How to Get Through Postpartum Anxiety

I was "ready" for postpartum issues. I was prepared. I had my placenta encapsulated. I told myself I would ask for help (and I did). I was determined to breastfeed, even if it was hard. Since I have had anxiety issues since I was 23 years old, I knew it was a possibility that I could have them while my body sorted through the muck of my hormonal roller coaster after birth. And despite the steps I took at preventing a postpartum anxiety issue, it came anyway, right on schedule at the six week mark. ...more
Realizing in hindsight how bad it had gotten was not something I expected. But maybe it was ...more

The Disturbing Judgement of Other Mothers....

I knew before I got pregnant that parenthood came with a lot of shame; I had read about it over and over in Brene Brown’s books. I had the unpleasant opportunity to experience such shame when I wrote about my experience with my sexuality and pregnancy and a small placenta issue several weeks ago....more

Coming To Grips With A Hospital Birth

Did you all know that I was born at home? I was. My mom is a natural kind of woman and when it came to her babies, I was born at home (when we lived in New York) and my brother was born at the birthing center (in Delaware.) When I got pregnant, call me crazy, the last thing that was on my mind was how in the world I was going to give birth....more
MindyRoberts That is true!! One of the nurses told me they like to hold space in the rooms for ...more

My Doctor Judged Me for Wanting to Have Sex, for Not Being a "Selfless Mother"

Most women (parents or not) are probably familiar with the image of the selfless mother. You might, in fact, be so familiar with it that you don't even think about a mother without automatically assuming how selfless she is. After all, the American ideal seems to scream that we women should think of nothing but our children once they are born. And I will try (and fail, right here, right now) not to mention the fact that motherhood is basically still a given in our society and those who decide they don't want children are still seen as oddballs. ...more
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Is It A Crime? [I Love Sprinkle Cheese]

Some of us have complicated relationships with cheese. As a young woman, I have gone through a lot of phrases with food. Before I found my way back to my Italian-American heritage, I am slightly embarrassed to say that I had all but cut cheese out of my diet. We can all agree that is a small tragedy....more

Our Collective Family Memories: Grandma Doesn't Remember Lasagna

“I talked to grandma yesterday,” my mom said cautiously, referring to her mother as "grandma" for my sake, “and she asked me something really funny.” I slowed my tomato processing to listen. “She asked me if she ever made lasagna before.” This gripped my attention because, of course, lasagna had been something my grandma has always made. And she didn’t remember. Not only did she not remember, but she had to ask. ...more
My grandmother had Alzheimer's.  I was in my teens, quite young, and didn't understand the ...more

The Truth About Combined Finances

 This whole “what’s mine is yours” concept seems all la la la and fairy dust and stuff, but in reality I find it’s more like, “I would like to share, but at the same time, this sucks a little bit too.” My husband and I have been together for nine and a half years, married for almost three, and we are STILL getting the hang of this combined finances thing.Why? Because it’s not a teddy bear’s picnic--it’s real life. ...more
We've always combined our finances - honestly I don't think we even discussed never ...more

The Husband Parade

Is it just me, or do other married women out there feel like they are doing a lot of housework? It’s not that I mind, really. It channels my anxiety to clear tasks and afterward I feel accomplished. It’s no secret that I love the grocery store. I love when the house looks all sparkly and stuff, and when people tell me that my house looks nice, I feel I have won a small victory....more

Weddings Vs. Marriages

There is nothing more bubbly, positive and brimming with possibility than a bride. There is something so exciting about being engaged to married--something surreal. During an engagement there is this alternate universe that seems to exist, uprooting the realities of marriage that lay ahead for the couple.But let’s be plain: there is a huge difference between a wedding and a marriage....more
I am/was the perpetual peter pan.  No one thought I'd ever get married.  I dated for years. ...more