To the Duggar Naysayers: Have You Visited an Orphanage?

I would put my money on the fact that ninety-nine percent of the naysayers and the ones slamming a good, honest, hard-working, larger-than-normal American family that is open to expanding their family through the blessing of adoption have never, ever set foot in a foreign orphanage. Have they ever seen children lying in their own waste for most of the day? Have they ever heard the cries of a little one who goes unnoticed by caregivers? ...more
Adoption is about building a family (whether international or domestic) not to save a child. I ... more

Attachment Parenting, Sex, and Marriage

Brian requested that I write a post about sex because it bugs him that the majority of society doesn’t understand “attachment parenting” and makes assumptions about the sex lives of the parents who practice this style of parenting....more
@LizaWrites I'm going to disagree with you because the majority of people I know don't follow ... more

Would You Have More Kids If...

The question all parents face at one point or another -- should we have more children -- is often more complicated than outsiders realize. Over at The Fragile X Files, Bonnie wrote about a discussion on Facebook as to whether parents should have more children if they are carriers of the Fragile X gene. After discussing odds (50/50? really?), Bonnie launches into her own "data" that she has "collected" after having twins with Fragile X and how that would shape her decision. Have you ever felt, Fragile X or not, that the decision to have more children was stripped from you? ...more
I think it is up to each couple to make that decision. There is no blanketed right or wrong ... more

When Parents Think They Can Go on Vacation

When is it ok to leave little kids and go on a long vacation -- a 17-month old baby, a 2-year old, a 4-year old and a 6-year old -- for 9 days?  And I am not talking about leaving your kids with grandparents when it is a necessity; I'm talking about leaving young children with a caretaker with whom they have no relationship when you have a choice.  According to "Early Childhood Today," young children do not understand the concept of "time" -- that mommy and daddy will be back in nine days....more
I don't agree with this. Let's let the parents parent the way they know is best for their ... more

10 Things Breastfeeding Advocates Need To Stop Saying

Editor's note: Today, BlogHer Publishing Network member Jamie Lynne Grumet of I Am Not The Babysitter bravely appeared on the cover ofTIME -- breastfeeding her three-year-old, under the headline "Are You MOM Enough?" The cover is generating quite a bit of controversy: It's shown up on Forbes under the title "Will TIME's Breastfeeding Cover Be Bad for Business? and on Politico as TIME Magazine's Provocative New Cover, to name a couple. Recently, Jamie wrote the below post for BlogHer -- a smart take by an attachment parenting and breastfeeding advocate challenging some of the behaviors she sees. Read her post, take a look at the TIME cover that's causing all the controversy, and let us know in the comments: What do you think? -- Julie One of the main reasons breastfeeding advocates are negatively judged by the mainstream media is their attack on formula feeding mothers as part of their defense. This really angers me, because I feel that some breastfeeding mothers are aiding in the attack and judgment of my family (a family that practices extended breastfeeding) through their malicious statements directed at formula feeding mothers. Photo Credit: Author. Here are 10 phrases all breastfeeding advocates should just stop saying:...more
 @Stacy Morrison Thanks Stacy for helping explain the confusion. I find it interesting that ... more

Don't Get Raped in Oklahoma

[My father was a doctor. He also was from Oklahoma and a staunch conservative. But he never confused his medical practice and his ethical training as a physician with his political beliefs. Sadly, that’s not the case in Oklahoma today, where an emergency room doctor refused to give a rape victim treatment. Annie-Rose Strasser at ThinkProgress has the infuriating details.--Mona] ...more
 @Mona Gable no offense, but I really dislike that comparison. The HIV/AIDS community has been ... more

Disneynature's Chimpanzee- Great Breastfeeding Message For Kids and Adults

Brian and I took the kids to see Disneynature’s Chimpanzee on opening day.  It’s really no surprise we loved it. We knew it was going to show the story of a dominant male adopting an orphaned chimp, and it was truly beautiful. What I was surprised about was how eloquently the documentary covered the topic of breastfeeding. Oscar, the three-year-old chimpanzee was shown breastfeeding throughout the day. The narrator explained that Oscar eats solid food, but is not nearly to the age of weaning....more
@LifeOptimist Right- most people prefer Full-term. However the word extended has now become ... more

Black Woman Body Cake: White Privilege Swedish Style (Video)

The National Afro-Swedish Association is demanding that Sweden's minister of culture Lena Adelsohn Liljeroth be fired for participating in an April 15th World Art Day celebration during which she ate a piece of cake. The problem is not that she ate cake; the problem is the kind of cake she ate. The video in this post that was filmed at the art installation is one of the most disturbing things I have ever seen. ...more
 @blightedkarma I never said it was an "African practice" I said it is depicting African female ... more

Unexpected Racism Against Transracial Families

[Editor's Note: Snide comments and disapproving looks are things mixed-race families will run into sooner or later. But when Jamie from I'm Not the Babysitter adopted her black son, she anticipated disapproval from other Caucasian people. Not the case. It turns out, the stares and comments come from people of all races. And she writes that it's the disapproval of black people that gets to her the most. --Grace]...more
 @PamPinckard We live in California, which for the most part is extremely respectful. We've ... more

Black Woman Body Cake: White Privilege Swedish Style (Video)

The National Afro-Swedish Association is demanding that Sweden's minister of culture Lena Adelsohn Liljeroth be fired for participating in an April 15th World Art Day celebration during which she ate a piece of cake. The problem is not that she ate cake; the problem is the kind of cake she ate. The video in this post that was filmed at the art installation is one of the most disturbing things I have ever seen. ...more
I was frozen with shock when I first saw this. I really do not understand why ANYONE would think ... more