Plan B Parenting

In no other area of my life have I found myself as deeply vulnerable than as a parent. And that's why -- when my daughter was very young -- if you judged my parenting, I would jump down your throat. Then I would go home and cry and Google parenting websites and hold myself accountable for my daughter's milestone progress, her sleep habits, my mood, her nutrition and the state of foreign wars....more
This section of the book really hit home with me as well since I'm in the trenches of early ... more

Vulnerability and Shame in the Workplace

As we've discussed, feeling vulnerable is hard and frequently scary. The vulnerability hangover? It sucks. When I was reading Daring Greatly I was very wary of what Brene Brown was going to say about vulnerability in the workplace. It's a mixed bag for me. There are workplace environments where I've felt pretty darned comfortable with vulnerability and others where I avoided it like the plague. To my surprise, I found myself nodding right along with a lot of what Brown had to say about being vulnerable at work. ...more
I've thought a lot about this as a teacher.  I have to allow my students to feel safe enough to ... more

The Vulnerability Hangover

In Brene Brown's Daring Greatly, she talks about what happens after you allow yourself to be vulnerable. She says, with a little help from Leonard Cohen, "often the result of daring greatly isn't a victory march as much as it is a quiet sense of freedom mixed with a little battle fatigue." She sometimes refers to this as the vulnerability hangover. ...more
This happens to me every year when I have my classroom observations by my principal.  I prep, ... more

The Repercussions of Unanticipated Acts

Sometimes the things that stick with me from a book are the little things -- the throwaway comments and observations that on the surface really don't have a lot to do with the story being told. Yes, I can be a bit random and it's only fitting that one of the things that is sticking with me from Jeffrey Zaslow's The Magic Room: A Story About the Love We Wish for Our Daughters really has nothing to do with wedding gowns, marriage or even love. I am talking about unanticipated acts. ...more
It's interesting how almost everyone has positive associations with this idea. What struck me ... more

The Love We Wish For Our Sons

Jeffrey Zaslow wrote The Magic Room: A Story About the Love We Wish for Our Daughters because he has three daughters whom he loves very much. He is an involved parent who cares so much that his daughters know this that he wrote this book and dedicated it to them. I have nothing but respect for that, but at the same time I have to wonder -- what about the love we wish for our sons?...more
In our culture, woman are still traditionally responsible for party-planning, whether it's a ... more

Is Marriage Obsolete?

In Jeffrey Zaslow's The Magic Room: A Story About the Love We Wish for Our Daughters, he talks about a lot of different aspects of marriage. Why people marry. What people think of marriage. He peppers the book with statistics. One I was surprised he brought up was the idea that some people believe marriage is becoming obsolete. ...more
I think marriage is changing, but I think that it will be a long time before it is obsolete. ... more

Have You Been to the Magic Room?

The big moments in Jeffrey Zaslow's The Magic Room: A Story About the Love We Wish for Our Daughters might remind you a bit of an episode of Say Yes to the Dress. The bride enters a special room with what she hopes is the dress that she will wear at her wedding. When the dress is right, it's a powerful moment. One that I have not experienced. ...more
@sassymonkey That's funny you should mention it, because I was horrified by them! So much work ... more

Have You Been to the Magic Room?

The big moments in Jeffrey Zaslow's The Magic Room: A Story About the Love We Wish for Our Daughters might remind you a bit of an episode of Say Yes to the Dress. The bride enters a special room with what she hopes is the dress that she will wear at her wedding. When the dress is right, it's a powerful moment. One that I have not experienced. ...more
I didn't love shopping for my dress, but I did have a magic moment at the last fitting, and ... more

Finding Love Through Animal Rescue

While I'm probably more of a cat person than a dog person, I found much to appreciate in Julie Klam's Love at First Bark: How Saving a Dog Can Sometimes Help You Save Yourself. Giving rescued animals a forever home is something that is near and dear to me. While not all the animals in my life have come from a shelter, they've all been rescues. ...more
Both of my cats are rescues (one from a shelter, one from an aunt's backyard), and my husband ... more

What Happens When I'm The Mother-in-Law?

Everyone has an in-law story of some sort or another: They're awful! They criticize everything we do. They're wonderful! They babysit every Saturday night. As for me, my in-law story is that I got to keep my mother-in-law in my divorce. (Lucky me! My son and I both adore her.) Well, when Jessica from Team Rasler realized that, as the mother of two sons, someday she is the one who will be the mother-in-law. So she came up with a plan: to make a list of the traits that make a good daughter-in-law, the kind of daughter-in-law Jessica hopes to have herself, someday. Check it out:...more
It sounds like you are well on your way to a good relationship with your future daughter-in-law ... more
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