Be Good to Your Server: She Could Have Been Me

Working at night is not for the faint of heart. It's heartbreaking to miss bedtimes, homework, and football practices. For two years, I watched my baby all day, and when my big kids came home from school, I had to put on the apron and rush out the door to my waitress job. ...more
I totally feel this. I just started waitressing again for the first time since my daughter was ... more

NaBloPoMo Soup: Add Your January Posts

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Hi all! I've been really enjoying the posts I've found here and all the great new to me ... more

NaBloPoMo Soup: Add Your January Posts

You have posts and we want to read them. This is a way for people to post a link to their daily January NaBloPoMo posts that they publish on their personal blogs. Please use the linky feature below daily to add your post, and peruse the ones already entered in order to find great things to read as well as support your fellow NaBloPoMo'ers. Bookmark this post so you can use it all month. ...more
I saw the new Evil Dead trailer today, and I think you should watch it, ... more

NaBloPoMo Soup: Add Your January Posts

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Hey all, I'm excited to share today's post because I'm talking about the #onelittleword 2013 ... more

NaBloPoMo Soup: Add Your January Posts

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Wow, lots of people participating this month! Here's my first post of the year, on being mindful ... more

Forgiving Myself for How I Got Here

I will not claim or embrace this body. It is not the way that I want it to be. But it is time to forgive myself for how I got here. A round stomach that stretched with three babies from the inside out. Thick arms that surrounded those babies with all of the warmth and protection that I could physically muster. And then some. And full legs that swayed many-a-sleepless-night to soothe their sweet souls to sleep. These thoughts are fluid, easy to accept as the battle wounds of motherhood. ...more
That's good to hear during a time when I really think punishing myself, rather forgiving myself, ... more

I've Been Lying to Myself: My Child Is Spoiled

"I think we're spoiling her," he replied. "She never asks for anything because she doesn't know what it's like not to have everything." When my mother-in-law was visiting us last August, she looked around E's room with a mixture of wonder and confusion. "When I was a kid, we were so poor we had nothing...just one doll, one puzzle, one book. I can't imagine what it's like to grow up with all this stuff." I looked around at the bins of stuffed animals, the giant bookcase stuffed with books, the cabinets full of blocks and puzzles and crayons and games. It hadn't seemed excessive to me before. It was just what she had. It was what every kid we knew had....more
This is hard for me, too. I don't make or have much money, and yet I am forever giving in to ... more

Autism Is No Excuse? Really?

Honestly, I don't give a fig about strangers judging how I parent my autistic son. I know I'm doing my best with all three of my kids, and am also constantly learning from my mistakes. Plus Leo has the same right to be in public as anyone, as long as (like anyone) he's not being disruptive. If he's having a hard time, there's always a good reason, and we move on. What I do care about is how strangers respond when Leo needs accommodation. And last month, when I reluctantly pulled out the autism card to ask if Leo could jump the queue for a public restroom, a stranger lectured me on how autism did not justify my request, and that furthermore I was teaching my son bad behavior by asking for special treatment. Yeah. How's that autism awareness working for you? ...more
 @Shannon Des Roches Rosa Hah! That's not usually what I'm here for, but I couldn't help myself. more

Autism Is No Excuse? Really?

Honestly, I don't give a fig about strangers judging how I parent my autistic son. I know I'm doing my best with all three of my kids, and am also constantly learning from my mistakes. Plus Leo has the same right to be in public as anyone, as long as (like anyone) he's not being disruptive. If he's having a hard time, there's always a good reason, and we move on. What I do care about is how strangers respond when Leo needs accommodation. And last month, when I reluctantly pulled out the autism card to ask if Leo could jump the queue for a public restroom, a stranger lectured me on how autism did not justify my request, and that furthermore I was teaching my son bad behavior by asking for special treatment. Yeah. How's that autism awareness working for you? ...more
 @Shannon Des Roches Rosa  Thanks, Shannon! more

Autism Is No Excuse? Really?

Honestly, I don't give a fig about strangers judging how I parent my autistic son. I know I'm doing my best with all three of my kids, and am also constantly learning from my mistakes. Plus Leo has the same right to be in public as anyone, as long as (like anyone) he's not being disruptive. If he's having a hard time, there's always a good reason, and we move on. What I do care about is how strangers respond when Leo needs accommodation. And last month, when I reluctantly pulled out the autism card to ask if Leo could jump the queue for a public restroom, a stranger lectured me on how autism did not justify my request, and that furthermore I was teaching my son bad behavior by asking for special treatment. Yeah. How's that autism awareness working for you? ...more
 @xina143 Dude, chillax. And don't be sad. more