8 Years of Blogging Taught Me Something About Getting Through Blogger Burnout

Yes, blogger burnout was recently an article in the New York Times, but before it hit mainstream media, I was already seeing post after post about people who had hit a wall with blogging. Capricious Reader asked how we solve a problem like blogger burnout. Estella's Revenge explained that she's not just in a reading slump; she's bored with book blogging. And Bookfoolery not only talked about the future of her blog, but pointed out others who are talking about this very same thing: blogger burnout. ...more
I think it's important for people to know, like anything, it gets better with age. It takes a ... more

My Memories of Traveling While Black

As a child, we had very interesting travel arrangements. In the 1970s and 80s our family—from mixed race parents—would travel separately at times. We either went down South to visit my father's side of the family in New Orleans, or we drove up North to South Dakota to visit my mother's family. There were summers where my older sister and I would drive the 13 hours from Chicago with our father and stay with his sister for what seemed to be an eternity. Having grown up in a diverse area of Chicago made our visits there seem pointed. ...more
I've actually written a post here about being mistaken for the nanny. My mother was constantly ... more

Think Twice Before Renting a Car Seat on Vacation

You've done all the planning and spending, and you're finally embarking on a much-needed family vacation. You've even reserved a rental car with a car seat for baby, so that you don't have to lug yours. So smart! Unless it's not, of course. While rental car companies offer infant and toddler car seats as an "added convenience" (and at an additional charge, of course), it turns out that the reality may be worse than you could've possibly imagined. ...more
I've traveled quite a bit with my little one and I much prefer renting a car seat upon arrival, ... more

How Kate Winslet Taught Me I'm Not Showing My Daughters the Right Things About Body Image

Recently, I’ve started to see my daughters’ bodies changing. Not quite puberty yet, but a little rounder here, a little curvier there. Yep, it’s almost time to have “the talks” in my house. I’ve done my best to protect their body images. I never talk about diet, although they rarely see me eat bread or pasta (seriously, goes right to my hips), try not to complain (to them) about the wrinkles and sags, and never complain when my jeans feel too tight. ...more
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This week has been difficult. I found out Monday via a sonogram that I had miscarried for the second time in less than a year. Approaching 40 and still have no children makes this even more heart breaking than last time. Today I took back all the maternity clothes that I bought last week.  I never said a word to the cashier about why I was returning  the clothes. She simply returned my items and then walked around the register and gave me a big hug. I guess it was written on my face....more
The anniversary of my first miscarriage is May 8, just before Mother's Day. It was 2007. I had ... more

Coping with Life While Struggling with Anxiety

Have you ever started out your day normally, woke up, made breakfast, kissed your husband and child, felt all the happiness in the world and then BAM!… are overtaken by a wave of indescribable fear? Your heart starts pounding, heat rushes quickly across your face, your extremities start tingling. You get dizzy, can’t form a single rational thought and no one around you understands. I have. Many of you might not know this about me, but I suffer from chronic anxiety. ...more
I hope I read you correctly and that you're simply using a metaphor when it comes to using your ... more

I Was Racially Profiled and This is What I Did

This morning, after I dropped the girls off at school, I donned my mom uniform (jeans, t-shirt, flip-flops, purse and sunglasses) and went out to run some errands. I needed to get them done and get home before noon because this weekend has the potential to be just ridiculously crazy-busy. I need to get prepared. So, off I went.       ...more
Lisa Owen Handled like a champ. I need to find a way to encapsulate your eloquence and keep you ... more

Life After Weight-Loss Surgery: A New Series

In June 2011, I had weight loss surgery to aid in my journey towards losing half of my body weight. Having peaked at 406lbs in college (maybe more, but that was the last recorded weight I knew), I was morbidly obese and at risk for serious long-term health problems. When I was diagnosed with Type II Diabetes at age 23, I did what I could to try to lose weight, but my efforts did not pay off long-term; my issues with food and emotional eating were beyond simply going to the gym and "eating right"....more
I think it's great for you to share your experience with others. I think it will help people ... more

What You Don't Know About Your Partner Can Hurt You

There are often discussions during which people bring up other people’s sexual histories and past relationships, usually as a way to measure others’ worth or values as potential partners. Many of these discussions are usually centered around women’s past behaviors, choices, and whether or not their engagement in certain sexual activities or types of relationships make them “quality women” or “marriage material”....more
To add to the allergy one: someone with a deadly food allergy can have an attack being exposed ... more

Do You Feel Safe as a Woman Riding Mass Transit?

Do you consider yourself safe when you ride mass transit? A recent article in The Atlantic indicates how women's safety in public transit may have more to do with financial access than the the hour a person waits for a ride home. Image Credit: Metropolitan Transportation Authority of the State of New York, via Flickr...more
My experience with women-only train cars in China and Japan was that men also went into them, ... more