Andrea Smith and Rachel Dolezal....Is Identity Really Important?

I have been a college student for many years.  Yes, I am a late bloomer.  I didn't start college until I was in my mid 40's.  Before that I did a 20 year military career, and after I retired, I ended up getting divorced, and being a single mom.  During those times of my life college was not much of a priority  One day a client at the Dermatology practice where I work came in and told me about the Post 911 GI Bill.  I didn't have any other GI bill because when I joined the military, it wasn't available to us.  (anyone remember the VEAP Program??)...more

How much Privilege do you really have?

 So I have been talking about privilege for many years.  I have gotten into arguments on Facebook and Twitter about privilege.  People almost always come back with (particularly white heterosexual males): "I am not privileged.  I have had to struggle"Ummmm, okay, so privilege is not about whether or not you have had to struggle in your life.  It is about how society in general perceiv...more

The Mystery of the Disappearing American Flags

We have really been going through some crap in the United States lately. Shootings, burned churches, overt racism on the rise, the fight over the Confederate flag, whose picture should be on our paper money, the increased strain on our natural resources, etc etc etc....more

Same Sex Marriage........Maybe not for me....

OK, so unless you have been living under a rock, you have heard the news that the Supreme Court of the United States, (aka SCOTUS) has struck down the ban on same sex marriage, and it is now legal in every state in the United States to get married if you are a same sex couple.  Interestingly, according to CNN, the US is the 21st country to make marriage legal for ALL citizens.  The Netherlands was the first country to end the exclusion of same-sex couples from marriage in 2001, when their Parliament voted 107-33 to eliminate discrimination from their marriage laws....more

How Should Parents Deal With Teenage Heartbreak?

My oldest bio kid is a moody person.  He alternates between sullen, annoyed and morose.  Every now and then, we have a rare glimpse of a smile.  Although I will say his mood has improved as he has gotten a little older.  He just graduated high school, and he seems happier. A little.........more

Is Sexual Orientation a choice?

We are all unique when we are born.  We have a unique genetic code that decides what color hair we will have, will it be straight or curly, how tall will we be, what our skin tone will be.  It tells us what color eyes we will have, hazel, green, brown or blue.   Our DNA decides if we will be born with all of our body parts and brains fully functioning, or if we are missing a chromosome, or piece of DNA it decides if we will have Down's Syndrome, or autism, or any myriad of genetic birth defects....more

Why do friendships break up?

I have been fortunate to have some amazing friends in my life.  I have also had the problem of having not so great friends in my life. But even worse is when a wonderful friend turns out not to be so wonderful.  Or maybe you are excited about a new friendship and see a promising future, and somehow, something happens that pulls the rug out from under you and you have a sudden realization that it just wasn't meant to be....more
I've had many friendship breakups in my life too. Some of them broke pretty spectacularly, ...more

How does it feel when your oldest child graduates from high school?

I have friends who have kids older than mine, heck even Karol's kids are older than mine.  Her kids graduated in 2011 and 2013.  I didn't attend Katarina's graduation, but I went to Brandon's.  I cried.  I cheered, I got emotional.  I was so happy for him, but in my experience there is a slight difference between the love for bio kids and step kids (at least in my experience), ...more

Step children vs. Biological children. Is the love different?

This is a topic that has been on my mind for a few years, but I have been very hesitant  to write about it.  Partly because the title may offend some people, and partly because it is a very touchy subject....more