Dipping My Toe into Online Dating

On a sunny winter day, a new friend came over and we worked in the yard. As we excavated three months' worth of weeds, we talked about relationship stuff and she asked questions that unearthed some hibernating assumptions inside me. ...more

I love the analogy (and your drawings). Being single is complicated. So is being married. In ... more

Did He Cheat?

I was in a very long line at Whole Foods, having stopped in after work to pick up what would pass for dinner. The “express” line was the longest line I’ve ever seen in my entire life, so I got in the regular line even though I only had a couple of things. A few minutes in, I heard a deep voice behind me: “It must be my lucky day to stand in line behind the woman who can rock those boots”. It was a little cheesy but when I turned around I liked the way he looked, I forgave him. ...more

Lots of interesting responses. I'm enjoying reading the various takes on my story. Here's my ... more

The Price of Sex vs. the End of Men

Much in the same way we’re questioning whether the state of our political discourse is turning us into more violent, less kind people, I’m questioning whether the way we talk and write about male-female relationships is making us heartless. ...more

Eleanore W


The dynamics of male:female ... more

Dress Your Age? Nine of Ten Women Don't ...

Dress my age? Hell, no!A new survey, conducted by UK department store chain Debenhams, finds that nine out of 10 women dress younger than their age and more than half don’t intend to dress their age until their 70s....more

Dress my age? Really? Not a chance. I wear what looks good on me. I certainly don't want to ... more

(VIDEO) Modern Dating: Single and "Desperate"?

Planning on finding love in 2011? For us singles, it's a hard knock life. Just when you get up the nerve to ask for some support from those smug-marrieds around you, you realize they have completely given up on matchmaking. Here's a little video I like to call "Modern Dating." Prepare yourself....more

Eleanore W


I know that there are people who think ... more

Saying No: How To Decline A Date

Courtesy is the name of the game. Be as courteous as you can when turning someone down – but don't lie. And don't fade away. Be prompt, direct, concise and kind. If you're met with a discourteous response, let the person know the comment is inappropriate, and try to remind yourself that they're acting out of hurt. Rejection isn't easy. Anyone that has dated for any amount of time knows this. ...more

Eleanore W


Well, saying "no" to a second date is ... more

I'm a Shallow, Single Black Female, By Choice!

I went out with those too short, too fat, poor guys.  What is the point? They are just as self centered and insensitive as the cute ones.” -Miranda Hobbs...more

Eleanore W


I'm not sure what the shallow part has ... more

Owning My Beauty Past High School: I Am Proud of Who I'm Becoming

One day, my mother picked me up early for a doctor's appointment, and as we were taking a shortcut down an alley, I saw the prettiest, skinniest girl and remarked to my mother that I wished I looked like her. To my astonishment, my mother informed me that I had not seen the entire picture. I had only noticed a skinny, pretty brunette walking down the alley. What I failed to notice was her arms crossed over her stomach, her reddened face and the tears streaming down her cheek. How had I missed that? I was so consumed by jealousy and inferiority that I had failed to see the entire picture. I promised myself I would never forget that girl, or what I had failed to see. ...more

What you allude to, and what I know is that how a woman feels about herself is as important as ... more