6 Things You'll Regret Saying to Your Children

Do you ever feel guilt and regret for something that you've said to your child? The words that just came out of your mouth sounded as if they were from an alien being (and even more awful, perhaps like some of the things your own mother once said to you, and you vowed you would never say), and there is no way you would speak like that to your best friend! Immediately you regret what you said. It's no surprise that your child is now arguing with you. ...more
I'm guilty of all of these. I do try really hard to avoid "but" at least. But goodness, ... more

I Found Myself in Mothering, in Motherhood

Fall makes me reflect a little more on motherhood than any other time of the year. Maybe it's how the cooler temperatures remind me of my pregnancies with their long sleeved, empire waisted tops that never seemed to quite cover my basketball shaped belly. Maybe it's how we're so busy with soccer and back-to-school nights and pumpkin patches and trying to fit anything and everything into the calendar before the weather keeps us inside—together—until the spring thaw arrives. Whatever the cause of my reflection, the realization always washes over me that I found myself through the act of mothering. ...more
I think about this a lot. Maybe because I think about all the things a lot. Maybe because ... more

INTERVIEW: Sarah McLachlan Talks About Her New Album, Motherhood, Feminism, and More

Some musicians mean more to us than a catchy tune on a hot summer day. Some come into our lives with one album, an album that gets left on repeat for months—even years. We grow and process and change as we listen to the music on the album. And then? A new one comes out a few years later. The artist has grown and changed, and so have we. Rinse, repeat as the years pass, the albums continue to be released, and both artist and self grow and change and mature and feel and live life. Sarah McLachlan is that singer/songwriter for me, and her albums have journeyed with me throughout my life. I was thrilled to get to interview her about her new album, Shine On, motherhood, feminism, and life....more
I am so excited about this album! more

Announcing BlogHer '14 Keynote Speaker: Grammy-Nominated Comedian Tig Notaro

I'm thrilled to kick off 2014 in jubilant fashion with another keynote speaker announcement for BlogHer '14: Comedian Tig Notaro will join us at BlogHer '14 and discuss her groundbreaking brand of comedy. ...more
THIS TOTALLY RULES! OMG. more

When 547 Facebook Friends + 832 Twitter Followers = A Negative Number

He was quiet as we rode the elevator up to the third floor. The air was heavy with emotion, as anger and fear seemed to compete for air space alongside sadness and acceptance. We stood back for a moment as the doors opened, aware that the vessel which just lifted us up would also bring us down the moment we stepped out. His eyes filled with tears as he took a deep breath and exited. As we made our way down the hall to the dreary ICU waiting room to be given permission to proceed to room 328, I felt numb as I walked by his side....more
When I came out, my "real life" friends abandoned me. I had no one. I was alone. Scared. ... more

Do You Feel Pressure to Write Amazing Blog Posts?

How often do you not blog because while you have things you could say (and very much want to say), the topic doesn't seem as important nor is the post coming out as brilliantly as other blog posts out there? The comparison game is one of the number killers to "just blogging": that state of writing your blog and deriving joy or peace of heart from it; writing for writing's sake. Too Many Fish to Fry has a post about feeling as if she can only blog if she can "amaze the room." ...more
This is why I blog every day. I couldn't handle that pressure and found that I'm now able to do ... more

When Will We Stop Counting the 9/11s?

It's September 11 again. And I'm dreading it. I want September 11 to go back to being just another day in the early fall. Is this wrong?...more
I don't know. Is anything really ever enough? Is it all just part of us all wanting to do ... more

Why We Shouldn't Be Interested In Raising Safe Christian Kids

"Look mom! No hands," yelled my eight year old Olivia while out on our bike ride together yesterday. Maybe the first thing on my mind should have been warning her of the potential danger of an eight year old, riding a bike two sizes too big with no hands on a public road. But it wasn't. ...more
This is the Christianity I was drawn to. The radical kind that wanted to change the world. I ... more

What Blogging Voice Need Do You Fill?

There was an awesome moment during the BlogHer'13 Anatomy of a Story panel on Saturday when Vikki said, "Everybody needs a gay... and so I always think about, when I write on my blog, that I'm the gay for people that don't have one." People started laughing and tweeting what she said because it was a great sound bite. But more importantly, Vikki spoke to the role we serve as niche bloggers. ...more
It's an honor to be one of your gays, Kathy. I love this post. more

What Blogging Voice Need Do You Fill?

There was an awesome moment during the BlogHer'13 Anatomy of a Story panel on Saturday when Vikki said, "Everybody needs a gay... and so I always think about, when I write on my blog, that I'm the gay for people that don't have one." People started laughing and tweeting what she said because it was a great sound bite. But more importantly, Vikki spoke to the role we serve as niche bloggers. ...more
@JennaHatfield I think there's a way for you to be someone's birth mother, not everyone's birth ... more