What I Wish Renee Zellweger Had Said

One of the weekly rituals I look forward to most is reading the Sunday Styles section of The New York Times. No need to sugar coat it, it’s the upscale gossip column of the paper. Why then was I feeling so irritated this week as I finished the last story about another sweet newly married couple? Then I remembered, the article teased on page one with the headline, “Renee Zellweger Defends her New Look.” ...more
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What I Wish Renee Zellweger Had Said

One of the weekly rituals I look forward to most is reading the Sunday Styles section of The New York Times. No need to sugar coat it, it’s the upscale gossip column of the paper. Why then was I feeling so irritated this week as I finished the last story about another sweet newly married couple? Then I remembered, the article teased on page one with the headline, “Renee Zellweger Defends her New Look.” ...more
It is no one's business but her own, however she wishes to look, whatever she wishes to say - or ... more

Happy Internet Day: What Was the Best Email You Ever Got?

Do you know what today is? Internet Day, the anniversary of the first piece of electronic mail sent back in 1969. What did it say? Just two letters -- L and O. Leonard Kleinrock was attempting to email the word "login" to Charley Kline and Bill Duvall, but their system crashed after the first two letters. Still, it's a start. ...more
That's a lot of history to sift through in my head, almost two decades now. There were emails ... more

Help! My Friend Wants Me to Lie as a Job Reference

Dear Mouthy Housewives,I run a small internet-based business and over the years have had several employees. Recently, a good friend of mine asked me if she could use me as a professional reference. She has been a stay-at-home mom for about twelve years and is having a hard time finding a job. I want to help her, but I feel uncomfortable about lying. Is there any way this can be considered a "white lie"?Signed,I'm Not Her Boss...more
No way. No no no. No!  For heaven's sake, I'm a convicted felon and would never lie about it. I ... more

The Reflex of Deference: What Keeps Male Privilege Going

Deference is the wee tiny rock that women carry in their pockets, the signal to tell them to get out of the way, sit down and be quiet, but who put that rock there?...more
Patriarchy is like air, the signals are everywhere. It can be overcome, but it isn't easy. It ... more

The Ottawa Shootings Can't Take Away My Canadian Identity

I was sitting in a Starbucks in Toronto when I saw a tweet that stopped me in my tracks. A soldier had been shot at the National War Memorial in Ottawa—where I live. It was followed up by another tweet telling me that the shooter was in Centre Block of Parliament. I looked around … and no one was reacting. No one else knew. ...more
My thoughts are with all Canadians. These things strike right at one's psyche, but it also ... more

How You Know When There's No Going Back

“Transformation is never easy or painless, but essential to the growth of our soul.” Elizabeth Gilbert ...more
Aye yee yee... two stories this morning conjuring up memories. 'How do you know' is a curious ... more

11 Important Tips for Parents When Your Child Comes Out

Step 1: Take a deep breath. OMG, right? Big news. Or maybe it wasn't. Maybe you suspected this was coming. But you should still breathe anyway because you need do that to keep being alive. So this step applies no matter what. Get some oxygen into you. ...more
Reading your 11 makes my body tense, and not because I disagree. Great steps, and absolutely. more

I Can't Trust John Grisham After Hearing Him Defend Pedophiles, Can You?

John Grisham : former attorney, best-selling author, apologist for sex offenders who watch child porn. Grisham recently gave an interview to The Telegraph discussing the U.S. legal system, including what he sees as harsh punishments against men who "got online one night and started surfing around, probably had too much to drink or whatever, and pushed the wrong buttons, went too far and got into child porn." ...more
I'd seen a headline or two mentioning his comments, but I didn't wander into a story on it until ... more

Getting Your First (Great) Book Deal

Moderator: Rita Arens, BlogHer and Surrender, Dorothy Speakers: Ali Eteraz, aliEteraz.com
 Kamy Wicoff, She Writes
 Laura Mazer, Perseus Books 
Neeti Madan, Sterling Lord Literistic, Inc. Rita: Ali Eteraz, he’s a memoirist and short story author. And Neeti, you just heard Jenny talk about, she is Jenny’s agent. And Kamy who is an novelist and is with She Writes. And Laura with Perseus Books. ...more
Rita Arens Broke... part of the 'fun' of being a writer. ;-) more