I Followed Princeton Mom's "Marry Smart" Advice and It Was The Dumbest Thing I Ever Did

“Princeton Mom” Susan Patton’s new book Marry Smart offers dumb advice for women. ...more
Thank you so much for sharing your story, Pauline. I am frankly not a fan of her advice or ...more

If My Boss Hadn’t Been a Single Mom, I Would Be Toast

I have one full-time job, two kids, zero husbands, and no child support. This post is part of BlogHer's Women @ Work editorial series, made possible by AFL-CIO. ...more
Your boss is an angel in disguise. Stay encouraged.more

In Defense of Non-Custodial Mothers

Recently, The Huffington Post ran an article that featured a mother's regret for leaving her children with their father post-divorce. She explained that the divorce left her feeling emotionally and psychologically fragile and she chose to live with relatives for a few years in order to regroup. She went on to explain that she regretted the decision, but it was the best one she had at time. ...more
pauline kayadlington  As much as you are claiming to dislike people who are judgemental, I find ...more

Experiencing "Are You There, God?" with My Tween -- for the First Time

When I was on the precipice of puberty, all the girls in my class were reading Judy Blume's Are You There God? It's Me, Margaret. Except for me. My mother was 44 when I was born, ancient for that era. She was raised in the South, the daughter of Presbyterian missionaries. By contrast, I grew up in the Ice Storm70s. Parents were swapping car keys at parties, smoking weed with their kids, divorcing to "find" themselves and parading a series of lovers in front of their children. So the fact that my mother deemed Are You There God? It's Me, Margaret too racy for me to read made me feel freakish. So when my daughter and I were browsing through a bookstore recently, and happened upon Are You There, God? It's Me Margaret, I bought it so she and I could read it together -- both for the first time....more
You're NOT letting your daughter shave her legs, even though she wants to? Why?more

The Real Problem with Divorce

Last weekend there was a New York Times Modern Love essay in which a woman describes the impact of her decision to divorce, and her parents' multiple divorces, on her...more

I Used to Have Ann Romney's Life. I Had Privilege.

Note: This piece was fueled by exasperation and inspired by two excellent blogs posts -- by Grace Hwang Lynch and Pamela Kripke -- that urge those who "got privilege" to name it. I used to have Ann Romney's life. The first time around I married into a family that was rich. Romney Rich....more
 @prayerperspectivesfortoday I am not jealous of Mitt Romney nor his wealth. I am saddened by ...more

Raising My Daughter Not to Make the Same Dumb Mistake I Made

My daughter Franny, who turns ten this month, has just started working as a Mother's Helper one afternoon a week after school. She works for a SAHM who needs a couple hours of sanity. She folds laundry and sweeps. She plays with two-year-old Juniper, pushing her on the swing, dressing doll babies, having tea parties."I helped Juniper go to the bathroom," Franny told me proudly. "I wiped her butt. Don't worry, I washed my hands afterward."...more

Is Your Blog Stalked by Trolls? Here's Why

I belong to a group of mom bloggers and it is not uncommon for one of us to Facebook the rest of us and ask for "nice comments" on a post to offset the vitriol being vomited upon the comment section by trolls. Not sure what trolls are? They're those shadowy internet lurkers who visit blogs seemingly with the sole intention of shredding the blogger. They take issue with the content, the POV, the writing style, sometimes even the gender of the writer....more
wqbelle Just read the article. Pretty much what I've assumed about trolls all along. ...more

Why I Gave My 9-Year-Old a Cell Phone

I swore I wouldn't give my daughter Franny a cell phone until she was thirteen. And whenever my nine-year-old asked, as she had been doing more frequently, "Mom, when can I have a cell phone?" this is what I told her. There were a few reasons why I thought 13 was the magic cell phone number. She'd be responsible enough not to lose it. She'd be old enough to coordinate her own social plans. Her dad got her brother an iPhone when he was thirteen and I wanted to be fair....more
The vast majority of times that I had to choose between erring on the side of trust or caution, ...more

How to Succeed in Mommy Blogging: Sex, Cursing, and Vaginas

Recently I attended a lovely Ladies Who Blog luncheon with other mommy bloggers whose ambitions ran the gamut from "I'm just doing this so I don't go crazy being a full-time mom" to "my agent is packaging me for a web series." The idea behind the gathering was to pry us away from our laptops so we could interact with real live women who write the blogs, trade ideas, and offer support. General networking stuff....more
Great post! After reading this, I think I don't share ENOUGH. I aim to make my site more of a ...more