Equality is NOT the same thing as Equity

I am a 50 (almost 51) year old woman and I am passionate about a lot of things, my family, the beach, good food and therefore working out, and equity. Notice I didn't say equality....more

Why this 50 year old woman plays Pokemon Go!

As soon as the Pokemon Go app launched I immediately downloaded it and began looking for Pokemon in my neighborhood when I walked my dog in the morning. I was so excited about catching Pokemon! However, when I shared my excitement with other adults I know I received comments such as:"What a waste of time." and "That is for kids." and "Really?" and some even laughed at me.There were a few adults who were joining in the festivities as well, and with them I talked about what we had caught, and where, and which Team we were on....more
Denise I just saw this comment. I had a Pikachu before my partner did as well and I was afraid ...more

Anti Racism vs Non Racism

So this morning as I was scrolling through my Face Book feed. (I actually set a timer and give myself 15 minutes of guilt free scroll time before I begin my day). One of my friend had posted a video made by The Guardian that addressed the difference between Non-Racism and Anti-Racism. It made me think. A lot! So I wanted to write about Anti Racism vs Non Racism....more
Excellent piece.  Congratulations on providing an "anti-racist" piece that teaches us a little ...more

What I did about "Openly Gay Leaders" in my Boy Scout Troop

Last Monday night this happened:And this:...more

How Old Dominion University Responded to My Questions About Fraternity Rape Culture

It would be illegal for ODU to kick these kids out, even if it is against university policy.  If ...more

Andrea Smith and Rachel Dolezal....Is Identity Really Important?

I have been a college student for many years.  Yes, I am a late bloomer.  I didn't start college until I was in my mid 40's.  Before that I did a 20 year military career, and after I retired, I ended up getting divorced, and being a single mom.  During those times of my life college was not much of a priority  One day a client at the Dermatology practice where I work came in and told me about the Post 911 GI Bill.  I didn't have any other GI bill because when I joined the military, it wasn't available to us.  (anyone remember the VEAP Program??)...more

How much Privilege do you really have?

 So I have been talking about privilege for many years.  I have gotten into arguments on Facebook and Twitter about privilege.  People almost always come back with (particularly white heterosexual males): "I am not privileged.  I have had to struggle"Ummmm, okay, so privilege is not about whether or not you have had to struggle in your life.  It is about how society in general perceiv...more

The Mystery of the Disappearing American Flags

We have really been going through some crap in the United States lately. Shootings, burned churches, overt racism on the rise, the fight over the Confederate flag, whose picture should be on our paper money, the increased strain on our natural resources, etc etc etc....more

Same Sex Marriage........Maybe not for me....

OK, so unless you have been living under a rock, you have heard the news that the Supreme Court of the United States, (aka SCOTUS) has struck down the ban on same sex marriage, and it is now legal in every state in the United States to get married if you are a same sex couple.  Interestingly, according to CNN, the US is the 21st country to make marriage legal for ALL citizens.  The Netherlands was the first country to end the exclusion of same-sex couples from marriage in 2001, when their Parliament voted 107-33 to eliminate discrimination from their marriage laws....more

How Should Parents Deal With Teenage Heartbreak?

My oldest bio kid is a moody person.  He alternates between sullen, annoyed and morose.  Every now and then, we have a rare glimpse of a smile.  Although I will say his mood has improved as he has gotten a little older.  He just graduated high school, and he seems happier. A little.........more