I'm Jealous of Mothers with One Child

Not too long ago I sat around a table of other moms at a coffee bar, chatting about this and that and so on and so forth. I joined in by telling them about a mom blogger I admire, who jaunts around town, experiencing and writing about her fabulous life in the city. You know, with her ONE kid... And I emphasized the whole conversation with a big fat eye roll. Which was awkward, because I was sitting at a table SURROUNDED by women who had only ONE CHILD. And that's when I swallowed my gangly foot. ...more
I don;t know how mothers of two or more do it! I'm scared because I've had it so easy for so ... more

I Did Nothing While She Hurled Abuses At Them

I imagined her saying I don't need your help. Truth be told, I didn't have anything to help her with other than maybe talking to her kids while she zoned out for a while. My daughter and I got on the bus, our first day of catching it together. Our first day of her getting off and transferring to another to go to school; me staying on to get on the subway, me staying on to watch her walk to a bus stop that leaves a lot to be desired as far as safety. Please pay attention to your surroundings. Please. ...more
Such a powerful post, so happy to see it has reached a wider audience by being here. more

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I like this very much and appreciate you writing it. This very topic weighs heavy on my mind a ... more

When You're Having A Mother of A Day...

[Editor's Note: We all dread having one of THOSE days. Not just the days when your kids are acting up, or the car won't start, or your daughter leaves her homework at school, or the meatloaf burns. (Does anyone still eat meatloaf?) It's one of those days when you lose control and drop the Mom In Charge veil and become undone. *sigh* Bummer. Tracy at Sellabit Mum wrote a beautiful post that perfectly captures the cringey feeling of those days....more
Oh the crafts... ugh! Love this post. more

Before Klout Scores and Stats: The Blogging Beginning

I was burning with things to say. I was sad. I was broken. Shattered and disappointed. I felt so alone. I could not have a child. So I sat at this computer and I typed. ...more
I love this and you! P.S. I hardly ever check my traffic or stats. Who cares. Just write!! more

My Family is Killing My Klout Score

I've mentioned a time or two that I'm a wee bit controlling.And that I thrive on all things quantifiable.Given those two facts, you won't be surprised to hear that I have had a love affair with Klout.I have a morning routine that goes a little something like this:Get up and greet my husband, who typically has two hours on his day already....more
Love this. Klout schmout. :) Family is where the heart is. more

Lullabies I Never Sang: A Mother's Abortion and Regret

I’ve thought about this memory a thousand times, and wondered how to paint literary pictures of an inner battle still lingering inside. I feel it the most when I kiss my kids goodnight, tuck the covers around their chins, and listen to their prayers. I see the fruition of love and life in their faces, project splendid futures for them both, and thank my God every day for the privilege of being their parent.But I am missing one....more
I am speechless. In a good way.... What a brave woman you are. It took a lot of courage to make ... more

The Loneliest Mother I've Seen

I see your eyes duck our way more times than I can count. Kids spilling off my lap, I steady myself against my husband’s leg and we laugh as the hay ride tosses us back and forth. As you tuck your bare left hand behind the bleach-blonde head in your lap, I read her shirt. Birthday Girl Your parents take pictures of the two of you but your eyes belie the smile on your face. I wonder if you have just finished high school or are heading to college this fall. Maybe you have put school on hold until you can afford daycare and tuition. ...more
This post gave me chills when I first read it on your site and now to see it here, makes my ... more

In the Face of Change, I Still Sent Her to School

She was so incredibly excited to start preschool that morning. With a brother four years older, she already understood what school entailed. 9/11. And even though we Californians woke that morning to the crazy news that our nation was under attack, I felt the need to go on with this big day for my daughter. To move forward not as if nothing had happened, but as if what happened could never change our lives....more
I loved this post the first time I read it on your site and every more the second time around. ... more

On Motherhood and Losing Yourself

Losing a piece of yourself seems to be part of becoming a mother, almost like a rite of passage. The problem is, following a rite of passage people often expect you to be wiser and acknowledge your readiness for your new role. You’re given access to knowledge or tools you didn’t have before....more
Truth! Every word. So proud of you for writing this and for being here on BlogHer. more