with resiliency and effectiveness. I, however, did not.Read how that one phone call sent this mom into a tailspin here. kathrynmayer.com ...more

Lessons Learned from Newtown, Connecticut

Editor's Note: Police confirmed reports of a shooting at Arapahoe High School in Colorado today, a year after the Newtown tragedy. The suspect, a student, is reported to have died of apparently self-inflicted gunshot wounds after injuring two people. BlogHer is monitoring the reports and will update as the story develops. -- Julie If tragedy strikes your town, like it did mine, this may or may not happen to you. Hopefully, you will never know....more

What Back-to-School in Newtown, Connecticut Feels Like

Yesterday was the first day of school, and I so remember last year, when I teased my teenagers and mockingly made a video of them heading off to that first milestone day. The most wonderful day of the year for so many working parents! This year is different. ...more
My heart ached the day I heard about the shooting at Newtown. I remember walking on my treadmill ...more

Newtown: Where Everybody Knows Your Name

I'm having a hard time getting back to life: attending multiple wakes and funerals for dead 7 year olds and dead moms tend to do that. Harsh words, but it's a harsh world we're left with here in Newtown.I'm left speechless. And ambitionless. And aimless. And well, just tired.I sleep a lot these days – soundly, like when I was pregnant and just need to shut my eyes for 10 minutes then zonk out into a deadman's sleep .... oops. Probably shouldn't say that. There's lots of things I can't say anymore, and even more I can't hear....more

Deep, Dark, Dirty Secrets

This title alone is going to get me so many smut comments and skeevy followers, who will no doubt be as disappointed as the bible thumpers who also read me in hopes of first, inspiration, then afterwards with such gusto and full on assault, of saving another lost soul, mine.You lose.This post will be about the intricate, dirty whispered secrets of a marriage. My marriage. What happens to keep the love alive in the bedroom, the bathroom, every nook and cranny of my life....more