Is My Willpower Challenge Over Now?

When we first starting talking about Kelly McGonigal's book The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do To Get More of It, I was intrigued but I wasn't sure how I'd feel about actually doing my willpower challenge. What would I learn? Would be be scary? What if I failed? Well, I've learned and I've struggled. Does that mean I'm done now? ...more
I've learned that I need to pick my battles. :) Sometimes I wonder if I just give up too easily ... more

Discovering My Challenge Within My Willpower Challenge

I have to say that my willpower challenge is still going well. If I learned anything at all from Kelly McGonigal's The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do To Get More of It it's that paying attention to why you are -- or are not -- doing something is really important....more
I don't know if I DO hit my reset button. :( If I get off track, it can be tough to get back in ... more

What I've Learned (So Far) From My Willpower Challenge

I was scared when I announced my willpower challenge last week. While I totally understood why Kelly McGonigal suggests that you do one while reading her book, The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do To Get More of It, I was wary. I was concerned not only about what I might learn about myself -- what if none of the strategies worked?...more
I've discovered a lot of the same things you have, Karen. I sit too long, and then when I hit a ... more

What Is Your Willpower Challenge?

In her new book The Willpower Instinct: How Self-Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do To Get More of It Kelly McGonigal, Ph.D., suggests the best way to learn about the self-control methods she discusses is to take a willpower challenge. I hesitated. I am not big on resolutions, perhaps because I never stick with them. I was also intrigued because her book offered me some new perspective on willpower and self-control. ...more
What ISN'T my wilpower challenge? Food and exercise are my two biggies. I do a good job for a ... more

Using Texts To Strengthen Your Relationship

I firmly believe that technology had changed how we do relationships. When we are apart from our loved ones we don't just have to rely on phone calls and letters. We have emails, social media, and yes, even text messages at our disposal as a means to communicate. Sometimes it's easier to put our thoughts out via text than it is in person, as Sophie Morgan discovered in Diary of a Submissive:...more
I don't mind texting, but the husband hasn't quite grasped how to use his phone to text ... more

Using the Internet to Find Your Community

The process of finding your community has changed a lot since the internet came into being. It used to be that we'd have to head out in our actual physical community and attempt to find the people with the same interests as us. Sometimes it worked, sometimes it didn't. If it didn't work, you could feel very isolated. When the internet came along, we could find and connect with people that shared those interests from all around the world....more
Thanks to the internet, I've found several great online communities, including the great ... more

Where Do You Find Confidence?

Confidence takes many forms. We can have confidence in our abilities. We can have confidence in our personal relationships. Most of all, we can have confidence in ourselves. In Diary of a Submissive, Sophie Morgan shares her story about how she found the confidence to not only take what life threw at her, but also to seek the things she really wanted in life. ...more
I try to be confident all the time, but sometimes, self-doubt creep in and attempts to take ... more

Where Do You Find Inspiration?

One of the things that I appreciate about Julia Cameron's new My Artist's Way Toolkit is how she's forcing me to pay attention. Yes, my morning pages may be a to do list most days (and yes, I still suck at them) but maybe one out of five days I'll find myself writing out a really good idea. I may not write down a single word after an Artist's Date but during it I'll be observing the things around me. Inspiration can happen anywhere. ...more
Everywhere! Watchng my grandchildren, viewing the sunset against the Nebraska Sandhills as an ... more

Lessons Learned from Weekly Writing Exercises

Weekly writing exercises aren't quite as difficult for me as daily morning pages, but I'll admit that I still struggle with them. Yet I still find myself thinking about the writing prompts in Julia Cameron's My Artist's Way Toolkit, even if I don't put a pen to paper. I'm not always good at putting my thoughts down but these exercises are still teaching me some important lessons....more
It's funny.  I write daily - as a journalist, but tackling those morning pages is difficult! I ... more

Do You Ever Go On Dates - By Yourself?

While it's true that I suck at morning pages, it's equally true that I love ...more
Sure, I go on an artist's date all the time. Sometimes, it's just a walk to clear my mind. ... more