Does My Husband Have to Spend Mother's Day With His Mother?

Dear TMH, Mother's Day is coming up, which would be wonderful in theory. A day to sleep in and be treated like royalty, right? However, my MIL lives nearby, and that raises some issues. Am I obligated to spend the day with her? She seems to expect us to do something with her, and I don't really want to do that.  My husband is caught in the middle, because he wants to make us both happy. But hasn't she had her share of Mother's Days?Help!Signed,It's MY Day, Dammit...more
First of all, although I'm a mother I'm not a big fan of Mother's Day in it's current evolution. ... more

Ten To Dos in January 2013

Happy New Year! A new year, a new set of lists. Yay! I'm almost excited about my list today, even though I don't really know what's going to show up there until I start typing. Which is weird. The first day of a new year usually just feels like another day to me. Maybe this is a good omen and I'm going to have a great month. On to my list:

Standing Up For Chick-fil-A

The ruckus over Chick-fil-A raises the question: Who's behaving like the hater here?...more
 @Erin Kotecki Vest about half my gay friends & relatives think it's overblown, so i think ... more

Standing Up For Chick-fil-A

The ruckus over Chick-fil-A raises the question: Who's behaving like the hater here?...more
I think you're absolutely on target. They have the right to state their beliefs, but others have ... more

My Artist's Way Toolkit: Rediscovering the Joy in Writing

We're shaking things up this month in BlogHer Book Club! We're not reviewing a book, but we are reviewing something that's decidedly bookish. This month we're looking at a new subscription service from the creative mind of Julia Cameron. Have you read The Artist's Way and Cameron's other books? Have you loved her suggestions and recommendations but been able to quite get yourself to them? Then My Artist's Way Toolkit service (and app!) are just the thing for you. ...more
The weekly mini-adventures have been really fun. It's given me a reason to get out and visit ... more

I Suck at Daily Morning Writing Exercises

When I mention Julia Cameron or The Artist's Way, chances are one of the first things you will think of is morning pages. When I signed up for the My Artist's Way Toolkit, I was a bit hesitant. I knew that morning pages were part of the bargain, and I've never been good at them. After a few weeks of using the service I can tell you that I still suck at morning pages. ...more
I'm with Balancing Jane: mornings are pure chaos at my house, between getting people off to ... more

We Are Killing Our Children

I believe structure is killing our children. We offer them so much structured learning and play time that they are never put into a situation where they have to be inventive and brave. They NEVER have to learn to figure things out for themselves. Yes, in order to get a child to do what you want when you want, the best way is to create a schedule for them. Structure the basics like meals, potty and sleep so as to structure them from the inside out. This way it is easy to get them used to your schedule and way of doing things. And I agree with this type of structure....more
I agree with you that we don't give kids enough responsibility and/or opportunity to figure ... more

Super Tuesday: It's the Women's Vote, Stupid!

Today is Super Tuesday. Are we excited yet? To be honest, a week ago I was so distressed about the Republicans' prehistoric attitudes toward women I considered ignoring it all and hiking the Appalachian Trail. Only that would require going to Virginia, one of the 10 primary and caucus states, and which just passed a mandatory ultrasound bill for women seeking an abortion after amending it so that women didn't have to have their vaginas probed. ...more
From the time she was 12, my sister had periods twice a month. Between the hormone rush of ... more

Are You Sure There's No War on Women? My Health Story

Are you absolutely certain there is no Republican "war on women"? Because I'm a little frightened to be a woman in this country right now, and from where I'm standing, I feel like I am under attack. Women are being bombarded with legislature at the state and federal level aimed at taking away our rights. And Republicans are leading the charge. ...more
When we were in high school my sister had absolutely debilitating pms ... twice a month. She ... more

17 Tips To Organizing A Stress-Free Get Together

If you are like me, you love the idea of throwing party at your house…one with lots of great family and friends, amazing food, and interesting conversation. However, when you are in the thick of planning a get together along with juggling everything else on your to-do list, pulling one off can seem near impossible. It is easy to let the thought of planning an event overwhelm or even stop you in your tracks. But if you follow some easy tips and tricks you will find that hosting a gathering can be simple for you and a fun time for your guests. ...more
These are great! Mine is a little more free-form ... It turns out that the best way to ... more