Schwarzenegger, The Good Wife, and Other Stories of Betrayal

News of former California Gov. Arnold Schwarzenegger's split with Maria Shriver after 25 years of marriage shocked us last week. Now the other shoe drops, Schwarzenegger admits he fathered a child with a longtime member of household staff over ten years ago....more

My ex husband left me after 20 years of marriage. He worked with the other woman and I long ... more

Ending a Marriage: Standing on My Own Two Feet

She asked him to go to counseling with her, he wouldn't. She asked him to stop drinking, he said he doesn't have a problem. She asked him to help with dinner and laundry since she's working full-time and going to school full-time and he told her that's why he got married. She is sick and tired of it and she is way past sick and tired of being miserable all the time. So she said good bye. And this time, she meant it. ...more

Natalie,
Thanks for sharing your story. Ending a marriage is, of course, life-altering. Your ... more

Is it just me or does everything seem to be moving in slow-motion?

Is it just me or does everything seem to be moving in slow-motion? ...more

I'm definitely in slo-mo. I think it's b/c it's Cinco de Mayo & the 'hood's Mexican rest has ... more

To My Son On Our College Road Trip: Thank You!

We, like thousands of other hopefuls, spent spring break on a college tour. We left sunny Californian to travel up and down the east coast. We started in Boston where the temperature was a lofty 38 degrees. Drove to New Hampshire where the temperature dropped to 30 degrees (this does not include wind chill) and then headed down through Connecticut, New York, and finally Pennsylvania where the blinding rain convinced him UPenn was not an option. ...more

Lisen,
Thanks for the kind words. If it gets tough, you're welcome to contact me. Would enjoy ... more

Jennifer Egan Wins Pulitzer Prize, Commits Girl-on-Girl Crime

When I found out that Jennifer Egan won the Pulitzer Prize for her novel, A Visit from the Goon Squad, I was thrilled. Girl power! That lasted about two minutes until someone pointed me to a Wall Street Journal post in which she calls chick-lit genre writing banal and derivative and that her advice to young writers is to aim higher. Oh goody, some literary girl-on-girl crime. ...more

Judging someone based on their choice of reading material is as banal and arrogant as judging ... more

Not Angry at Him Anymore

When I sat across the courtroom table facing my ex husband and his shiny new wife, I couldn’t help but think that I felt nothing. I wasn’t angry anymore. I wasn’t scared.; I tried to remember what it was like to be married to him, and I drew a blank. ...more

Lee,
I am almost through writing my post about no longer hating my ex. It is empowering to let ... more

To My Son On Our College Road Trip: Thank You!

We, like thousands of other hopefuls, spent spring break on a college tour. We left sunny Californian to travel up and down the east coast. We started in Boston where the temperature was a lofty 38 degrees. Drove to New Hampshire where the temperature dropped to 30 degrees (this does not include wind chill) and then headed down through Connecticut, New York, and finally Pennsylvania where the blinding rain convinced him UPenn was not an option. ...more

Lisen,
Letting go of both my boys when they went to college may have been the hardest thing ... more

Throw Sunshine On Their Parade

Has this ever happened to you?  You get a new idea.  You're all excited.  You share your idea with someone near and dear to you and you hear, "Oh, that will never work," or "I knew someone who tried that once and it was a complete disaster." ...more

Barbara,
Your timing on this is interesting. I had dinner with three women last night and we ... more

My Husband Likes My Fat

Every time I wear leggings, he expresses his dislike for them. I, of course, take this to mean that he thinks I look fat in them. Because why else would a man not like skin tight clothing on his wife? I convince myself the anesthesia-school-fat has gotten so bad, he now pities me. Only, he can’t bring himself to tell me I’ve been prancing around town for the past few months with legs that look like I cook my pancakes in bacon grease. ...more

When I spoon with my fiance he rubs my tummy and tells me he loves it even though it's a two ... more

To Sex or Not To Sex

As I’m writing this, I’m a little amused that my girlfriends and I are still discussing when to have sex with a new guy. But the other night, I had a long conversation with a good friend who was near tears because the man she slept with a couple of weeks ago has not called since. Yep, at this age we’re still having this conversation. ...more

I think you're right. If you give in too soon there's nothing to anticipate if you want to make ... more