13 Things I Lost During My Divorce

As my divorce papers are about to be filed these are just some of the things which I have lost so far:  1. My Husband and Best Friend He was the person who knew me best in the world and the person who I shared everything with.  He was the person who, at one time ,was my biggest fan; at times he believed in me more than I believed in myself.  ...more
I am so sorry for your loss, too. And the betrayal. I hope and pray that you can find joy and ... more

What Do You Mean I'm "Spoiling" My Child?

You know what really grinds my gears? The seven words I'm willing to bet every mother has heard at some point or another: You are going to spoil that child. ...more
It sounds like you are doing a fine job! I am sure that you are going to raise a daughter that ... more

The Day My Blog Ruined My Life

Okay, maybe it didn't ruin my life, but my misuse of social media threw me into a terrible controversy at my kids' school. Today's post is about irony. Well, irony and how I messed up my life and the lives of a few others. And how I'm sorry. So very, very sorry. I sit here thinking, analyzing and obsessing about the events that transpired a week ago and set in motion an unbelievable shit storm. As some of you know, I'm a health and development educator for adolescent girls. In fact, I have a whole presentation on cyber-safety and how girls should always be very careful about what they post online. But right now, I'm sitting here, stewing in my own shame. I imagine I'm feeling much like the 15-year-old girl who insisted she knew what she was doing when she texted her boyfriend a boob-shot that went viral. She intended it to be only for his eyes. ...more
I am sorry that this happened to you and I can imagine how you feel. I struggle with how much ... more

Why I Cry in My Car Every Wednesday at 6:45am

I wake up on Wednesdays with a pit in my stomach. I hear the alarm go off and I immediately become tearful. I hate Wednesdays. Wednesday is the day that my kids go to their dad’s house until either Friday (which I can barely tolerate) or until Monday (which feels beyond awful). After divorce, there is no perfect custody schedule, and this one was the product of careful deliberation and collaboration. I know that it’s in the best interests of my kids. My attempts at rationalization, however, do nothing to temper the devastating heartbreak that I experience every Wednesday morning. ...more
I can identify. It will get better! more

Why I'm Taking a Blogging Break and Hanging Up My Blogging Stocking

So, I’m taking a step back and taking time off to refocus.  How much time?  Until I can come back to writing and hitting “publish” with the confidence that I will not measure my self-worth in shares, likes, comments, page views or retweets. ...more
I can so identify! Thank you! more

They Were Making Fun Of My Son, So I....Did Nothing

Where I live, I get the best of both worlds. I'm in a small town riding the edge between the far suburbs of a major US city and the very rural farmland that stretches to the west. I only have to drive an hour and my kids can have museums and touring exhibits and Broadway road shows and concerts and all kinds of culture. ...more
Good story! I am glad you had the opportunity to explain things to David's new friends. more

Inventive Breakfast Bento Boxes

It's 6:22 a.m. and I've already been nudged awake three times by four different children. I roll over and ask them for five more minutes--just five--because I'd been up 'til midnight, finalizing assignments and folding neat fresh piles of laundry. And five more minutes of sleep sounds just too, too good to give up. ...more
This is great! I love that you said "brekkies" (I never knew how to spell that but say it ALL ... more

Because It's Only Forever: Uniformity in School Pics Is Overrated Anyway

This week the ladies had class portraits taken at school. Not individual portraits, which are taken at the beginning of the year, but a picture of the entire class with the teacher, and which are infinitely cooler than the ones taken when we were kids. The girls love having photos taken and I wouldn’t have otherwise given such a pro forma event a second thought were it not for the small fact that last year, my eldest photobombed her kindergarten class portrait....more
I agree -- I wouldn't want my children to be anyone other than God made them to be. I have three ... more

Privacy Please: A Room of One's Own

“I understand completely, honey. Everyone needs his or her own space.” Whether it’s a few minutes alone or a room of one’s own, privacy is one thing you just can’t share."...more
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Is It Time to Hang Grandma's Ornaments Yet?

Amongst the many boxes of Christmas decorations that we unearth the day after Thanksgiving every year is a small bin of delicate keepsakes. Each precious treasure is wrapped individually in tissue paper nestled within its own box, many labeled with my mom’s or grandma’s handwriting. I thought these ornaments might be ready to make their debut this year, now that my sons are 12, 11, and 7. ...more
@pastordeb Thank you so much, Deb. I always appreciate your encouragement. I really need to ... more