A Tale of a Feminist Who Took Her Husband's Name

My last name has undergone a few makeovers. There was my given last name, my father's, which my mother had taken when they married. My first and last name together had a nice ring to them. They were both fairly uncommon names, and I grew up enjoying not being another Jenny Johnson. (No offense to the Jenny Johnsons of the world; I'm sure you are lovely!) Image Credit: Flood, via Flickr ...more
HouseofClams Thanks for sharing your perspective! I agree it is a personal decision, and one ... more

A Tale of a Feminist Who Took Her Husband's Name

My last name has undergone a few makeovers. There was my given last name, my father's, which my mother had taken when they married. My first and last name together had a nice ring to them. They were both fairly uncommon names, and I grew up enjoying not being another Jenny Johnson. (No offense to the Jenny Johnsons of the world; I'm sure you are lovely!) Image Credit: Flood, via Flickr ...more
MoreThanMommy Hmmm...I'm not sure how you got the impression that I "obsessed over this". Or ... more

A Tale of a Feminist Who Took Her Husband's Name

My last name has undergone a few makeovers. There was my given last name, my father's, which my mother had taken when they married. My first and last name together had a nice ring to them. They were both fairly uncommon names, and I grew up enjoying not being another Jenny Johnson. (No offense to the Jenny Johnsons of the world; I'm sure you are lovely!) Image Credit: Flood, via Flickr ...more
penelope31 I'm glad you enjoyed it; thanks for your comment! <3 more

Mama Blessing: Not Quite a Shower, but Still a Celebration

My belly full of henna, a collaborative effort! When I was pregnant with Delilah, my sister and mother threw me a beautiful baby shower. People came from near and far to shower my baby with love. There were lovely decorations, tons of food, silly games, and oodles and oodles of very generous gifts. The generosity my little family was shown that day was such that when we found out we were expecting again, there was very little in the way of "stuff" that we needed! (Especially after several friends with sons passed along many bags, boxes, and bins full of hand-me-downs!) While I didn't want or need a "shower" this time around, I still longed for a celebration of some sort....more
@JennaHatfield My pleasure! :) more

20 Things This Mother Will Probably Never Tell Her Son

[Editor's Note: This week, BlogHer learned an important internet lesson: Memes are people, too. BlogHer stumbled across the post below, written by Joella at Fine and Fair, in a Facebook link, and we were intrigued by the core idea of it—20 Things To Say Or Not To Say To Our Sons—and by the fact that the meme/post had been shared what looked like millions of times, and that hundreds of people had been responding and making their own lists in response. So we decided to syndicate Fine and Fair's post, as we knew it would kick off an interesting and passionate conversation. But in these days of hyperconnectivity and the all-seeing Google, even anonymous memes eventually link back to their creator. When Joella was alerted in comments that there was an actual author of the post, she responded by revising her post, naming WerdyAb as the author and linking to the original post within the BlogHer.com post, thinking she was righting a wrong. Of course! All of us in the blogosphere believe that crediting people for their work is of utmost importance. But the simple act of attaching a real live author -- a person -- to formerly faceless meme utterly changed the tone of the post, and made its humor seem sharp, its jabs more cruel, than how they'd appeared in the original version. And truth is, it took all of us a BlogHer a few days to understand and even SEE what had happened to tip the apple cart on the post as the comments were mounting. So we want to publicly apologize to Werdyab for the hurt she felt and all the attention, much of it negative, that was focused on her. We deeply regret that series of events. At BlogHer, community, respect and a sense of safety in expressing our opinions are traits we treasure, and we don't want to do anything to threaten that. We want to thank the many who spoke out on Twitter or sent us emails, which helped us focus on the unfortunate and unintended series of events. And we'd like to acknowledge Joella's honorable responses and efforts to make this right, as well. She is not to blame for how this played out.We work hard to be sure that everyone feels welcome; we value this above everything -- especially above page views. And that is why we are making this public explanation today. --Stacy Morrison, Editor-in-Chief]Last night, after a lovely and heartwarming evening at an annual fundraiser for my place of employment, I settled in with a cup of tea and my laptop to wind down before bed. Several friends had shared a list entitled "20 Things A Mother Should Tell Her Son." I thought to myself, "I am a mother! And I am going to have a son! I should read this!" I took a sip of tea as I clicked and prepared for even more loveliness and heart warmth to round out my night, but found my heart filled with...something other than warmth....more

20 Things This Mother Will Probably Never Tell Her Son

[Editor's Note: This week, BlogHer learned an important internet lesson: Memes are people, too. BlogHer stumbled across the post below, written by Joella at Fine and Fair, in a Facebook link, and we were intrigued by the core idea of it—20 Things To Say Or Not To Say To Our Sons—and by the fact that the meme/post had been shared what looked like millions of times, and that hundreds of people had been responding and making their own lists in response. So we decided to syndicate Fine and Fair's post, as we knew it would kick off an interesting and passionate conversation. But in these days of hyperconnectivity and the all-seeing Google, even anonymous memes eventually link back to their creator. When Joella was alerted in comments that there was an actual author of the post, she responded by revising her post, naming WerdyAb as the author and linking to the original post within the BlogHer.com post, thinking she was righting a wrong. Of course! All of us in the blogosphere believe that crediting people for their work is of utmost importance. But the simple act of attaching a real live author -- a person -- to formerly faceless meme utterly changed the tone of the post, and made its humor seem sharp, its jabs more cruel, than how they'd appeared in the original version. And truth is, it took all of us a BlogHer a few days to understand and even SEE what had happened to tip the apple cart on the post as the comments were mounting. So we want to publicly apologize to Werdyab for the hurt she felt and all the attention, much of it negative, that was focused on her. We deeply regret that series of events. At BlogHer, community, respect and a sense of safety in expressing our opinions are traits we treasure, and we don't want to do anything to threaten that. We want to thank the many who spoke out on Twitter or sent us emails, which helped us focus on the unfortunate and unintended series of events. And we'd like to acknowledge Joella's honorable responses and efforts to make this right, as well. She is not to blame for how this played out.We work hard to be sure that everyone feels welcome; we value this above everything -- especially above page views. And that is why we are making this public explanation today. --Stacy Morrison, Editor-in-Chief]Last night, after a lovely and heartwarming evening at an annual fundraiser for my place of employment, I settled in with a cup of tea and my laptop to wind down before bed. Several friends had shared a list entitled "20 Things A Mother Should Tell Her Son." I thought to myself, "I am a mother! And I am going to have a son! I should read this!" I took a sip of tea as I clicked and prepared for even more loveliness and heart warmth to round out my night, but found my heart filled with...something other than warmth....more
@RevelInItMag.com I look forward to that day. <3 more

20 Things This Mother Will Probably Never Tell Her Son

[Editor's Note: This week, BlogHer learned an important internet lesson: Memes are people, too. BlogHer stumbled across the post below, written by Joella at Fine and Fair, in a Facebook link, and we were intrigued by the core idea of it—20 Things To Say Or Not To Say To Our Sons—and by the fact that the meme/post had been shared what looked like millions of times, and that hundreds of people had been responding and making their own lists in response. So we decided to syndicate Fine and Fair's post, as we knew it would kick off an interesting and passionate conversation. But in these days of hyperconnectivity and the all-seeing Google, even anonymous memes eventually link back to their creator. When Joella was alerted in comments that there was an actual author of the post, she responded by revising her post, naming WerdyAb as the author and linking to the original post within the BlogHer.com post, thinking she was righting a wrong. Of course! All of us in the blogosphere believe that crediting people for their work is of utmost importance. But the simple act of attaching a real live author -- a person -- to formerly faceless meme utterly changed the tone of the post, and made its humor seem sharp, its jabs more cruel, than how they'd appeared in the original version. And truth is, it took all of us a BlogHer a few days to understand and even SEE what had happened to tip the apple cart on the post as the comments were mounting. So we want to publicly apologize to Werdyab for the hurt she felt and all the attention, much of it negative, that was focused on her. We deeply regret that series of events. At BlogHer, community, respect and a sense of safety in expressing our opinions are traits we treasure, and we don't want to do anything to threaten that. We want to thank the many who spoke out on Twitter or sent us emails, which helped us focus on the unfortunate and unintended series of events. And we'd like to acknowledge Joella's honorable responses and efforts to make this right, as well. She is not to blame for how this played out.We work hard to be sure that everyone feels welcome; we value this above everything -- especially above page views. And that is why we are making this public explanation today. --Stacy Morrison, Editor-in-Chief]Last night, after a lovely and heartwarming evening at an annual fundraiser for my place of employment, I settled in with a cup of tea and my laptop to wind down before bed. Several friends had shared a list entitled "20 Things A Mother Should Tell Her Son." I thought to myself, "I am a mother! And I am going to have a son! I should read this!" I took a sip of tea as I clicked and prepared for even more loveliness and heart warmth to round out my night, but found my heart filled with...something other than warmth....more
@laughingmom I agree, and I'm not apologizing for my post itself; I own and stand by my ... more

20 Things This Mother Will Probably Never Tell Her Son

[Editor's Note: This week, BlogHer learned an important internet lesson: Memes are people, too. BlogHer stumbled across the post below, written by Joella at Fine and Fair, in a Facebook link, and we were intrigued by the core idea of it—20 Things To Say Or Not To Say To Our Sons—and by the fact that the meme/post had been shared what looked like millions of times, and that hundreds of people had been responding and making their own lists in response. So we decided to syndicate Fine and Fair's post, as we knew it would kick off an interesting and passionate conversation. But in these days of hyperconnectivity and the all-seeing Google, even anonymous memes eventually link back to their creator. When Joella was alerted in comments that there was an actual author of the post, she responded by revising her post, naming WerdyAb as the author and linking to the original post within the BlogHer.com post, thinking she was righting a wrong. Of course! All of us in the blogosphere believe that crediting people for their work is of utmost importance. But the simple act of attaching a real live author -- a person -- to formerly faceless meme utterly changed the tone of the post, and made its humor seem sharp, its jabs more cruel, than how they'd appeared in the original version. And truth is, it took all of us a BlogHer a few days to understand and even SEE what had happened to tip the apple cart on the post as the comments were mounting. So we want to publicly apologize to Werdyab for the hurt she felt and all the attention, much of it negative, that was focused on her. We deeply regret that series of events. At BlogHer, community, respect and a sense of safety in expressing our opinions are traits we treasure, and we don't want to do anything to threaten that. We want to thank the many who spoke out on Twitter or sent us emails, which helped us focus on the unfortunate and unintended series of events. And we'd like to acknowledge Joella's honorable responses and efforts to make this right, as well. She is not to blame for how this played out.We work hard to be sure that everyone feels welcome; we value this above everything -- especially above page views. And that is why we are making this public explanation today. --Stacy Morrison, Editor-in-Chief]Last night, after a lovely and heartwarming evening at an annual fundraiser for my place of employment, I settled in with a cup of tea and my laptop to wind down before bed. Several friends had shared a list entitled "20 Things A Mother Should Tell Her Son." I thought to myself, "I am a mother! And I am going to have a son! I should read this!" I took a sip of tea as I clicked and prepared for even more loveliness and heart warmth to round out my night, but found my heart filled with...something other than warmth....more
@egw1988  werdyab  @werdyab For what it's worth, I just contacted Werdyab privately to ... more

Our Preoccupation with the Perfect Pregnant Body

Rumors swirled this week about the suspected, but likely soon-to-be-officially-confirmed, second pregnancy of pop star Jessica Simpson. ABC News blogger Luchina Fisher encapsulates the skewed cultural mindset when it comes to women and body image when she writes: “Jessica Simpson could be gaining back some of the 60-plus pounds she lost after giving birth to daughter Maxwell Drew in May.”...more
@Sandra Kohlmann I am short and overweight with a giant, stretch-marked pregnant belly that I'm ... more

20 Things This Mother Will Probably Never Tell Her Son

[Editor's Note: This week, BlogHer learned an important internet lesson: Memes are people, too. BlogHer stumbled across the post below, written by Joella at Fine and Fair, in a Facebook link, and we were intrigued by the core idea of it—20 Things To Say Or Not To Say To Our Sons—and by the fact that the meme/post had been shared what looked like millions of times, and that hundreds of people had been responding and making their own lists in response. So we decided to syndicate Fine and Fair's post, as we knew it would kick off an interesting and passionate conversation. But in these days of hyperconnectivity and the all-seeing Google, even anonymous memes eventually link back to their creator. When Joella was alerted in comments that there was an actual author of the post, she responded by revising her post, naming WerdyAb as the author and linking to the original post within the BlogHer.com post, thinking she was righting a wrong. Of course! All of us in the blogosphere believe that crediting people for their work is of utmost importance. But the simple act of attaching a real live author -- a person -- to formerly faceless meme utterly changed the tone of the post, and made its humor seem sharp, its jabs more cruel, than how they'd appeared in the original version. And truth is, it took all of us a BlogHer a few days to understand and even SEE what had happened to tip the apple cart on the post as the comments were mounting. So we want to publicly apologize to Werdyab for the hurt she felt and all the attention, much of it negative, that was focused on her. We deeply regret that series of events. At BlogHer, community, respect and a sense of safety in expressing our opinions are traits we treasure, and we don't want to do anything to threaten that. We want to thank the many who spoke out on Twitter or sent us emails, which helped us focus on the unfortunate and unintended series of events. And we'd like to acknowledge Joella's honorable responses and efforts to make this right, as well. She is not to blame for how this played out.We work hard to be sure that everyone feels welcome; we value this above everything -- especially above page views. And that is why we are making this public explanation today. --Stacy Morrison, Editor-in-Chief]Last night, after a lovely and heartwarming evening at an annual fundraiser for my place of employment, I settled in with a cup of tea and my laptop to wind down before bed. Several friends had shared a list entitled "20 Things A Mother Should Tell Her Son." I thought to myself, "I am a mother! And I am going to have a son! I should read this!" I took a sip of tea as I clicked and prepared for even more loveliness and heart warmth to round out my night, but found my heart filled with...something other than warmth....more
@cheeseblarg *blush* Thank you! more