Why We Stopped Using Time Outs

I had started moving away from using punishments some time ago, for a combination of pragmatic and emotional reasons. Parenting-wise, 2013 was a difficult year for me, filled with intense sleep deprivation and a lot of mistakes (the two not being unrelated, obviously). It dawned on me slowly that time outs were not working to curb Miles’ aggressive behavior toward Julius, AND they were giving me intensely uncomfortable feelings, but I was really at a loss for what else to do. Still, I took one step in the direction of eliminating punishment: I quit using time outs. ...more
I do agree about teaching our children our values, but I don't think that punishment is ... more

9 Things No One Told Me I Would Miss From My Childless Life

There are some day-to-day things that everyone takes for granted and don't appreciate much before having kids. Here is a list of 9 things I never thought I would miss: 1. Having dinner without getting up from the table. I can be doing nothing for an hour and he will instantly feel thirsty or hungry as soon as I sit down to eat. 2. Taking a long shower. Forget about taking a bath. Or what about that hair treatment that ONLY takes 7 minutes? Ha! Forget about that too. 3. Grocery shopping in peace. ...more
I think sometimes I just miss that intangible feeling of getting off duty and being able to ... more

Why We Stopped Using Time Outs

I had started moving away from using punishments some time ago, for a combination of pragmatic and emotional reasons. Parenting-wise, 2013 was a difficult year for me, filled with intense sleep deprivation and a lot of mistakes (the two not being unrelated, obviously). It dawned on me slowly that time outs were not working to curb Miles’ aggressive behavior toward Julius, AND they were giving me intensely uncomfortable feelings, but I was really at a loss for what else to do. Still, I took one step in the direction of eliminating punishment: I quit using time outs. ...more
playdatesonfridays  Thanks for taking it on board! You might be really interested to read the ... more

Why We Stopped Using Time Outs

I had started moving away from using punishments some time ago, for a combination of pragmatic and emotional reasons. Parenting-wise, 2013 was a difficult year for me, filled with intense sleep deprivation and a lot of mistakes (the two not being unrelated, obviously). It dawned on me slowly that time outs were not working to curb Miles’ aggressive behavior toward Julius, AND they were giving me intensely uncomfortable feelings, but I was really at a loss for what else to do. Still, I took one step in the direction of eliminating punishment: I quit using time outs. ...more
Kathleen Quiring  Thanks for the feedback! My 4 year old certainly doesn't always clean up his ... more

My Daughter Is Infatuated with Boobs

My youngest tries to cop a little feel. Until recently, she'd be sitting on my lap for a snuggle and before I knew it, she'd have her hand pulling down the front of my shirt to peek in, her fingers reaching in. Or during story time, her head nestled on my unsuspecting shoulder, she'd reach over and squeeze one. And then she'd laugh. A big, guttural guffaw. I'd gently take her hands away. Those are mommy's privates. I'd turn my head and she'd try again. I'd repeat myself. Those are mommy's privates. ...more
So relieved to hear this! My 4 year old boy lately is obsessed with my breasts as well and is ... more

Should We Stop Blaming Facebook for Our Unhappiness?

The Atlantic has released a few articles over the years about how Facebook affects our overall happiness, but recently, they suggested another way of looking at the situation: perhaps we need to stop blaming Facebook for our unhappiness.  In other words, we may be misusing Facebook and then blaming the site when our actions bring about our discontent. ...more
While I agree with what's written, I think there is a little more to it. The aspect of social ... more

Baby Blues, Postpartum Depression, or Just a Lack of Sleep?

When Alexander was 3-4 months old, I went through a period of feeling AMAZING. I was working out everyday. I was drinking water like a champ. I had energy. I was laughing when the pets did something silly. Kiddo wasn’t sleeping through the night, but I still felt like I was getting a good rest. I was incredibly happy with my life, and my place in it. I am not sure exactly when it changed (or if anything triggered it), but within a week I went from a million dollars to bankruptcy. ...more
It's great that you're seeking help - don't give up. I had a pretty rough first year with my ... more

I Just Want to Be Alone: Confessions of an Introverted Mom

I love my husband and daughter dearly, but sometimes the sights and sounds of them make me want to scream. I realized why yesterday: I am an introvert often forced to live as an extrovert. Sure, I can be a chatty Cathy with the best of them and even people who know me well would probably classify me as outgoing, but when push comes to shove, I’d rather curl up with a good book than do anything else in the world. So the other day, as I felt the weekend slipping through my fingertips and I began thinking of the busy week ahead, my irritation started brewing....more
Oh man, you are going to LOVE that book. I am an introverted parent too and it rocked my world. ... more

I'm Tired of Being a Mom

I was sure that motherhood was going to be so fulfilling. I mean, yeah, I knew it would be hard, but hard in a being-super-brave-through-tough-times-like-Florence-Nightingale sort of way, not hard in a grinding, miserable, I-hate-my-life way. Surely I would come out of those long, desperate, sleepless nights glowing with motherly love, just happy to have been able to offer my screaming child even a modicum of comfort. Surely I would be happy to sacrifice any and everything for my kid. Surely I would never, ever resent him....more
Sleep deprivation does terrible things to you - there is a reason it's used as a form of torture ... more

Is the War on Women Finally Over?

Last night, women delivered their own blunt message to the GOP: we were repelled by all your loose, ugly talk about abortion and rape. And that’s why we voted against you. ...more
I wish it were so, but I have to say, absolutely not. This battle was won, but it's probably ... more